Being in a relationship while a lady entertains .

[gimme_that]

Originally Posted by Pooyie!

during our date I might encounter that husband or boyfriend who might not know that she is a Provider.

That’s definitely a concern for most. And not a hassle most want to have to deal with. For the few providers that do reveal they have partner there are many who will not. Generally it isn’t our business and shouldn’t be an overt concern as clients, but I guess some guys need that comfort to know for their own reasons.

Like for instance. A provider who has an NBA policy, but has a black boyfriend. Shouldn’t matter but for some clients if they are aware a lady they see is NBA but sees black guys they will ostracize her business wise. Some for even having mixed children. I’ve seen it firsthand from provider who befriended me over the years.

Even in the civilian world with guys of higher business stature. It’s not a well known or accepted thing just yet for your wife or girlfriend to be servicing other gentleman. He would be looked at as a beta male or chick no matter how you sugar coat it. The type of men who can afford this would not want their significant other doing it for financial gain; it’s simply to fulfill a temporary void and sexual pleasure. A sexual fetish of swinging maybe. Bit for fiscal relief allowing your loved partner to be utilized to other gentleman’s content isn’t the move in most circles. We can add all the pretty adjectives to it we want until a similar situation involved your wife and life. Then people would respond differently.

[justhaveinfun]

I've had this conversation with a provider before. I wouldn't have a issue with it. Being honest about it, don't throw any flags and I'd be good. I know who she is going home to every night. My only thing would be a no policy of my friends. Have had a few providers ask me if I was single and would like to hook up. Even had a few tell me if I ever get single they would get with me. Hence what start this same conversation. Like I said wouldn't bother me a bit. Wouldn't feel like a pimp. It's business and business is business.

And knowing that she has a husband or boyfriend isn't a deal breaker. Not sure who said it above. As long as it's not brought up or turn into a drama session. Then I'm good.

And no to anyone thats wondering my conversation wasn't with Nikki T.

[Nikki Tylor]

Interesting thread with so many different view points . I can see how one could fall in love with a client or a provider - I caught feelings before and it turned into an Arrangement a couple of times which was nice to see if we wanted to take it any further . I am not oppose to dating but never dated while I worked . Maybe one day but today isn’t the day .

[robbdawgus]

I personally don't hobby when I'm in a relationship. I go long periods of times between seeing g providers because of this. I personally don't care if a provider is in a relationship because I've been the guy that get a call to come over and have sex with someone's wife while he watches. So I don't judge.

[annie@christophers]

But we BOTH KNOW..
I became whore
He became trick... alas
The names.

I have NEVER seen this work out .
It's sugar daddy dilusinment.

I love my clients . ��

Or perhaps a control issue.

Anyway.. my 2 cents.

XOXO annie

[Viking2020]

This is an interesting thread. There is something else I didn’t mention in my comments before and it is secrecy is key. I don’t mean secrecy from each other but from others.
I have fallen for a provider before and the one thing I notice that will never change is someone is always jealous of others being happy or whatever they have. As old as some of us are on this site there is always a few who still live like they are in high school. They will do whatever they can; lie, fake phone calls, fake accounts, hack your accounts, etc just to destroy your happiness. Sounds a bit much, unfortunately it happens. It has happened to me in the past, to people I know and I am sure it still happens. So if you fall in love with a provider or hobbyists, keep the shit to yourselves. If you can get away from the hobby completely, do it, because someone and it will be someone who says they are trying to help you but is actually trying to destroy you.
Rant over. Sorry, I rarely hobby these days (staying away from drama) so the stress is high…lol

[Starscream66]

Interesting topic considering my last adventure was with a married woman. I've met more than a few married women or women in relationships. No, banging another guy or girl's lady doesn't turn me on. If anything, it means I need to be more aware and alert of the situation I'm in. It's hard to guess what is running through a person's mind knowing that their significant other is in a room with another man. Luckily, I've only had one bad adventure concerning an attached provider. Still, it only takes that one time for disaster to strike. With all that, yea I prefer to deal with single women but that's not always an option. It is what it is.

Yes, I would have a real relationship with a provider, and I would like to think I could do my part in making it work. I've always been open to different things when it comes to relationships. The one thing I'm not open to is being a woman's doormat. I'm not going to sit at home and stare at the walls while my wife or girlfriend does whatever and whoever she wants on my dime. If she wants to do her thing and have some fun. Then, you can bet I'll be doing the same. If she wants to be monogamous then we can do that. With me, you get what you give.

[ilovethemgirls68]

Standard rule: When I date, I don’t hobby. When I hobby, I don’t date. One of my ATF providers (now retired) was married. I didn’t know it until the second time I saw her and she mentioned it. Only thing I worry about is if she starts having relationship trouble. I don’t want to get caught up in it in any way.

[holmes50]

Originally Posted by ilovethemgirls68

Standard rule: When I date, I don’t hobby. When I hobby, I don’t date. One of my ATF providers (now retired) was married. I didn’t know it until the second time I saw her and she mentioned it. Only thing I worry about is if she starts having relationship trouble. I don’t want to get caught up in it in any way.

+1. Has worked 20 years for me.

[rotoyo]

To answer Nikki I don’t care if a lady has a significant other. Everyone deserves a partner in life and I’m an adult.