Newbie with a complicated question

[Straight_laced]

Ok so I'm a newbie to this whole deal even though I have seen about 3 or 4 providers but most of then were from BP so I wouldn't say those count..so today I had an appointment with what for this purpose I shall refer to as provider A. It was supposed to be at eleven in the morning but she never texted me back yesterday to confirm so I slept in and missed it.. So I let her know what happened and ask if I can reschedule for tonight...she says she can't tonight but possibly tomorrow soo I telli have to check my schedule for tomorrrow. I really wanted some fun today so I start looking for someone for tonight..enter Providr B. I get in contact with her and she asks me if u have ever seen any other girls on dccie since I'm a newbie and have no references..,i tell her that I have seen one provider and oi explain to her the situation that transpired with provider a. So we set up the appleby and everything is give and then iget a text from provider a asking why I had used her as a reference and I explain to her that I merely stated the situation and never once said that she was my reference..then provider b forward me she received from provider a warning her about this moronthats using girls hes never net as references..i explain to her the situation and even forward the text messages from providera and then she dates seating that provider A denies any appointment or knowledge of me...i apologize to both ladies for the misunderstanding and explain my self again but provider A bitches new out saying that I used her as a reference when never have and provider B refuses to see new know..so my question to your fine folks is..if k clearly stated thati was supposed to sees her but never did and never said she was my reference...did I dpo anything wrong?

[Guest021812-3]

You could uncomplicated it by using the "return" key. Sorry, but it's a tough read as one big block.

[pyramider]

You did this to yourself. Learn from it and move on. Yes you did wrong. It sounds like you represented yourself as having known A to B, when all you did is miss an appointment.

Now your options are to straighten your shit out or download some porn and buy some lube.

[Waldo P. Emerson-Jones]

I wasn't there so no idea if you weren't communicating very clearly or if the escort(s) in question just misunderstood you or some combination of the two. Regardless, you shouldn't let little things bother you. Move on and try someone else--just don't mention A or B!

[EmilyEzzell]

I can see how the misunderstanding happened. I suggest you start over not mentioning who you were suppose to see. Too confusing. As a provider we want a name of a provider who has seen you and is able to verify you have seen her.
I have seen threads in ISO for newbie friendly providers. Check there or start your own thread. I think Babylee and Exoticbabygirl screen newbies. Be sure to check with them or the ISO threads. Good luck

[Prolongus]

Straight Laced, your method of setting up appointments is exactly the style the Providers will steer clear from...you're new but you kinda came off as LE, too weird, untruthful...combination of all 3...hope u learned from this, because the Providers will NOT see a guy if there's even a hint of "WTF was THAT all about?"

We all make mistakes in the beginning. Take Emily's advice, see the newbie-friendly Providers. It takes a little time to build credibility here.

And get an alarm clock!

[~Ze~]

Originally Posted by Straight_laced

Providr B. I get in contact with her and she asks me if u have ever seen any other girls on dccie since I'm a newbie and have no references..,i tell her that I have seen one provider and oi explain to her the situation that transpired with provider a.

Depending on how you worded this - and some guys DO intentionally word it in a way to leave room for interpretation so they can bypass screening - I can see how she might have thought you were using Provider A as a reference.

Why even mention the "almost" with Provider A?

Isn't that a breech of discretion?

Tell me, why didn't you make it clear to her the ONE provider you said you HAVE seen?

Although that statement is bassackwards from this one -

Originally Posted by Straight_laced

Ok so I'm a newbie to this whole deal even though I have seen about 3 or 4 providers but most of then were from BP

BP girls can be used as a reference, just not as common and much more of a headache in general.

[LucadeJure]

As a relative newbie myself may I offer some useful advice ... DO NOT try to outsmart established etiquette with the ladies. They are professional, intelligent and can see through more BS than you can throw out at them. Their safety is more important to all of us than anything else.

I do yearn for punctuation, capitalization and sentences that make sense in your post.

Play safe. Once you get into the swing of things here it is soooooo much fun.

[pmdelites]

Straight_laced, i dont know if you were typing that in on a smartphone or your computer or teletype machine. but please use the enter key to separate paragraphs. and pls use spellcheck to correct some things that just arent clear [for example, "So we set up the appleby", "hes never net as references", "then she dates seating that provider A", "provider B refuses to see new know"]

finally, you asked "if k clearly stated thati was supposed to sees her but never did and never said she was my reference...did I dpo anything wrong?"

yes! first rule of setting up appts [at least in my book] - DONT talk about other women or possible appts or anything with the woman you are attempting to book with.
if she asks for references, check w/ those women you've visited if you can use her as a reference, and then give the to-be-scheduled-with woman the name & contact info of those women.

if you have questions about this sub-culture, ask in this forum. or buy premium access and ask in the men's lounge.

best to you in your searches and visits.

[Straight_laced]

Well I actually ended up seeing provider b and she told new that provider a straight up denied ever talking to me and told her that I was going to try to kill her and that I was crazy even thought I showed the upmost respect to both girls....i think she was just jealous because I decided not to see her... and its funny because its one if the most active providers on here...Needless to say provider b was amazing and I'm glad things worked out the way they did

P.S. Sorry everyone I was and still am writing this on my smartphone but thanks for your opinions everyone!!

[LucadeJure]

Ahhh, much easier to read ... thanks for taking the time ... and glad it all worked out for you. Play safe.

[lisa.lisa0302]

Try getting on P411

Its a little easier than calling around. And when someone is checking your refs, its a bit easier as well. She can see your oks and can contact them right there.

[Kayleehotchick]

Well...first off. Provider B has a big mouth. She SHOULD NOT be telling you what another provider said. PERIOD. To me, that is a shit stirrer in my book. And I guess you must be okay or Provider B wouldn't of saw you. Or not to smart...

Glad that things worked out for you. A P411 acct if a super way to go. Now that you have actually seen a provider, maybe she can start you off with a okay.

[Brandee69]

Im with Kaylee on that one!

[tglc1]

P411 has solved all those headaches for me. You should try it