Newbie Question; donations and gifts.

[GumballEnjoyer]

Hello, as I muster my courage and get my ducks in order to be a decent gentleman in this hobby world, I have a question regarding donation.

I assume every provider is different in how they receive their donation, but I believe roses are preferential for my own situation.

Regarding this, how would I hand off my donation? Do I may it clear in my non verbal language of where it is and be discreet.

My secondary question relates to gift giving. I find the pleasure of surprising or giving something at least a little nice as a personality trait of mine and I was wondering what do y'all ladies prefer? Gift, no gift? And if gift, what kind of gift(s) and how should it be placed/presented? I have read recent threads indicating some women already know the vibe of their incall and that this may not be permissible if they're feeling some heat and they prefer clear and consistent communication.

Any thoughts on this from ladies or gents as I feel this question is more provider specific and I just want a flow and feeling from seasoned pros on the matter.

[TinMan]

Focus on what is most important: Not asking too many questions or making too many requests prior to the meeting, causing you to spook the lady. Don’t haggle over rates. Be on time. Be clean, or at least ask for a shower before you get intimate.

If you do all that she probably won’t care too much about how you present gifts, etc. Since you are new go ahead and lay the donation in a visible place soon after you arrive where she will see it, and if she doesn’t acknowledge its presence before you leave make sure you alert her to its whereabouts so there is no dispute regarding what you left.

The whole “leave it in an envelope” or “I include it in a card” is old-fashioned and frankly has lead to other issues, like accusations that the envelope included blank paper instead of cash. I have not once had a lady get upset because I left visible cash on a counter. Of course, if she provides specific instructions, follow them.

As far as gifts, I rarely bring one unless I know enough about her and am inspired to do so. I’m sure the ladies appreciate a thoughtful gift, but really if you do all the other things right they are going to appreciate that more than a trinket.

[LustyBustyGina38FF]

I like no envelope.

After you get a hug and a kiss just set the donation where she can see it, before getting in the shower, that way she has time to count and put it in a safe place. As for a gift I would wait till the next time you see her or you can tip after the seassion if you feel the need to.

Every provider has her own way of doing things. But the best thing you can do is just place the donation down as soon as you can.. Make us better at ease and can move on to the fun part or our time with each other..

One thing don't do and what I don't like is leave the donation in the bathroom and make me/us go look for it. It need's to be out in the open .Had a guy put it in my makeup bag (I was like why are you touching my stuff)

And everything Tinman said ^

[CantBuyMeLove]

I think you got the best two answers you can get.

Follow what their profile says, and if they include a gift list, get something from it.

[pmdelites]

if she's on p411, see what her fav flower, beverage, food are.
then, take one or more. she might remember that, she might not.
but i'm pretty sure she'd appreciate the thought & action.

i recently took my "friend" her fav soda & snack - we enjoyed them as we conversed before moving on to the playroom for some delites.

generally, my gifts are 3-20$ items, not diamonds or dom perignon.

[DallasRain]

i damn baby..you sound like a true gentleman!

PM has right answer..find out her likes and then cater to them..thoughtfulness gets rewarded!

I once had a gent bring me a few novelty rubber duckies cause he saw in a post here that I collect them

[Stamptheworld]

Flowers are a waste. If you want to gift give more cash. As for how to give the donation ask the provider there preference

[GayleMeyers]

Originally Posted by GumballEnjoyer

Hello, as I muster my courage and get my ducks in order to be a decent gentleman in this hobby world, I have a question regarding donation.

I assume every provider is different in how they receive their donation, but I believe roses are preferential for my own situation.

Regarding this, how would I hand off my donation? Do I may it clear in my non verbal language of where it is and be discreet.

My secondary question relates to gift giving. I find the pleasure of surprising or giving something at least a little nice as a personality trait of mine and I was wondering what do y'all ladies prefer? Gift, no gift? And if gift, what kind of gift(s) and how should it be placed/presented? I have read recent threads indicating some women already know the vibe of their incall and that this may not be permissible if they're feeling some heat and they prefer clear and consistent communication.

Any thoughts on this from ladies or gents as I feel this question is more provider specific and I just want a flow and feeling from seasoned pros on the matter.

Donation is typically set down somewhere in an envelope. Reason? You never actually handed her any cash, should there be any LE involvement. Setting it down in plain sight is fine, too. I have no problem picking up the envelope in front of the client to inspect the contents....

I am still nursing an orchid a gentleman brought me about a year ago. I also have clients who bring a nice bottle of wine the share. Gifts like flowers are nice, too ... gifts are thoughtful and should be appreciated !

[TinMan]

I really don’t think the envelope thing is going to help a guy if he is being set up for an arrest. I’d like to see the case law supporting that defense if it exists.

I’m not saying a guy should not do it if a lady specifically requests it, I’m just saying he shouldn’t rely on that as legal protection any more than the old wives tale regarding asking “are you a cop?” and expecting that the cop has to say “yes”.

[corona]

Originally Posted by TinMan

I really don’t think the envelope thing is going to help a guy if he is being set up for an arrest. I’d like to see the case law supporting that defense if it exists.

I’m not saying a guy should not do it if a lady specifically requests it, I’m just saying he shouldn’t rely on that as legal protection any more than the old wives tale regarding asking “are you a cop?” and expecting that the cop has to say “yes”.

Agreed, also, neither is the "setting it down" vs handing it to her. Neither is some magic bullet to get you out of an arrest.



That being said, I always put the donation down, no envelope (who the fuck has envelopes sitting around?) in a place that I know she can see it.

[LustyBustyGina38FF]

^ Right just the agreement money for sex is all LE needs.

[Laura Lynn]

To envelope or not too....Since we all do things a little different, if a lady happens to have a website, take a look at it. Ladies usually have their preference of how to handle the donations listed, and many have gift ideas as well.

Personally, I prefer no envelope and ask that you place the honorarium on the counter after you're greeted with a big hug and kiss. Please don't mention it or hand it to me, as that kills the IOP.

I think the main thing is to set it down shortly after arriving, set it in a visible location, and don't make mention of it.

For gifts, tips are always appreciated by ladies. But, looking at her social media accounts might give you an idea of something she enjoys or it could lead you to a wishlist that she has on Amazon or one of the gifting sites like Throne.

Happy Hobbying!

[Ohthatguy]

I've brought breakfast to a session once. The gal was a champ and agreed to meet me pretty early in the morning so I figured it would be nice to bring her breakfast, but she immediately ate it and counted that time toward the session. She was a slow eater, so it was pretty frustrating. I no longer go out of the way for surprise treats. Unless it's a clearly defined diner date.

[LadyAnastasia]

Originally Posted by TinMan

I really don’t think the envelope thing is going to help a guy if he is being set up

It became quite a common scam to fill the envelope with random paper so by the time the provider checks it after the appointment, it's too late. The envelope used to have class, now it holds paranoia.

[TinMan]

Originally Posted by LadyAnastasia

It became quite a common scam to fill the envelope with random paper so by the time the provider checks it after the appointment, it's too late. The envelope used to have class, now it holds paranoia.

Yep. I mentioned that scam in post #2. I remember feeling a bit like a cad when I didn’t do it after all the other guys would brag about this suave practice.

Then the scam artists took advantage and I felt a bit vindicated in my laziness lol.