Would You Still Hobby IF...

[AngelaAspenXXX]

Asked in a thread that got me thinking...
This question is geared towards attached hobbyists.

Often clients disclose why they have called and what they are looking for or missing. I often hear, well my wife doesn't like oral sex, my wife doesn't like to suck my dick, my wife doesn't like porn , my wife has let herself go, my wife is boring , my wife is kind of uptight , which kinda makes me uncomfortable, etc, etc, etc. Often this is followed by, but she is really great, I really love, we have a great relationship otherwise. etc, etc, etc.

So, my question is: If your wife/SO was everything you wanted: hot, great dick sucker, has great pussy, beautiful, loves to cuddle, blah, blah, blah... Would you still hobby? How much is your needs are not being met, versus I like different flavors?

[iINDULGE]

If I was married and had a horrible wife I wouldn't hobby, but I hold marriage in high regard. People always tell me it's different when you're married, but no matter what it is, I'm a one woman man once I'm married.

That being said, I've had a large number of partners and if my girlfriend and I didn't have sexual chemistry then I wouldn't marry her to begin with. If she gave horrible head or the sex was torture, then why would I sign on for the long haul? Granted I realize most women will gain weight or slack on their appearance once married, so I'd factor that in to begin with; however, I wouldn't complain about her weight or looks if I paled in comparison to the man she first married.

[skinless]

Not to throw a complete monkey wrench in the equation here, but my wife is everything I want, perfect for me, and does everything really well in and out of bed.


Why I do this has nothing at all to do with that. I am a visual creature and need more variety in my life. And yes, we are all animals, and not meant to be monogamous, so I prefer to slip away on on the DL every now and again use professional services to scratch the itch.


....just being honest.

[Dondo7]

For the most part, this hobby is about:

A. Older guys being able to get young gals and even better if they do what wife doesn't

B. Guys who can't get anything being able to get something.

C. Guys who just don't want to fuck with women on a day to day basis.

D. Sex Addiction

[ChiRJ]

I'm a business traveler, gone 5 days a week and new to KC in general. Therefore it's just easier to hobby than bother with constantly hustlin' on the weekends in bars.

[BigDeal]

Not sure...why is if I had the greatest girl and I could have that bareback fullservice...that trumps alot!
But also knowing what i know now...I may not hobby as much but a little less!

[The DarkSide]

Originally Posted by AngelaAspenXXX

Asked in a thread that got me thinking...
This question is geared towards attached hobbyists.

Often clients disclose why they have called and what they are looking for or missing. I often hear, well my wife doesn't like oral sex, my wife doesn't like to suck my dick, my wife doesn't like porn , my wife has let herself go, my wife is boring , my wife is kind of uptight , which kinda makes me uncomfortable, etc, etc, etc. Often this is followed by, but she is really great, I really love, we have a great relationship otherwise. etc, etc, etc.

So, my question is: If your wife/SO was everything you wanted: hot, great dick sucker, has great pussy, beautiful, loves to cuddle, blah, blah, blah... Would you still hobby? How much is your needs are not being met, versus I like different flavors?

Fuck no! But that person doesn't exist, so we have to build that with various woman to make that perfect woman.

But that goes the other way guys aren't perfect and we can be pricks so it makes life very difficult!

[bartipero]

Actually, on point, i.e., otherwise happy attached hobbyists, all of the above applies, but skinless seemed to me to hit the nail on the head.

[Starry69]

When I venture out I am seeking what I crave that is not available for me at home, so I am looking to fill a void. Therefore, I would say my answer is no. I would not hobby if my wife were open to filling that void herself.

[Adeptus32]

Thread moved to appropriate forum.

[KCQuestor]

If my wife or girlfriend met the given criteria, I doubt if I would hobby.

[kcpumper]

I wouldn't hobby. Hell, if my wife was like that I wouldn't have the energy! My needs aren't close to being met and she knows exactly what they are. I've told her sex is as essential to my well being and sanity as sleep and food to me, in fact it's #1, but it's about #97 on her list ever since the demon possessed her (menopause)!

[ScubaBad]

I don't hobby when I'm in a relationship, but then again, I won't be in a relationship (again) if there isn't great sexual chemistry.

[nsafun05]

The only reason I've hobbied is because the wife just doesn't seem to like sex. I've tried talking to her etc. but she simply has no desire for it which has made me a little bitter about marring her. I totally agree with Omahan, if I married the woman you described, I'd never even consider the hobby.

[Red Rock]

Originally Posted by Dondo7

For the most part, this hobby is about:

D. Sex Addiction

Been in this hobby almost 4 decades. When I was initially married, I left the hobbby until my ex started using sex as a "weapon" ...you know with holding sex. It was easy to fall back into old habits. Besides, there is something to be said about the visual and variety.