So, would this be rude?

[here4now]

I have been reading reviews on here and before on aspd and one thing that seems to happen quite often is that the girl we are expecting to meet is not at all what we have seen in their ads. Now, some guys walk away while others seem to feel that after all the time and effort spent to make the date they will go through with it anyway. My questions is, would it be rude to tell the provider up front, on the phone, that if she does not look exactly like the pictures in her ad then we feel no obligation to go in and proceed any further? Would this deter them from posting fake pics? I don't know. Secondly we could also say that if they did not provide the service as promised once we entered and started the session, then we would end the session at that point and pay for the time we spent to that point. It can easily be broken up into 15 minute increments where $200 is $50 per 15 minutes and so on. If we leave within the 15 minute window then we pay $50. Now, this would be provided that we don't cum at any time during the session. To me, if you have stuck it out that far then you should pay full price no matter what the time spent. It just seems that we need to take more of a stance against false advertising and stand up to those who do it. The ones that do it believe, and usually rightly so, that the little head is simply going to overpower the big head and the session is going to take place no matter what. Whether they see us again or not is of no importance. I say we let them know up front that we expect to get what we see and obtain the service promised or we will walk away and they will be out their full pay and the time that was spent attempting to scam us.

[traumarush]

Personally, no I don't think it's rude at all. It's interesting that you posted this, because I was considering asking the same basic question. I think the only way to counter these tactics is to just not tolerate it. Either tell them up front like you suggested or do like some of the other guys and do a 180 if who opens the door isn't who was depicted in the photo.

[DallasRain]

My S O said......and I agree ....If you arrive and the person who opens the door is not what you expected.....or even close....you should leave!

quote--. My questions is, would it be rude to tell the provider up front, on the phone, that if she does not look exactly like the pictures in her ad then we feel no obligation to go in and proceed any further?

I would say NO....because even if she is going to be what you expect,she will already have preconceieved visions of you being an "ass" ...and not set the call anyways

{and that will eventually get spread around and tarnish YOUR reputation,making it difficult in getting a provider to see you}

[April Showers]

I agree, if she's not who/what she promises when you arrive you should leave... just don't warn her ahead of time.

If she's a scammer it doesn't matter what you tell her over the phone... she's still gonna say whatever it takes to get you to the door and now,being forewarned, she knows that she may need to have some muscle on standby to convince you to stay.

On BP you are rolling the dice hoping to be a winner but there are some things you can do that can help ensure a good lay..... get tineye and check pic's, get premium access here on eccie and do your research, check for reviews on all boards, etc.

[Outdoorsman]

here4now, I have seen this topic being raised several times lately in various threads and reviews. IMHO no one, nor no group can control the market place. If a girl desires to do bait and switch, that is her issue, all I can control is how I react. Will me doing a 180 stop the activity prolly not, but I get to go home with my money in my pocket and a good feeling knowing I did not pay for something I did not want. That is all I can do and I chose not to get upset or frustrated over her issue of attmepting to bait and switch me, I have enough issues I do not need to waste my time figuring out how to correct hers. Because in the long run nothing I can do to stop her, not saying on the phone "I will walk if it is not you" not doing 180s, nothing.

I go home and call an ATF, disappointing yes, but that's life. I cannot control what other people do, I can only control how I react to it. It is that simple for me. I like being at peace with myself so I chose not to let it bother me, just me. Life is too good to get caught up in how some ladies advertise, for me.

[naughtynatale]

I agree if she is already a con telling her up front is not a good idea. If it is bait and switch turn around and leave.

[DallasRain]

I always say "go with your gut feeling"..

[Nicolet]

I agree with everyone, WALK AWAY........ you are not obligated to say a word!

[here4now]

I was expecting just what Dallas said in her first reply about being conceived as an ass. But, the ladies and gentlemen on this site know the score of the con games going around and I would hope that the ladies would understand that being asked that question is as legitimate as her doing screening on us. I would never question a lady from this site about her pictures as I rely on the reviews I read to help me make my decision. But when I know I am going to be driving 100 miles or more round trip to see someone I would like to know that I am not wasting my time and wasting an excuse to my SO for nothing. I would believe the ladies on here would understand the question from a newbie and should not take it personally especially if they have nothing to hide. In the end though, I am going to stay with the well reviewed and well known providers. I figure it is tough to go wrong if you play it that way.

[Jacquie]

It really depends on how you ask it. If your tone were pushy, I wouldn't want to meet with you anyway. You may be paying for a service, but I am in control of how I provide it and when I provide it. If you want to be treated well and have a good experience, do the same for your provider.

I had a returning client question my rate structure... and when challenged, I had a legitimate answer. His concerns were not valid, and when I broke down the math for him, he saw how wrong he was to even bring it up. That, my friend, IS rude. If you can't afford the prices posted, find a girl who you can afford it from, 'nough said.

If I feel the session is not going to go well from the phone call, I just will politely decline the company. It's always better to be courteous about this part rather than waste either party's time.

I've had the experience of a man taking my face picture with him to the session and saying it wasn't me. That was extremely funny, because I had taken the picture two weeks before the session. I thought THAT was rude and very creepy. I almost did not proceed with the service on my end, because I found that to be very degrading-- but he apologized profusely and tipped me a bill for being a dick. I'm always updating my face shots, because my hair styles change so often. I never would reschedule with him despite his attempts.

It really depends on how tolerant the female is. I have plenty of polite friends who I would see over a high paying rude asshole. Just sayin'.

[Guest032514-1]

Originally Posted by DallasRain

My S O said......and I agree ....If you arrive and the person who opens the door is not what you expected.....or even close....you should leave!

quote--. My questions is, would it be rude to tell the provider up front, on the phone, that if she does not look exactly like the pictures in her ad then we feel no obligation to go in and proceed any further?

I would say NO....because even if she is going to be what you expect,she will already have preconceieved visions of you being an "ass" ...and not set the call anyways

{and that will eventually get spread around and tarnish YOUR reputation,making it difficult in getting a provider to see you}

I'm agreeing. If I'm told "I'm not gonna pay you if..." no matter how nicely; I'm thinking my answer is pretty much gonna be along the lines of "I just don't feel that I could get comfortable with you. There are a few other ladies I can recommend." (I'm always willing to dump on Bliss. heeheehee)

[DallasRain]

lol--Babee,I love doing lots of things to Bliss...lol!!!

[Guest020112]

You should leave if its not the person in the ad. But there are too many unscrupulous men in the world for a provider to take a chance and see someone who may pressure her, or be a jerk to her and not pay her the full amount-hold her over a barrel. So I say do your homework, read reviews, and if it goes grossly wrong out her and see what she offers in repayment to make up for a session.

[swpaul]

Bad idea man, just walk away.