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Originally Posted by utr_guy_in_houston
I asked my sugar baby of 3 years if she ever thought about being an escort and without a second of hesitation she answered, "Because I want to get married some day, silly!" She went on to explain, ". . .. If you're an escort you simply can't hide that, it eventually comes out. . . . . and the second it comes out 95% of guys cut you off the list of potential wives because they don't want to have to explain to their circle of friends at the country club why their wife was once a hooker."
I thought that was such an interesting response I had to share.
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Well, it depends. If you work in your own town, city, or whatnot , I am sure it eventually does make "the round".
But I have some ex-escort friends who were married, and no one ever suspected they had been doing this as well. Not even their husband. But - of course, they were not "working" in their city. And they - of course - stopped , before entering this relationship which lead to marriage in the longer run.
And on the other hand: Strictly speaking, there is no "real" difference between escorts and SBs in the moral department. So the conservatives this girl thinks about don`t necessarily think of her as less than an escort, just because she is a SB. I think it`s a quite "immature" response and missing some relevant issues. Wives , who take money, or women in generally , who are financially dependent, as in the man taking care of them, are - generally speaking - morally judged at the same level like any other escort.
I don`t think people are "open" or smart enough (in the conservative world) to make a difference in these small social nuances.
In Europe women whose men take care of them, are also regarded as whores and frowned upon. So, they might as well work as escorts. No difference there. Such things might not be talked about loud, or even be an issue, as long as the relationship is well. But as soon as there are problems, or eventual divorces or any other issues, the departments of judging lean into that direction. Then the face of truth is shown, and the women won?t have much to laugh , usually. Because, most often the "friends in the country club" are polite enough to not say something as long as they see that the guy has the woman`s back. But once he doesn`t anymore, it does not matter if she is sugarbabe or escort, they will judge her the same.
Same is with strippers versus escorts, and whatnot. I think Maggie Mc Neill (The Honest Courtesan) was diving into that topic in one of her posts, which was exactly about the fact, that the conservative moralists don`t make distinctions within these realms.
Sure, a woman being taken care of is less frowned upon than a man being taken care of, because we still live in patriarchy and - oh once again - my favourite word - heteronormativity, but still - it`s not considered worth a medal of honour, specially by other women , who do indeed have a career without men.
Why one woman chose to be a sugar baby and not an escort
