Line in the sand?

[Bames Jond]

In this dynamic business, I have to ask if anyone has come a little “too close to the sun?”

When client/provider engagement gets past the “professional relationship” and starts getting quasi personal I guess…..

Clearly asking for a friend.

[miketokc]

Been there-made that mistake. Long horrible story the bottom line is DON'T DO IT. You cannot "save" her. I could ramble on all day just it take from someone who learned a hard expensive lesson your "friends" situation is not "different" I guarantee you there will be not be a happy ending.....

[Unique_Carpenter]

Usually explodes like a...
However, I'm aware of a good handful that have actually worked. In each case the gal retired.

[Bames Jond]

Thanks fellers! Always appreciate the incite.

This was a complicated situation, I’m kinda young-ish and I feel still naive to the hobby.

Always learning something I guess lol.

[405Newguy]

Been there, done that, ended terribly. My motto is fuck-and-leave. That's it. Don't get to close, keep them at a distance, don't contact them unless it's for an appointment, you don't need to know their personal business. Fuck-and-leave. Period.

[Bames Jond]

Thanks 405, really appreciate the feedback.

Im kinda screwed right now. What do you do when a provider lets you stay the night, drink together, share personal pics, etc?

I dunno, I’m IFR right now and need some vectors.

[Asianfab]

Runnnn... jk just start backing off a bit and it'll go back to normal. No matter how much you wanna text her don't.. I been there too. Now we just have a strict fuck and go until next meet

[Bames Jond]

IFR -instrument flight rules. I’m a nerd.

[CantBuyMeLove]

If you're single, understand you can't get possessive. You know her job and what it entails.

If you're married, speaking from experience, run like hell and block her, unless you are looking for a divorce. I had 2 that I got too close to, a Texas girl and an Oklahoma girl. TX girl dropped the "I Love You" on me and I was smart enough to say it was just a fling and we agreed to stop seeing each other and she'd still give me a good reference. The OK girl drugged me in our hotel room, took pics and sent them to my wife saying I was hers now and for the wife to back off. She's in prison now and I've spent more on therapy and marriage counseling than I ever did on sex. Still cheaper than divorce though.

[Bames Jond]

Originally Posted by CantBuyMeLove

If you're single, understand you can't get possessive. You know her job and what it entails.

If you're married, speaking from experience, run like hell and block her, unless you are looking for a divorce. I had 2 that I got too close to, a Texas girl and an Oklahoma girl. TX girl dropped the "I Love You" on me and I was smart enough to say it was just a fling and we agreed to stop seeing each other and she'd still give me a good reference. The OK girl drugged me in our hotel room, took pics and sent them to my wife saying I was hers now and for the wife to back off. She's in prison now and I've spent more on therapy and marriage counseling than I ever did on sex. Still cheaper than divorce though.

Seriously dude. Holy shit! That’s good insight, thanks CBML.

Damn, I really am inexperienced!

[HarelDavid]

Ok I can speak on this from personal experience. There is 2 types of situations here. The 1st is she will use and abuse you until your broke or need extensive therapy. The 2nd is a genuine attraction begins then mutates into a relationship and then possibly into a getting married. I have had the 1st 30 yrs ago and now I am in the second for 10 plus yrs. 1st you can not assume if you become the main guy they will stop the hobby nor can you even request it. They have to make that decision. 2nd I advise a longgggggggggggg courting an dating period before anything gets to the M word. Ok now you have to control your emotions and protect your pocket book. I do hope your friend is single. If not tell him to run run run. Can it work out. YES I know of 2 other situations besides my own where it has went from business to the M word and is very successful and everyone is happy. Trust honesty and communication are key!! Let me repeat that trust honesty and communication are key. If you lie to yourself or her and vice versa it will not work. Any more specific question feel free to DM me. MOST OF THE TIME THOUGH IT DOES NOT WORK OUT!!!

[Asianfab]

Who is this girl anyways..

[Bames Jond]

Originally Posted by HarelDavid

Ok I can speak on this from personal experience. There is 2 types of situations here. The 1st is she will use and abuse you until your broke or need extensive therapy. The 2nd is a genuine attraction begins then mutates into a relationship and then possibly into a getting married. I have had the 1st 30 yrs ago and now I am in the second for 10 plus yrs. 1st you can not assume if you become the main guy they will stop the hobby nor can you even request it. They have to make that decision. 2nd I advise a longgggggggggggg courting an dating period before anything gets to the M word. Ok now you have to control your emotions and protect your pocket book. I do hope your friend is single. If not tell him to run run run. Can it work out. YES I know of 2 other situations besides my own where it has went from business to the M word and is very successful and everyone is happy. Trust honesty and communication are key!! Let me repeat that trust honesty and communication are key. If you lie to yourself or her and vice versa it will not work. Any more specific question feel free to DM me. MOST OF THE TIME THOUGH IT DOES NOT WORK OUT!!!

Thank you brutha, huge help and I really appreciate the insight.

Needed a vector check from the community before pushing forward.

It really sucks…amazing gal, we have a great time…but I think this’ll have to level off as is.

[405Newguy]

Originally Posted by CantBuyMeLove

If you're single, understand you can't get possessive. You know her job and what it entails.

If you're married, speaking from experience, run like hell and block her, unless you are looking for a divorce. I had 2 that I got too close to, a Texas girl and an Oklahoma girl. TX girl dropped the "I Love You" on me and I was smart enough to say it was just a fling and we agreed to stop seeing each other and she'd still give me a good reference. The OK girl drugged me in our hotel room, took pics and sent them to my wife saying I was hers now and for the wife to back off. She's in prison now and I've spent more on therapy and marriage counseling than I ever did on sex. Still cheaper than divorce though.

If your single, run like hell.
If your married, run like hell.
Don't get close to any of these girls no matter what your relationship status is. I'm telling you....don't do it.

[Bames Jond]

Thanks 405. Great advice…I really do appreciate it.

I feel like a goofball at times…the ladies are amazing but sometimes they pull at the heartstrings pretty hard