How common is it for fear of rejection to be the primary reason a man utilizes escorts?

[AdventurousMouse]

Originally Posted by Greented

If a guy is still somehow uncertain if a woman is interested when she says, "Let's go back to my place," I'm not sure what to tell ya.

I was never much of a "dater." I would generally hook up with women I met at bars or parties. Meeting women in a fun group setting among mutual friends is a great way to break the ice. I used to go see live music a lot. That way at least I knew I would meet women I had similar taste in music with. But soon after the hookup it was always pretty clear one or both of us wasn't interested in continuing things. So no monetary expense was ever involved beyond a typical night out. The two instances when we both wanted to continue things turned into VERY lengthy relationships, one of which I'm still involved in over 20 years later.

The last period of time I was single I made a point of making lots of platonic lady-friends who I'd go do stuff with. Those friends had other friends, etc. It sure beat sitting in front of a computer or swiping left or right on a phone-dating app. I had a fear of rejection, too; but I learned to put myself in situations where rejection was unlikely. I only got my heart broken once in that relatively brief time-frame.

ps--So nowadays if I pay to see a provider it's because an affair is too risky and impractical. And at my age and income level, the possibility of an attractive provider half my age falling head over heels for me and creating unwanted drama--or worse--seems nonexistent. They may seem like they really like us at the time, but IOP is what it is.

If a woman says "let's go back to my place," obviously she's looking for sex.

That being said, I've never had a woman say "let's go back to my place"

[Seline]

Originally Posted by AdventurousMouse

Getting a sure thing is certainly a major benefit of getting with a provider too.

It's interesting you've known some attractive men who get with escorts because he's afraid of getting turned down in the real world. That would suggest attractive men getting turned down is a pretty common thing.

Here I was thinking the only reason I (despite my good looks) get turned down nearly 100% of the time is because of my ASD.

I understand how you feel from having known a few people with ASD. It's difficult for someone to read your emotions so it becomes uncomfortable, or your emotions are mis-read all together. Then there are those that just don't want to be involved with someone with any type of syndrome, so it makes it more difficult to form lasting and meaningful relationships. I certainly see why you seek the companionship of a provider. And those of us who enjoy what we do will make you feel special and give you the release you surely deserve. Big hug to you.

[CPT Savajo]

Originally Posted by ahab11

I enjoy the sex and do not mind paying for it.
Single and never been married and accepted the fact I will die alone.

I consider myself an educated man but when it comes to reading the signals of the opposite sex I am clueless.

Learn to read the signals of the opposite sex, the signs are everywhere.

This last Friday when I was at the bank getting a $500 box of quarters I struck up a conversation with the lady that I was doing business with in regards to an item she had on the counter. In particular this wooden chameleon that had a unique color scheme to it. I've seen her at other locations and she remembered me as it's been months since I last seen her. Anyways as I was leaving she blurted out the words, "come back and see me." That caught me off guard and I immediately stopped in my tracks and looked at her and said, "I will," with a smile on my face. I knew what the words meant.

She's a heavier set girl and while I'm not sexually attracted to her it was still nice to hear what she said knowing that she'll help me in any manner that I desire. Like you I don't mind paying for the sex with escorts on occasion and I've never been married, although I don't want to die alone as there will come a time. For me the hardest part is giving my heart away vs. the fear of rejection as I have pushed away several women in the past who wanted relationships with me, something I tend to regret when I reflect on the situation because maybe I could have found true love.

[BLM69]

I have a few lady friends that I'm not sexual active with, this is how I'm able to stay single and have fun, I have a heavier set woman about my age that I can talk to and we use to speak hours at a time,she doesn't know I trick, yeah I fucked her a few times just because I can, but I'm not attracted to her, the point I'm trying to make is keep friends with different types of women not be lonely, build and maintain your confidence up

You need to put yourself out there and study women, them podcast will help and don't listen to no feminist media, that has ruined relationships and women in general, I've been out the dating scene but I recall it was easy to date, now it's what can you do for me and just like prostitution, just look out for the normal types not caught up in social media. If you've been striking out, start with a older fat woman to get your feet wet, they'll bite 😂

[AdventurousMouse]

Originally Posted by Seline

I understand how you feel from having known a few people with ASD. It's difficult for someone to read your emotions so it becomes uncomfortable, or your emotions are mis-read all together. Then there are those that just don't want to be involved with someone with any type of syndrome, so it makes it more difficult to form lasting and meaningful relationships. I certainly see why you seek the companionship of a provider. And those of us who enjoy what we do will make you feel special and give you the release you surely deserve. Big hug to you.

I've never even informed anyone I've had sex with (whether paid or unpaid) of my ASD. Because of the stigma.

Still, whether a woman officially knows of my ASD or not, my ASD presents lots of struggles in getting a woman. I have a hard time reading a woman's clues. I guarantee there have been opportunities I've missed thanks to my inability to read a woman's clues.

[CPT Savajo]

Originally Posted by BLM69

I have a few lady friends that I'm not sexual active with, this is how I'm able to stay single and have fun, I have a heavier set woman about my age that I can talk to and we use to speak hours at a time,she doesn't know I trick, yeah I fucked her a few times just because I can, but I'm not attracted to her, the point I'm trying to make is keep friends with different types of women not be lonely, build and maintain your confidence up

You need to put yourself out there and study women, them podcast will help and don't listen to no feminist media, that has ruined relationships and women in general, I've been out the dating scene but I recall it was easy to date, now it's what can you do for me and just like prostitution, just look out for the normal types not caught up in social media. If you've been striking out, start with a older fat woman to get your feet wet, they'll bite 😂

Great point about keeping friends with different types of women. That's what I plan to do plus I could use a new friend as she seems like a sweet person. I'm just not going to put a lot of expectations on such a friendship and see what develops. I've been out of the dating scene for awhile as well but it's not hard for me to get a date.