Too much porn?

[malacara]

I agree with Tiff, might be your concious. Big head overwelming little head?

[Lust at first Sight]

More than 1/4 of ED cases are psychological. However, drugs like viagra, levitra, and cialis may be able to help as it gives user a sense of confidence knowing that they will get it up with no problem thus taking away the psychological stress... If u go the pill route, I would go with cialis as the duration of effects is longer

[CaptainQ]

I had similar problems.

I've learned recently that it was the condom itself. I will not do without, and no provider in her right mind would offer without. But for me, it's 20+ years of sex without a wrapper with my SO who never passed a baby through that wonderful place we all love, so it's nice n tight.

I'm spoiled. It's so bland with a wrapper. Nothing to feel. I am a very touchy feely guy, like to be touched all over and to touch. Now days I look for the best BJ's with the best happy ending I can find. Don't even bother with FS as that kills me every time. I kept searching for the most beautiful (and often higher priced) girls I could find and it didn't make any difference. It's all about the touch now days. Beauty doesn't hurt though

[Lust at first Sight]

Originally Posted by CandidCajun

I had similar problems.

I've learned recently that it was the condom itself. I will not do without, and no provider in her right mind would offer without. But for me, it's 20+ years of sex without a wrapper with my SO who never passed a baby through that wonderful place we all love, so it's nice n tight.

the orig poster is in his 20s so I would expect FS to be a big deal for him.. As for his problem, do you think "practicing" masturbation with a condom would help? In this case, at we might be able to narrow down whether its the condom or psycological.

[GneissGuy]

I think that if you get overly used to anything, you can find you have problems getting off any other way. Porn, masturbation, fleshlight, blowjobs, midgets in monkey costumes, etc. You may find it difficult to get the job done any other way.

[cptjohnstone]

Originally Posted by CandidCajun

I had similar problems.

I've learned recently that it was the condom itself. I will not do without, and no provider in her right mind would offer without. But for me, it's 20+ years of sex without a wrapper with my SO who never passed a baby through that wonderful place we all love, so it's nice n tight.

I'm spoiled. It's so bland with a wrapper. Nothing to feel. I am a very touchy feely guy, like to be touched all over and to touch. Now days I look for the best BJ's with the best happy ending I can find. Don't even bother with FS as that kills me every time. I kept searching for the most beautiful (and often higher priced) girls I could find and it didn't make any difference. It's all about the touch now days. Beauty doesn't hurt though

I have the exact same problem, if I get serious with any of these sugarbabys, we will go do some blood together and it maybe with this 37yo in my avatar

[CaptainQ]

Originally Posted by TheAlphaMale

the orig poster is in his 20s so I would expect FS to be a big deal for him.. As for his problem, do you think "practicing" masturbation with a condom would help? In this case, at we might be able to narrow down whether its the condom or psycological.

I don't feel that much different than 20 years ago, I'll willing to bet it would have been the same for me then. I remember when we needed birth control only, lambskin was the condom of choice. Offers little to no protection from STDs as many of you probably know. But it felt like nothing was there.

As far as masturbation with a condom, it's not going to be the same IMHO. Can't say that I ever tried that, kinda pointless for the most part I guess.

You might be correct that it's a bigger deal for a 20 year old regarding FS. I thought it was going to be a big deal for me too.

[Sweet Heather]

I thik it's just nerves.

I find there are several ways to best deal with nerves:

DFK, lots of it, with full nude body-to-body contact, your cock pressed against my pussy.

Since men are so visual, you sitting at the end of my bed watching me masterbate with my vibrator, with lots of eye contact.

If it's the condom, take the sucker off, sit on my chest, grease up Mr. Happy, slide him between my breasts, and fuck away while I smile up at you.

One of those things will usually do the trick! As was said, don't "over-think" it, it might make it worse. H

[SneakyCancer]

lay off the porn dude...it is proven to mess you up psychologically. I have studied a great deal in this area. Guys get hyped up about the illusion that porn portrays and fantasy that hardly plays out. I believe the condom represents (the point of no return) your internal boundary line between real and mind stimulation.

And hobbying....is not a condom free time....one way ticket to oops....shucks....RIP.

[Crash Davis]

Maybe this is worth a shot: Try something different like a vibrating cockring, or just several at one time, maybe a masturbation toy you can use with condom to get you used to the feeling. Here is one URL that has several to give you the idea:
http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/cock-rings-c-1003.aspx?&Ne=5000&N=5918+4294 966811&sc=EMN1S661&cm_mmc=Emai lBuyer-_-Null-_-EMN1S661-_-ZoneMain. It's worth $40 if it works for you.

[pyramider]

No such thing as too much porn.

[jpjohnson7454]

Originally Posted by Sweet Heather

I thik it's just nerves.

I find there are several ways to best deal with nerves:

DFK, lots of it, with full nude body-to-body contact, your cock pressed against my pussy.

Since men are so visual, you sitting at the end of my bed watching me masterbate with my vibrator, with lots of eye contact.

If it's the condom, take the sucker off, sit on my chest, grease up Mr. Happy, slide him between my breasts, and fuck away while I smile up at you.

One of those things will usually do the trick! As was said, don't "over-think" it, it might make it worse. H

You actually bring up a good point. Both times this has happened, it has been with a submissive provider. The ones that just lay there and expect me to take charge. I have no problem taking charge but for the first time or two i think i like the woman to tell me what to do. Until i get over the nerves and shyness. I have no problem with the condom, it actually keeps me harder. It just seems like when the time comes to put the condom on. My mind goes straight to keeping the hard on, then everything falls through. bbbj for me never work. They can get me hard and going but will never bring me to a pop. There is also masturbation with the porn, so maybe the post should have said too much masturbation.