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Eden_Monet · 09-29-2010, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by jimmydean817

The ebony providers I have seen in New orleans and Pheonix were wonderful. They are always sweet as could be. I have a thick austrailian accent and most ebony girls love that. My experiences with the non-ebony providers weren't very good. They all were kinda rude and cold. Usually they get frustrated with me on the phone and act like they can't understand me. Then when I meet them they are impatient with me. I have decided to only see ebony girls if I continue to see providers. Maybe I should call you one of these days Eden?

Well I glad to hear that ebony women have been good to you in the hobby... me being no exception if you decide to call me one of these days. I would love to hear that austrailian accent of yours!

Eden_Monet · 09-29-2010, 07:32 PM

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Originally Posted by DallasRain

I have never been with a black woman...that is one of my fantasies...hoping to change that one day{lol}.....any offers????

Would definitely love to try this again Dallas!! Call me babe, you have my number!

Asigarillo · 09-29-2010, 07:47 PM

Yeah Chella, you should see all my tattoos. I still need some color on my last two. I got those during my last two trips to the clink and the artist in lockup didn't have anymore blood red or crip blue. Clearly all of "us" just have to choose one. I just ordered a new grill. Hopefully it will be ready soon because I don't like showing my white teeth. LOL!

Eden_Monet · 09-29-2010, 08:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Asigarillo

Yeah Chella, you should see all my tattoos. I still need some color on my last two. I got those during my last two trips to the clink and the artist in lockup didn't have anymore blood red or crip blue. Clearly all of "us" just have to choose one. I just ordered a new grill. Hopefully it will be ready soon because I don't like showing my white teeth. LOL!

DallasRain · 09-29-2010, 10:15 PM

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Miss Eden--sounds like a yummmy plan!

Chellablaine · 09-29-2010, 10:32 PM

Oh gee Asigarillo...let me guess and educated black man who made it out of the hood, but still feel the need for entitlement?

Oh poor you...did I strike a nerve? Eden asked a question and by her stating no PC well looks like LFG was the only one with the balls to state it straight up! I just thought he left out a few things.

Not all providers of color are in this category, but hey its just a fact of life, they have the misfortune of being stereotyped. You know, if you travel a lot and venture out in the world, people in other places do the same thing to white southerners, we are dumbasses thanks to the media only picking the inbreds to interview in trailer parks after disasters.

We are ALL judged based on something or another, so no need to wine about it. Just set out to prove others wrong, without all that "poor me" BS that Asi seems to have. I bet your coworkers would shit if you went to an opera, haha. Now that would be a site to see, or better yet, nascar!

By the way, one of my very best friends is a bisexual black dude who is an Officer in the US Army!! He is more white that me! So no I am not a racist....

Asigarillo · 09-30-2010, 06:55 AM

Gee, I actually thought you were being sarcastic with him, and I piggybacked...hence the lol. Did I strike a nerve with you?

Educated? Yes. Made it out the hood? Wouldn't call it that. But it makes no difference to many in this country so I may as well have. Out of many, one.

I didn't need to know about your bi-black friend to know if you're racist. Everyone gets benefit of the doubt. I don't think you are, nor do I care. I'm perfectly fine with racists...it's stereotypes I don't like. And word to the wise, when you justify you not being a racist by pointing out your black friend, it makes it worse. But again, you're good by me, not that it matters.

The only "entitlement" issue I have is I feel I'm entitled to be judged as an individual, not as a skin color, but such is life. Out of one, many. I don't need a "deal with it" pep talk. I deal with it. Most of us do the same...yet a few deadbeat, bad apples arise and we're all lumped in. Just the way it is, but much better than it was.

Chellablaine · 09-30-2010, 08:54 AM

We are on agreement on many points...and with that said you do seem pretty cool. Im tired of the stereotypes as well. I just spent some time on the west coast and let me tell ya, it SUX being white, blonde and southern there. My issue with any of this is that I hear this a lot, "why dont they see me because Im black, ebony or whatever" Seriously, if every provider of a different ethnicity, hair color, body size, etc asked this then they would get no real answer. Different strokes. It just so happens that in the South, ebony ladies trend towards being more on the lower end as LFG stated. Ive seen many and talked to many from other areas who arent like that at all. Its very unfair to stereotype, but its a fact of life. She knew the answer, but asked anyway. I mean really, we all knew the answer to her question, but most decided to sugar coat it and make it look prettier and feel sympathy for her.

You know, theres only 1 AA male client that I see in the south, for the same reasons, so I think this works on both sides of the spectrum. But I also wont see trashy white rednecks, freaky asians or arabs(they always want you to pee on them lol) or anyone I dont like for whatever reason. Im sure you guys are the same.

And yes, this type of stuff does strike a nerve with me...and I was being sarcastic with him, hell Im sarcastic with everyone--you just dont know me yet, lol.

Its all good.

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Originally Posted by Asigarillo

Gee, I actually thought you were being sarcastic with him, and I piggybacked...hence the lol. Did I strike a nerve with you?

Educated? Yes. Made it out the hood? Wouldn't call it that. But it makes no difference to many in this country so I may as well have. Out of many, one.

I didn't need to know about your bi-black friend to know if you're racist. Everyone gets benefit of the doubt. I don't think you are, nor do I care. I'm perfectly fine with racists...it's stereotypes I don't like. And word to the wise, when you justify you not being a racist by pointing out your black friend, it makes it worse. But again, you're good by me, not that it matters.

The only "entitlement" issue I have is I feel I'm entitled to be judged as an individual, not as a skin color, but such is life. Out of one, many. I don't need a "deal with it" pep talk. I deal with it. Most of us do the same...yet a few deadbeat, bad apples arise and we're all lumped in. Just the way it is, but much better than it was.

gdiddy · 09-30-2010, 09:03 AM

As usual on this board, when given the opportunity to say something profoundly stupid and offensive there will always be people who can enjoy the anonymity that the internet provides to reveal themselves for who they are. I think the OP was looking for real answers and not rants about "disgusting looking Black women" and tattooed thugs with gold grills. Do these stereotypes exist? Yes. The reason they ARE stereotypes is because they fit into an image that some would like to believe represents all black people. It doesn't matter if you walk past a hundred "normal looking" people, the one you would remember is the dread headed, grill wearing guy who looks like he just got out of OPP.

We're lucky to be in a country where you can say anything you want. That doesn't mean you're free from having others disagree with you and ultimately judge you based upon your opinions or actions. What some people will never understand is THEY have the luxury of being judged for who they are, not for what they look like or what some idiot with the same skin color may have done.

Chellablaine · 09-30-2010, 12:05 PM

You know Diddy...I always respect your opinion and most of the time agree. She asked a question, asked for NON PC and she got it! Its very unfortunate how AA providers are treated. But in the same token it can also be that older providers go through the same thing. Some men just dont want to see AA women, old women, young ones, bbw, brunette, etc. If you ask a question like this and ask for an honest answer, beware! You might just get it.

I think she is smoking hot, just as I think NINA is too! Ive met NINA, she is probably the smartest provider I know, and smoking hot as well. In a PERFECT world we wouldnt even be having this discussion.

But I guarantee you, racism here isnt as bad as other areas such as La County! They are brutal towards non hispanics. In the hobby or out, its pretty messed up. I wasnt raised to see the color of skin and treat everyone with the respect they deserve. I even lived in a country where I was a minority before and NEVER had the ugliness I experienced in Cali on a personal level.

Ill be honest....to me whats worse than the black ghetto thing they have going on, is when the white chicks try to talk all ghetto black. Seriously!

jobim · 09-30-2010, 03:28 PM

Never had a problem here with ebony ladies. Damn, i'm due for one right now! the names of the ladies mentioned in here are quality ebony providers right in our backyard!

DallasRain · 09-30-2010, 04:27 PM

Ditto job!!!

Nina Rae · 10-07-2010, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by gdiddy

As usual on this board, when given the opportunity to say something profoundly stupid and offensive there will always be people who can enjoy the anonymity that the internet provides to reveal themselves for who they are. I think the OP was looking for real answers and not rants about "disgusting looking Black women" and tattooed thugs with gold grills. Do these stereotypes exist? Yes. The reason they ARE stereotypes is because they fit into an image that some would like to believe represents all black people. It doesn't matter if you walk past a hundred "normal looking" people, the one you would remember is the dread headed, grill wearing guy who looks like he just got out of OPP.

We're lucky to be in a country where you can say anything you want. That doesn't mean you're free from having others disagree with you and ultimately judge you based upon your opinions or actions. What some people will never understand is THEY have the luxury of being judged for who they are, not for what they look like or what some idiot with the same skin color may have done.

+1000

And Chella, thanks for the shout out. LOL. (Sorry, had to stay true to that stereotype of how deliciously chocolatey, straight from the ghetto, ebony ladies speak.)

The funny part for me thus far is that the same people who promulgate and promote stereotypes of AA providers/men are the same ones who are being stereotyped themselves, oblivious or not. You can paint it any color you want to...but it is what it is...a snap judgement based on your previous, however limited, experiences. And that's ok. I do realize that most of it is based on what we see others do; those who are without the sense to carry themselves reasonably. Some have class, some don't, and some don't want any. But please, do remember that you're highly unlikely to have your mind changed about what you think you know if you're unwilling to allow for the possiblity that something else may exist.

People have every right to think what they think, based on fact, stereo type, or even the color of the sky. And guess what? I'm thinking right now, lol.

To all the "ebony", "AA", "black", and "ethnic" (my personal fav) providers out there who know that recognition of the bad apples doesn't negate you, the good apples...Cheers to you! Stereotypes or no, we'll keep carrying ourselves the way ladies do, and we'll have fun doing it. You wanna join in? Come on over.

ElHombre · 10-07-2010, 11:53 AM

I have always taken the "Captain Kirk" ( running joke is that Cpt Kirk would always "hook up" with all of the hot aliens gals, no matter what color they were, as long as they were HOT!...) approach when it comes to seeing women. The color of the skin is the last thing that matters to me. How attractive I find her, her personality and the way she carries herself are far more important to me than the color of her skin.

I also believe that we were meant to co-mingle the races. I for one cannot recall the last time that I saw a child that was of a mixed race ( Black/White/Asian..etc) that was not either adorable or you could tell was going to be a heart breaker when they got older.

Eden_Monet · 10-09-2010, 01:11 AM

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Originally Posted by ElHombre

I have always taken the "Captain Kirk" ( running joke is that Cpt Kirk would always "hook up" with all of the hot aliens gals, no matter what color they were, as long as they were HOT!...) approach when it comes to seeing women. The color of the skin is the last thing that matters to me. How attractive I find her, her personality and the way she carries herself are far more important to me than the color of her skin.

I also believe that we were meant to co-mingle the races. I for one cannot recall the last time that I saw a child that was of a mixed race ( Black/White/Asian..etc) that was not either adorable or you could tell was going to be a heart breaker when they got older.

Bravo! ... and you are so correct! My daughter is the result of co-mingling of two races. Your everyday "Ebony and Ivory" mix. I also believe that bi-racial children hold a beauty that is so unique IMHO.