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Originally Posted by Slingerland
To hell with the person sending emails. That person is a coward. You on the other hand, are a WONDERFUL person, with far more intelligence, class and talent than most of the people I know. And that opinion comes from your posts here: witty, humorous, sometimes tongue-in-cheek, but most often "right" about the subject at hand.
Look at the posts above... these are the ones to remember! Take these memories with you, and look back with a smail and laugh.
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You read my mind actually. I did just laugh and shake my head. There's no other way to say this in a way that's not brash, but i have to say, the thing I always disliked about the hobby were the (SOME, not ALL) women who were in it and ruined it for all of us. BBFS, multiple arrests, stealing, drug use, pimps/other men who sponge off of you. I'm living proof that it doesn't have to be that way. I didn't really find it particularly difficult to avoid being arrested, I've never been a drug user, and bbfs is just beyond comprehension. Your own doctor who knows the status of your health wears gloves when there will be blood present. You should look at it exactly the same way.
And I really want to encourage the girls in the business to please use the extra time and money that you have now in order to plan an exit strategy for later--meaning go to school, even do something online. I thoroughly enjoyed the hobby for a while, did it safely, but now can take the next step and will be going on to law school. I'm not saying hobbying is bad, don't get me wrong. I love that I was a part of it and will be the first to admit that I probably can't say I'll never partake in it here and there in the future. But it's just reality that you can't do it forever. I know one provider in particular (in another state) who feels like she has no options anymore. She's gotten too old and doesn't even get enough work to pay for basic necessities. She wishes she had gone about it all in another way. She warned me of the danger that life in the hobby can make your life stagnant. Those words really resonated with me and it's part of the reason I'm not going to be stagnant anymore.
Go get a degree of some kind. You don't even have to use it right away if you're not ready to give up the hobby. Get it and stick it in your back pocket for a rainy day. It could never hurt. And you'd be amazed at how much more enjoyable the hobby becomes when you don't have to do it, but that you truly want to.
Ok, I'm getting off the soap box. I'm sure it won't be the last time before I leave though
You're one of the last reliable and safe providers left in Arkansas. You I and will keep in touch and you'll have to come and tour in my new city 
