Engaged Hobbyist - His fiance found out!

[sketchball82]

Originally Posted by dilbert firestorm

was this thread worthwhile starting?

LOL! The OP definitely didn't get the response she wanted I'm thinking.

[Guest032716]

Uh - Anita joined 2 1/2 months ago?

[Naomi4u]

Outing is outing. It should not be taken lightly at all. I don't know what is wrong with some of you people sometimes. How can you fuck with someone's life and think "sorry" will make everything better again? WTF??

[MsElena]

Originally Posted by Naomi4u

Outing is outing. It should not be taken lightly at all. I don't know what is wrong with some of you people sometimes. How can you fuck with someone's life and think "sorry" will make everything better again? WTF??

Probably the same way the board lets people who out others still stay on as an active member and/or provider.

No honor amongst thieves anymore. Quite sad actually.

[Guest032716]

Originally Posted by MsElena

Probably the same way the board lets people who out others still stay on as an active member and/or provider.

No honor amongst thieves anymore. Quite sad actually.

I think with that you would need some proof - you know, in our society innocent until proven guilty

[Anita Lay]

she KNOWS she fucked up because she said it wasn't worth the heart ache it can cause. She came out to everyone with her guilt.
Lets be fair, there has been hobbyist that has put us providers on the line and they didn't EVER come forth and take some responsibility.
Good example- A regular of mine was at a bar and I was with friends and a two relatives, he was drunk and started running his mouth about how good I do this and that. My immidiate family knows about my extra curricular activity. The way he was conducting himself was not good.
Had another client that wanted to be my boyfriend and would follow me around town and cause a scene. Shit happens. just saying.
I don't have a exclusive relationship for this very thing.

[Shayla]

I learned a lesson from this... And hopefully others did, too.

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by MsElena

Probably the same way the board lets people who out others still stay on as an active member and/or provider.

No honor amongst thieves anymore. Quite sad actually.

I agree. Those that out people should be banned. They are a threat to the community as a whole!

[buzzworm86]

Originally Posted by sketchball82

I'm not trying to get personal with you hon. I actually like you a lot and look forward to your posts.

I have no doubt that words were said behind closed doors between them complicates the situation, but all I see is a possible future of mine: A provider I've gotten friendly with and visit often decides to disclose our relationship to my wife!! While we have a don't ask/don't tell type of relationship, the shit would hit the fan fast if a provider accosted my wife with this stuff. I'm just trying to look at it from my point of view. Frankly, I wouldn't care what pillow talk happened, or what was said between us. If the provider messes with my personal life, time to go all Soprano's up on her ass.

Soprano? Is she imasculating you?

[sketchball82]

Originally Posted by Anita Lay

she KNOWS she fucked up because she said it wasn't worth the heart ache it can cause. She came out to everyone with her guilt.
Lets be fair, there has been hobbyist that has put us providers on the line and they didn't EVER come forth and take some responsibility.
Good example- A regular of mine was at a bar and I was with friends and a two relatives, he was drunk and started running his mouth about how good I do this and that. My immidiate family knows about my extra curricular activity. The way he was conducting himself was not good.
Had another client that wanted to be my boyfriend and would follow me around town and cause a scene. Shit happens. just saying.
I don't have a exclusive relationship for this very thing.

Also unacceptable behavior. It's a two way street.

[Guest032716]

Originally Posted by Anita Lay

she KNOWS she fucked up because she said it wasn't worth the heart ache it can cause. She came out to everyone with her guilt.

All I saw was her blaming the client. And all I see you doing is making excuses for TOTALLY unexcusable behavior on her part. Hell, I don't care what I tell a provider - I'm fucking paying her to STFU

[buzzworm86]

Originally Posted by Shayla

I learned a lesson from this... And hopefully others did, too.

My lesson is to always keep a lot of pop corn on hand so you can enjoy the drama!

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by Anita Lay

she KNOWS she fucked up because she said it wasn't worth the heart ache it can cause. She came out to everyone with her guilt.
Lets be fair, there has been hobbyist that has put us providers on the line and they didn't EVER come forth and take some responsibility.
Good example- A regular of mine was at a bar and I was with friends and a two relatives, he was drunk and started running his mouth about how good I do this and that. My immidiate family knows about my extra curricular activity. The way he was conducting himself was not good.
Had another client that wanted to be my boyfriend and would follow me around town and cause a scene. Shit happens. just saying.
I don't have a exclusive relationship for this very thing.

When it comes to individual relationships there is no "US".
We have nothing to do with her outing a client.
She was wrong. wrong. Wrong.
It is not supposed to happen.
Yes I have had guys obsess over me and try to stalk me but
I will never OUT anyone EVER! I don't care if it my worst enemy - not in this hobby would I ever go that far and ruin someone's LIFE!

[Jackie S]

I am usually pretty laid back, but this is serious.
The outing of a Provider or a Hobbyist must be delt with in a most prejudice manner. The entire concept of the Hobby as it has evolved in the past 10 years depends on a trust between the two partys that there is a civilian world, and a Hobby World, and they must never meet.

She can go ply her wares on the street corner, she has lost the previledge to be part of this community.

[buzzworm86]

Originally Posted by Louigi

I think with that you would need some proof - you know, in our society innocent until proven guilty

That’s only in a court of law; I don't think constitutional principles apply here.