Hmmm. David, think of it like this:
" If a man reduces a woman's value to ONLY looks & sex, she will reduce your value to ONLY money. Period. #JustThoughtYouShouldKnow"
Im not taking credit for this one. Credit Jada Jacobs.
That said, since IOP is expected by you, perhaps work on returning the favor by giving the illusion that you're not there for just mouth n'pussy. Visit with ladies who like their mind piqued and want to set a mental connection as the *foundation of an explosive physical connection. This will give you a greater chance of shedding your "Eeyore (from Winnie the Pooh) of the hobby" lens that you see out of, and you'll be sure to have fun like the rest of us