Would you ever marry your ATF?

[Codybeast]

Originally Posted by coolhandluke

I used to be a jealous guy. Now its just easier to assume or know she is fucking someone else. To me thats ok.

?? Hurts my head just trying to make sense of that.

Originally Posted by coolhandluke

I want someone to cuddle with and watch movies.

Dog or cat is cheaper and doesn't have to shower the scent of other men's splooge off before plopping down with you.

Originally Posted by coolhandluke

Blow jobs on demand and someone to eat dinner with. How would that be different from any other girlfriend.

That is the difference between a GF and Provider. No such thing as BJ's on demand with an SO

[Codybeast]

Originally Posted by budman33

No you believe, you don't know. There's a difference. imo

Nah I think she pretty much nailed it as far as most emotionally balanced realistic guys go.

[Codybeast]

Originally Posted by Robin3212003

It's because I DID fall in love with my ATF
I decided to stop seeing her. I could never
have a serious relationship with her. And she just did hand jobs.

How does one fall in love with someone who only sees them on the clock?

I am totally missing something here.

She is a beautiful, warm, funny and attentive "Lady for Hire" who is exactly who you pay her to be. Nothing more. You do realize this right?

This has zero to do with who she is in the real world or the real life personal issues that have brought her to the point of providing.

This thread is getting depressing to read. You guys can't be serious.

[Robin3212003]

Originally Posted by Codybeast

How does one fall in love with someone who only sees them on the clock?

I am totally missing something here.

She is a beautiful, warm, funny and attentive "Lady for Hire" who is exactly who you pay her to be. Nothing more. You do realize this right?

This has zero to do with who she is in the real world or the real life personal issues that have brought her to the point of providing.

This thread is getting depressing to read. You guys can't be serious.

Of course I know she is on the clock and is "for hire."

But because I was getting more than other guys (fs), I
started becoming more emotionally involved than would
be healthy for our business relationship. I never found
any evidence she did more than hj's but reading
reviews about her giving hj's to other guys was
kind of getting to me. At the end of the day, I am
above all, a realist. No matter what anyone says, engaging
in an intimate relationship with any one provider for an extended period of time, will eventually create an emotional
bond. Even if the client is married. Get out while you can!

[knotty man]

youre a realist becaaaaauuuuuse.....you thought you were the only one gettin FS. and reviews were tellin you no one was gettin what you were gettin, and you had no other evidence considering allllllllllllllllllll that time you spent with her. tryin not to be cruel bro, but you need to get your head right if your gonna be in here.
there are some truly lovely ladies in here. but, it is their job to make you feel like your the only one. not being cynical. these ladies are not tryin to "get over" on you. most want to give you the best service they possibly can. theyre giving you exactly what you want. its your responsiblity to keep it real

[Codybeast]

Originally Posted by Robin3212003

I could never have a serious relationship with her. And she just did hand jobs.

Of course this has suddenly transformed into "By the way I forgot to mention FS for me?".
Alrighty then! That wraps it up. I'm outta here. Happy 4th everyone. May you all have a session that makes you see fireworks and hear wedding bells.

[Whispers]

Originally Posted by Codybeast

How does one fall in love with someone who only sees them on the clock?

I am totally missing something here.

She is a beautiful, warm, funny and attentive "Lady for Hire" who is exactly who you pay her to be. Nothing more. You do realize this right?

This has zero to do with who she is in the real world or the real life personal issues that have brought her to the point of providing.

This thread is getting depressing to read. You guys can't be serious.

I gotta agree but every time one of these threads comes up you see the same shit..... But it does shed the light on some of the Pussy Whipped.

Everyday some guy is sucker enough to think that "she likes him" because she spends a little extra time with him off the clock....

I hate seeing a buddy "fall"..... Especially when I KNOW the real story behind the lady that he falls for....

It's one of the reasons I try to never see a good buddies ATF.....

[Whispers]

Originally Posted by knotty man

......these ladies are not tryin to "get over" on you. most want to give you the best service they possibly can. theyre giving you exactly what you want. its your responsiblity to keep it real

I gotta disagree with the last part of that comment...

Let's not take away from the "relationship" the fact that the Provider is the Professional and owes it to her client to "detach" at the end of a session in SOME manner that maintains professional balance.

Some ladies are less professional then others and USE a guys attachment issues to their advantage.....

Ya gotta hold a lady in this profession accountable...... A guy pays her for the hour...... NOT the afterglow that can be confusing..... Some of the BEST ladies I have known have no problem at the end of a session, even after spending 2-3 hours longer with me than another client, with letting me know it's still a professional relationship.....

Although personally.... I just don't need that reminder.....

[Whispers]

Originally Posted by Robin3212003

It's because I DID fall in love with my ATF
I decided to stop seeing her. I could never
have a serious relationship with her. And she just did hand jobs.

and you were the ONLY guy that got F/S?... You BELIEVED that?

You know how many of us are told regularly that "I only do that for you baby.... Don't be telling others cause I don't want them expecting more".....

It's just great marketing on their part......

You got played......

[JohnBrown7]

"Would you ever marry your ATF?"

That's the question I answered.

Like most threads, this one has strayed. Luckily, that bit of straying has opened my eyes. Here are some of the perspectives I have picked up on by reading this thread (and others similar in-nature):

1. Some guys (and "providers") feel all "providers" are unworthy.
2. Some women (and "hobbyists") feel all "hobbyists" are unworthy.
3. *Some feel unworthy.

My perspective is: My ATF is worthy.

I have gotten to know her. There has been an investment in the time (on- and off-the-clock) it takes to get to know a person. So, based on the results of that investment and my perspective on what makes someone worthy, I stand by my answer.

*They don't say it specifically, but you can tell when people are projecting.

[johnnieknox]

I don't believe in marriage, but if I did I would totally marry my ATF. She's much more than some stigmatized job. If she wasn't already in a relationship I would In fact, she's cooler than any girlfriend I ever had. (we have spent significant amounts of time to get to that intimate point) Hell, prostitution isn't a big deal pretty much every where else in the world. I wasn't raised in a household where religious bullshit and misogyny was shoved down my throat either. So, no, I wouldn't have a problem with it at all.

[TxTraveller]

Wow... sigh, hate to think that I came between or delayed things between Damon and Hunter!

[Whispers]

ehhh... Never Mind.....

[NastyCanasta]

Still being a newbie, and my ATF is someone I've seen a whole whopping three times, I could be completely talking out of my ass...

Answering the exact question asked; no I wouldn't. But that's because I don't see me marrying anyone, period.

Now going with what I think the "spirit" of the questions is, could I be in a committed & monogamous relationship with someone I met in the hobby? That's hard to say, obviously requires a meeting of the minds, but maybe. Clearly there are tons of hurdles to get over, for both parties.

I know that the heart does what the heart's going to do, whether or not the brain is on board doesn't really matter. Would I rule her out because of how we met? I hope not, seems kind of shallow to me.

[bluester]

Whispers,

Sorry to burst your bubble dude:

"I understand that a few of the immature and less professional ladies as well as many of the pussy whipped here looking for something other than a ride on an E Ticket Attraction have a problem with that."

This doesn't apply to me. I am a strip club guy like you. I don't see any providers on this board so I have no dog in this hunt! I just believe in respecting women and appreciate them when I am intimate with them. Because I do KNOW, that I am not the only mother fucker they would rather be with.

I am very surprised life hasn't humbled your ass yet.

Bluester