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Selena25 · 04-01-2015, 08:07 PM

Just wanted you alls opinion on clients and providers being friends on Facebook/other social sites is it too much what do y'all think

SerenityXX · 04-01-2015, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Selena25

Just wanted you alls opinion on clients and providers being friends on Facebook/other social sites is it too much what do y'all think

I personally don't accept any friend requests from clients on FB/Instagram because I feel like Thts getting to much into my personal life. I don't let everyone kno my job and wat I do for a living and I don't want to take a chance of a client telling my business. Idk just don't feel it's the best idea.

Sidinman78 · 04-01-2015, 08:15 PM

We'd have to be VERY good friends for that. You're risking a lot by going that far with your personal info.

Tfields · 04-01-2015, 08:59 PM

I am friends with a couple of massage therapists I see from time to time and a couple of dancers, and now that I think of it one provider but I most often see her as a friend and take her to dinner, not actual hobby-ing. I think of it kind of like the fact that I have about 5 Sonic carhops as friends and know a little more about what is going on in their world. If their kid is sick or something I will give a special tip.

kman · 04-01-2015, 09:10 PM

I dont see a problem with it Personally i know some folks probably wouldnt be comfortable with it though

watchoutthegameisrigged · 04-01-2015, 09:58 PM

Not a good idea.

Guest061415-1 · 04-01-2015, 10:21 PM

Some people are trustworthy, some are not. My real-world life has crossed into the real-world life of a few providers over the years. These providers have been "good people", people I learned to give a degree of trust to. I do my best to reciprocate as well. If they wanted to connect with me on Facebook or whatever, I wouldn't have an objection, but out of respect I would let them make the first move.

So far, they prefer to keep their privacy. I completely respect that.

notequiteatroll · 04-01-2015, 11:24 PM

only with a fake profile

SerenityXX · 04-02-2015, 12:16 AM

I actually have had a client start stalking me believe it or not. I met him off bp cause it was before I joined eccie. He went as far as to find me on FB and threaten me saying if I didn't talk to him I would regret it and I said do watever u feel u need to do but pls just leave me alone. The next morning I woke up to a friend request on FB and the name said Iamahoe and it had all my provocative bp escort pics and he was sending friend requests to personal friends and family and my preacher. It was horrible and I deactivated my FB and stopped working for like 10 months or so then when I started working again I figured out how to join eccie and tht motherfucker was a member too. I had to block him everyway shape and form. I didn't kno wat to do honestly and it scared me. He was the one to tell me when my very first review went up and I literately had just left from tht client tht did my first review 45minutes at the most an hour before tht. It was very overwhelming and i didn't kno wat to do and being brand new on eccie I didn't read and know all the rules and stuff and I put up the crazy stalker thread. Everything I said was true he even hacked my bp accounts one how and started putting adds up saying I did 50$ anal specials and tht I had aids and crazy stuff. I used to be cherry then and Thts why I changed to Kourtneyk. Why did he do tht to me? I have no fucking clue because he is married and think he has kids. But be got mad because I went out of town to travel and work to Indianapolis and I lied to him and said I was going to Chicago and he flipped out saying he couldn't find me in Chicago bp and where was I and just crazy shit. Blew my mind cause I never expected it. He seemed so harmless and nice. Plus I never hung out with him or anything for free he always paid and I never took advantage of him... After I posted the eccie thread about it he thankfully backed off and idk nor care to kno anything about him.... Tht made realize then how quick things can go sour between clients and providers and I never want to feel like the way him stalking me like tht made me feel. So I try to keep my personal life as minimal as possible with clients. True story. And Thts the honest truth im not a fucking lair. Thts why Idon't except friend requests from clients on FB/Instagram Not to be rude but to be safe and keep my
Life at s minimum

Moto1971 · 04-02-2015, 12:53 AM

Wow KK that is a disturbing story, I am sorry that was done to you.

My opinion on this is this I would only do this if the hobby world and my personal life crossed paths, and only if I knew for sure the person could be trusted.

SerenityXX · 04-02-2015, 01:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Moto1971

Wow KK that is a disturbing story, I am sorry that was done to you.

My opinion on this is this I would only do this if the hobby world and my personal life crossed paths, and only if I knew for sure the person could be trusted.

Right and Thts the delima isn't it which ones u can trust and which ones u can't. I find it easier just to keep my personal at a distance. At least until u get to the point of being friends as well as a client. It was very stressfull situation for sure. And when I posted it on here a year or so ago when I first joined I got a lot of back lash which didn't bother me because everything I said was true and I just hope it helped it not to be done to another provider and it also got him to leave me alone and tht was tht best thing of all. Idk if he still is on eccie and hobbies nor do I care but regardless I can't and wont mention names on here. Lol plus vice versa u don't want a provider to flip a bitch and blow ur cover with ur wife because most of these wonderful gentlemen are married. IJS bettersafe then sorry.

TestSpin · 04-02-2015, 01:39 AM

SORRY for the stalking bs that you had to endure KK. It sounds like you handled it as well and as classy as possible. It sounds like you got a relatively early lesson on keeping a big buffer between your professional and personal lives. Unfortunately, sex can make guys pretty friggin crazy ... which, fortunately, means that we'll pay well for it. We don't like to admit it, but our nature is to bond through sex too, so inexperienced dawgs can believe that there are attachments where there are none.

I use FB strictly for keeping up with friends and family, so I won't even "friend" folks from work. There is no way that I am going to "friend" a provider, unless there is some other real life connection or some other explanation for the connection (and there's very little chance of that ever actually happening).

Glad you got past the stalking! That is all.

Moto1971 · 04-02-2015, 01:54 AM

I am normally a pretty good judge of Character always have been, it is pretty easy to tell the true nature of anyone if you talk to them long enough. It is all up to personal preference, if it is your real social media page that is letting that person into your life, that takes a special kind of trust for me but for someone else it might not be as personal depending on what you do on your social media. I post pictures of my kids and my family on my social media so I am very picky who I let see that kind of thing.

Jessika Sweetz · 04-02-2015, 02:53 AM

I think it's best to keep hobby life separate from social/personal life. No offense towards anyone just personal opinion

centextrucker · 04-02-2015, 06:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Selena25

Just wanted you alls opinion on clients and providers being friends on Facebook/other social sites is it too much what do y'all think

I would say no, especially the men. I imagine most of the guys on here are in a LTR. I get enough questions about people I'm friends with on FB. If you're going to do any social media I'd go twitter, you can pretty much stay announymous