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Bigpapa1 · 10-19-2013, 05:05 PM

I am fairly new to this hobby so excuse my ignorance, but I have question for you all. I am separated from wifey after 19 years of marriage and I find myself wanting just conversation/ companionship more than sex.. My question is do providers find that to be a slight or disrespectful if I may not want full service? Because I promise it's not because a lady is not attractive, it's just mental I guess. I guess I am taking baby steps... Anyone else ever feel this way? Also, educate me on me passing on FS. I don't want to offend a beautiful woman.

skeeter · 10-19-2013, 07:50 PM

Most experienced quality ladies here are more than just sex.... They're counselors, companions, a listening ear , what ever you need .... You pay for time , what you do with it is up to you .... Talk to them openly , they'll listen without taking offense ...

DallasRain · 10-19-2013, 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by skeeter

Most experienced quality ladies here are more than just sex.... They're counselors, companions, a listening ear , what ever you need .... You pay for time , what you do with it is up to you .... Talk to them openly , they'll listen without taking offense ...

not only an ATF of mine...but a wise wise wise man!

skeeter · 10-19-2013, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by DallasRain

not only an ATF of mine...but a wise wise wise man!

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Thanks Dee .. Luv ya

heidilynnla · 10-19-2013, 11:21 PM

I guess it depends on the lady. A majority of my clients just want oral anyway. We are here to provide you with pleasure, just be honest about your expectations. I prefer when I know what the guy wants. I am extremely turned on when he is vocal about his wishes or desires.
Conversation is an important part of an appointment. I have lots of repeat clients and I think it has more to do with personality and intimacy than the actual sex. I do give a mean BJ, but I think my regulars come back more for chemistry.
One thing you should remember is that you can be yourself in this hobby and it is all about pleasure, no matter how you want it. It isn't about us, although we enjoy it.

rex111999 · 10-20-2013, 01:46 AM

I had a session this morning and half of it was spent joking and catching up, the other half was a raucous time. I loved every second of the time we spent together. Most of these ladies are patient and understanding. All they want to give you is what you need. Do your research and pick one who seems like she suits what you need. Flirt through PMs a bit. What you want is there.

gimme_that · 10-20-2013, 03:32 AM

I wonder if cops have done something similar to this to infiltrate screening. You can book a session to establish trust......while not even coming into any sexual contact with her.......use her as a reference.......then bust the next chick.

Or maybe the choice of newbie friendly ladies aren't to his interest and instead of partaking in sexual contact with that provider he has limited choices with.....he decides to just talk to her.....therfore acquiring the reference and seeing his perferred lady for his second meet. Probably a smart move for newbies to kinda slide by in screening while upholding his preferences.

I wonder in this second scenario....if another provider called another to verify his reference, and she told you no sexual contact occurred but he paid for his time, would you consider that a safe reference. I admit if he's wanting to talk he should say this ahead of time prior to meeting. Many a lady I had a booking with initially thought the fact I spoke with them before getting physical was tale tale signs I might have been LE. None of those ladies reached for the money......and rarely unless they screened me vigorously did they make the first move.

Bigpapa1 · 10-20-2013, 08:19 AM

Gimme that, I am no LE. Look at my reviews.. My reviews shows I have had HE's and BBBJ's just not penetration. I didn't want to offend a beautiful lady by not fucking her. It's my way of baby stepping I guess and easing my way into this..

Karrine_Kream · 10-20-2013, 09:00 AM

I have no problem with that-I completely understand and have accompanied such for a like-minded guy-it's kind of like my dinner date option.

I love it!

gimme_that · 10-20-2013, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Bigpapa1

Gimme that, I am no LE. Look at my reviews.. My reviews shows I have had HE's and BBBJ's just not penetration. I didn't want to offend a beautiful lady by not fucking her. It's my way of baby stepping I guess and easing my way into this..

I didn't say you were LE or anything. Just saying it could be used for different situations I'm sure. Wasn't implying you were a cop or anything. All hypothetical.......

But I also believe to some degree interactive conversation isn't every ladys strong suit. Some are moreso performance based primarily. So I'm sure its sort of a curveballl for a few. But on the other hand its less work for the same rate......so why not shoot the shit. She can add to her daily quota of clients since she knows she won't have to actually perform for you an instead lend an ear.

Its kinda different to be on a dinner date with a provider looking at the menu and here her say......

"I want some scrimps, scallops, scampis, and shit.".........to go plates are cool.

Max Steed · 10-20-2013, 10:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Bigpapa1

Gimme that, I am no LE. Look at my reviews.. My reviews shows I have had HE's and BBBJ's just not penetration. I didn't want to offend a beautiful lady by not fucking her. It's my way of baby stepping I guess and easing my way into this..

Well Papa, the first time reading this i thought to myself LE. Your request seems fairly justified, as I myself went through a similar phase in which I needed longer sessions to converse and bond.

I would've thought nothing else or more of it but i was enlightened by another hobbyist of this being a LE tactic just a few days ago. I was sincere when I thanked him for passing that info along, as I was assured it would be beneficial to all within the hobby.

My question to you would be, are you trying to see multiple ladies for just conversation until you feel more comfortable being around other females, or just looking for someone special to click with?

Well, I hope you find what you're looking for, good luck...

Bigpapa1 · 10-20-2013, 08:53 PM

Max, just trying to ease my way into the hobby.. I may want to go full throttle with a provider. Just not sure right now. The performance by Eva Damita enticed me to want more.. We shall see...

GlobeSpotter · 10-21-2013, 12:07 AM

I have one word for you.....

Callie

http://www.eccie.net/member.php?u=119107

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=809960

FranklinR · 10-21-2013, 01:45 PM

I'm a noob and only interested in the exact opposite, activity as opposed to conservation.

stavinChain · 10-21-2013, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Bigpapa1

I am fairly new to this hobby so excuse my ignorance, but I have question for you all. I am separated from wifey after 19 years of marriage and I find myself wanting just conversation/ companionship more than sex..

It would be a lot cheaper to find a sympathetic bartender.