1. It was a gradual transition for me. I was seeing a guy after the 'big breakup'. It was very casual and I wasn't looking for anything serious. We would spend the day together whenever we had the time, and end it with a hot romp and I'd be on my way. I would be halfway home and found that he'd stuck money in my purse. He would say it was because he enjoyed me. It made sense. Why throw myself into dating again (something I wasn't ready to do) when I could get my jollies and get paid? But wait-wouldn't that make me a- who cares? I met this girl who told me I should start on Backpage. Six years later, here I am.
My first client was an older passionate man. I would have never believed he was as old as he was. We both were surprisingly at ease. He came into my incall and we talked like good friends (he also became one of my best friends). I leaned in to kiss him and it was on from there. I think having such a positive 'first time' played a key role in me enjoying myself in this industry. He set the precedence for the type of client I wanted: respectful, open-minded and fun.
I think the whole thing was very special. I've never had a bad time with anyone, knock on wood. I've never seen anyone I regretted seeing, unlike civvie dating. I didn't feel the need to go back to my ex (as if passive aggressive vindictiveness and beta-male weakness was something that I wanted to go back to.) and I didn't have to date any losers after him. I call it a win-win.
Question about your first time as a provider
