Delayed or Retarded Ejaculation

[DamiStac]

See, I'm partially hoping to go back to those days. When I was young, and first starting out I was too stressed during sex and I could go for hours, especially with new partners. As I got more comfortable it became quite easy to get off, hell sometimes I can't last more than 10 minutes, occasionally I practice control and I can do better, but man... sometimes I wish I could go back to the days of essentially having the control of the sexual relationship! There's a lot of things a woman will do for you if she can't get you off in an hour of intercourse lol!

[buzzworm86]

Are you taking any medication? Beta blockers SSRI/SSNRI antidepressants? Going long periods without releasing? These have effected me in the past. Plus ironically and probably TMI-who am I kidding this is ECCIE how can their be TMI, but seriously my ADD gets in the way i could be in the middle of the act and start thinking about the yard or the Flintsones and loose my erection. Good luck.

[BigDeal]

Originally Posted by Jackie Devlin

And you guys wonder why we most of us prefer mature gentlemen callers . . . because they last longer than it takes to get to the center of a Tootsie Roll Tootsie Pop - and they get there in style.

Kisses,

- Jackie

You are my hero Jackie!!

[HankPanky]

Originally Posted by buzzworm86

Are you taking any medication? Beta blockers SSRI/SSNRI antidepressants? Going long periods without releasing? These have effected me in the past. Plus ironically and probably TMI-who am I kidding this is ECCIE how can their be TMI, but seriously my ADD gets in the way i could be in the middle of the act and start thinking about the yard or the Flintsones and loose my erection. Good luck.

Just meds for cholesterol, topril for thyroid.......and occasional sleep aid.......no anti-depressents are anything like that.........I think its more on the TMI scale....mind wanders, and then I think about pleasing my partner, making sure she goes off at least once........I get distracted too......start thinking about what I need to do the rest of the day. Its nuts......pisses me off.

[Smoking Monkey]

Hey, join the rest of us old farts! A lot of frustrating things happen to your mind and body as you get up there. It seems like the more you concentrate on the problems, the worse they get. The answer is just to relax and go with the flow, but that's easier said than done.

[jamiejo]

Originally Posted by HankPanky

Soooo, alas], as I enter my mid 50's, I am struggling with this and I have noticed that this is occurring more times than I care to really admit. [Maybe 4 of the last 5 opportunities]

I guess I was wondering if anyone else out there dealt with this, or if any provider ran into this with their clients.........and if so, how was this handled. I mean I like having the stamina........but, would love to let loose too!

It's funny ( well, maybe not "funny") that you would bring this up. Just yesterday I had a very similar incident happen to us. I say US because it involves both partners. It's frustrating and embarrassing for both parties. Not just the male. I don't have any suggestions for the male end of the issue, but from my perspective, I have a few suggestions. This is just from my own personal experience.
First of all, some interaction besides just straight f**king. Or s**king. Try to connect on a personal level. A conversational level perhaps, ya know, to build a different stairwell for what's coming up. Don't just go straight to the "good part". I don't know about other women, but I can't "git down" for a solid hour! Lol I mean, I CAN, but you gotta make me want to.
And focusing on MY shit, ain't gonna make YOUR shit work. If you know this can be an issue with you, take advantage of your opportunity when you've got it. Don't hold off until your piece finally says, "To heck with ya. I'm layin' it down." It makes it harder for both of us. Or not!
When it's time, give it to me! I don't offer MSOG for no reason. Bring it!

[Smoking Monkey]

Great response, JamieJo. I've learned enough now to not and try to be the stud for an hour, hold back, and then possibly fail. Now, if I feel like the little monkey is ready to release, then I go for it! I figure I can pleasure the woman in other ways for the rest of the time.

[friscowindsor]

Originally Posted by reorox

As I have enetered my 30's I have gone from a 15-20 min guy to the occasional 30-45 min ....damn Im too tired to finish guy lol. :/ Not always but more often than I care for. It usually happens when I am stressed about life or someting though, so i blame it on that usually.

I would give ANYTHING to be entering my 30's, double that my son and we will see what happens, LOL

[SpanishJewel]

I tell the gents, don't worry about the finish so much as lay back and enjoy!!

Breathe... I find when gents concentrate too hard they hold their breath, it has scared me a time or two when a face gets super red! LOL...

it's the journey, not always the destination that counts..

xoxo
Jazz

[HankPanky]

LOL........uhmmm..........but the destination is what the journey is all about.........