Ladies At What Point Are You Creeped Out

[rockerrick]

So I heard back from a very elusive provider that is difficult to schedule, and she says I've seen many ladies that she respects and holds in high regard! So I'm relieved I did not delete any of my p411 okays. What one looks down at, others look up to. And you never know which one is going to get your foot through the door.

[NewWave]

not having read this whole thing, but it is funny if providers are creeped out by too many okays. guys can't ever win, women always want things perfect. they want assurances but not too many lol...

i don't think i've ever used the word "creeped" for a provider or woman, i guess "disgusted" is the word I use if something ain't right. like if i'm fingering her, and my finger comes back with someone's jizz, or perhaps a used condom, or maybe an old license plate, that kind of stuff has a way of disgusting me.

[rockerrick]

Originally Posted by NewWave

i don't think i've ever used the word "creeped" for a provider or woman, i guess "disgusted" is the word I use if something ain't right.

The term "creeped" was inspired by the answer one provider gave me when I was new. She stated that 5 okays were sufficient , and that when she opens up p411 and there are 30 it creeps her out. So there you have it.

[Ez5417]

Women can never win either, duh.

[rockerrick]

Originally Posted by ExoticEzra

Women can never win either, duh.

You're correct Ezra, there's a little discussion about pricing that points that out in the "Overpay" thread.

[Ez5417]

Yes RE, it was hard to not respond to many posts on there, but I bit my lip. I remember the days where I was in an "agency" ( I was pretty much the only girl " working", or getting "work", I should say) and hadn't much experience. She'd charge 3-400, and I limited very much. Still got plenty of work, but.... Then I grew up. Went on my own.

[rockerrick]

You shouldn't bite your lip, if you have something to contribute. Your thoughts could only enhance any discussion.Your opinion may be the one that changes someone else's view.

[homer13]

That thread's been done a million times and it always goes the same.

Guys- ladies charge too much-prices should be lower

Ladies- We don't charge enough-prices should be higher

Economist- The market decides the rates

blah blah blah, don't worry if you miss this one a new one will start in a month or so.

[Ez5417]

Originally Posted by rockerrick

You shouldn't bite your lip, if you have something to contribute. Your thoughts could only enhance any discussion.Your opinion may be the one that changes someone else's view.

Thanks hon.

[Ez5417]

Originally Posted by homer13

That thread's been done a million times and it always goes the same.

Guys- ladies charge too much-prices should be lower

Ladies- We don't charge enough-prices should be higher

Economist- The market decides the rates

blah blah blah, don't worry if you miss this one a new one will start in a month or so.

Very accurate. ( for lack of a better term)

[homer13]

I take by your late postings that your a night owl.

[Datura]

Originally Posted by rockerrick

For me I take volume into equation, rep also, and that determines what activities I will partake in. Let's face it with a condom on risk is real low.

It depends on what disease one is talking about. A condom will not prevent herpes. And condoms are not 100% safe -- most men don't seem to know how to properly put one on, or how to remove it to minimize spillage, which is why I prefer to be the one to handle that, haha :P

It's less about the number of Okays than about the proposed dynamics of the session. And sometimes whom those Okay come from. I'm not comfortable seeing a guy who patronizes SWs, super sketchy chicks, or those known to have drug habits. If the Okays are primarily from providers who offer activities I consider extremely risky or only things I do with a SO, I'm less worried about transmission than the expectation that I will do the same, and that my stated services are merely a cover for his long list of acronyms.

That said, when I was in college and right after, the number of civvie women I knew who'd have unprotected sex with guys they met at parties and bars certainly explained the high rates of STIs and unplanned pregnancy in people under 25. It only takes once. At least most providers take *some* precautions... but I'd never though I'd see the day when providers would openly advertise bbfs, yet it's no longer unusual, which is sad.

I'm pretty carefully about what I do and with whom. I don't care to obligate myself to unknown entities. So I chose a dynamic that works well for me, and for guys who can let go of believing they are entitled to something I don't care to offer except to someone I "click" with. But whether that man has seen 2 or 100, all that matters is he's going to respect my boundaries and time. I'm very good at being bad, but no one has a right to expect anything beyond what is willingly offered...

[rockerrick]

Originally Posted by Datura

It depends on what disease one is talking about. A condom will not prevent herpes. And condoms are not 100% safe -- most men don't seem to know how to properly put one on, or how to remove it to minimize spillage, which is why I prefer to be the one to handle that, haha :P
I've only ever seen one provider that didn't put the condom on.
It's less about the number of Okays than about the proposed dynamics of the session. And sometimes whom those Okay come from. I'm not comfortable seeing a guy who patronizes SWs, super sketchy chicks, or those known to have drug habits. If the Okays are primarily from providers who offer activities I consider extremely risky or only things I do with a SO, I'm less worried about transmission than the expectation that I will do the same, and that my stated services are merely a cover for his long list of acronyms.
I would agree on the SW's,inherently risky, But other providers I guess it would depend on if I believe every rumor thrown out there without any basis in truth.
That said, when I was in college and right after, the number of civvie women I knew who'd have unprotected sex with guys they met at parties and bars certainly explained the high rates of STIs and unplanned pregnancy in people under 25. It only takes once. At least most providers take *some* precautions... but I'd never though I'd see the day when providers would openly advertise bbfs, yet it's no longer unusual, which is sad.

I'm pretty carefully about what I do and with whom. I don't care to obligate myself to unknown entities. So I chose a dynamic that works well for me, and for guys who can let go of believing they are entitled to something I don't care to offer except to someone I "click" with. But whether that man has seen 2 or 100, all that matters is he's going to respect my boundaries and time. I'm very good at being bad, but no one has a right to expect anything beyond what is willingly offered...

As far as what you decide to do in a session that's your business . I personally don't want a unwilling partner. Don't think it would be any fun. If the " menu " were not to my liking I simply would'nt repeat. I was under the impression you are FSBM and don't do FS.

[Datura]

Originally Posted by rockerrick

As far as what you decide to do in a session that's your business . I personally don't want a unwilling partner. Don't think it would be any fun. If the " menu " were not to my liking I simply would'nt repeat. I was under the impression you are FSBM and don't do FS.

You'd be surprised at the number of men who don't care that a partner is willing. Some of them seem quite set on getting what they want regardless.

I never said I was FS; I said I don't care to obligate myself in certain ways to whatever stranger walks into the door. I would be lying if I said I never, ever went all the way. However, some men are happy with a particular level of interaction, which can be just as intimate, if not more so, than fucking. Often it's more about the people interacting than about what can be checked off of a list.

That's been my experience, anyway...

[homer13]

Originally Posted by Datura

I would be lying if I said I never, ever went all the way.
That's been my experience, anyway...

Went all the way, both that saying takes me back to days of yore.