Anxiety

[Philly Scott]

I was just wondering. Between fears of LOE, scams. Exposure etc does anyone else suffer from anxiety in the hobby? I’ve met one provider in the last 12 months but I’ve spent $2,000 paying providers I never met because I got unnerved by LOE, felt too self conscious to meet someone out of my league etc Does anyone else have this issue? I have I guess good taste but after agreeing a meet I get intimidated by how hot a lady is, feel unworthy, cancel but feel guilty for doing so then pay her anyway even though we never met. The one provider I did meet I almost bailed on as I freaked out as two cop cars where outside the hotel but she was texting back and forth with me and I got the giste she was legit and I rolled the dice and I had a great time and actually really loved her not in a pure love way but in a “I love this chick she’s honest and cool” which was Alex Ford. Since then I’ve just got spooked being paranoid about about stings after one provider went MIA for a bit then resurfaced and I worried maybe ate got busted and it was a LOE sting. Then another who I really really think is beautiful but I just got intimidated by how hot she is and felt unworthy so bailed but paid her anyway. Is this just a me problem or does this happen to anyone else?

For context, I’ve never been confident around women. I realize this is a business transaction but I still feel like if someone is hot and I’m not that money or no money she’s gonna be disappointed in me and that in itself destroys my confidence and virility. Anyone else have this issue and if so, how do you get past it?

[Lubeman]

Get out

[Zippo65]

Originally Posted by Lubeman

Get out

BAHAHAHAHA!!!! Harsh, Lube!!!

[Juanpancho]

You may not have the stomach for the wet work. Honestly real dating is probably an easier way to get laid nowadays anyway. Do what it takes to get some confidence and go smash ass. We’re all on your side.

[badboy45tfm]

Originally Posted by Philly Scott

I was just wondering. Between fears of LOE, scams. Exposure etc does anyone else suffer from anxiety in the hobby? I’ve met one provider in the last 12 months but I’ve spent $2,000 paying providers I never met because I got unnerved by LOE, felt too self conscious to meet someone out of my league etc Does anyone else have this issue? I have I guess good taste but after agreeing a meet I get intimidated by how hot a lady is, feel unworthy, cancel but feel guilty for doing so then pay her anyway even though we never met. The one provider I did meet I almost bailed on as I freaked out as two cop cars where outside the hotel but she was texting back and forth with me and I got the giste she was legit and I rolled the dice and I had a great time and actually really loved her not in a pure love way but in a “I love this chick she’s honest and cool” which was Alex Ford. Since then I’ve just got spooked being paranoid about about stings after one provider went MIA for a bit then resurfaced and I worried maybe ate got busted and it was a LOE sting. Then another who I really really think is beautiful but I just got intimidated by how hot she is and felt unworthy so bailed but paid her anyway. Is this just a me problem or does this happen to anyone else?

For context, I’ve never been confident around women. I realize this is a business transaction but I still feel like if someone is hot and I’m not that money or no money she’s gonna be disappointed in me and that in itself destroys my confidence and virility. Anyone else have this issue and if so, how do you get past it?

When I first started out I had the anxiety too. Read the reviews and definitely start out with the providers that have been around for awhile,they know how to handle the newbie jitters. Also some will setup a meet and greet let's say like a lunch date for a smaller fee. Definitely a good way to help getting your feet wet

[SouthOfKC]

What's LOE? Wrong term for Leo?

[Cherokeechief]

Gentlemen I just fought thru the Pain. LMAO
Sorry, I just had to.

Badboy has some good advice.

[Boredinop]

Sounds to me like this hobby is not for you. Perfect target to be taken advantage of terribly………

[Lubeman]

Originally Posted by Boredinop

Sounds to me like this hobby is not for you. Perfect target to be taken advantage of terribly………

+1000

[Boredinop]

BTW for what it's worth if you have the $$$$$ in your pocket you're Brad Pitt for an hour or two.........

[seekinggradeAbj]

This dude hits the nail on the head. Lots of opportunity for action in the real world with a little effort and a lot less $.

I don't pay women to have sex with me, I pay them to leave afterward.

Find a reliable woman who is mature in the hobby.

You can also repeat with A Ford if you like, maybe the repetition will help overcome your fear of normalizing deviance.

Anyone who says they weren't nervous when they started are liars or drunks!


Best of luck, buddy.

Originally Posted by Juanpancho

You may not have the stomach for the wet work. Honestly real dating is probably an easier way to get laid nowadays anyway. Do what it takes to get some confidence and go smash ass. We’re all on your side.

[dumars]

Originally Posted by Philly Scott

II’ve spent $2,000 paying providers I never met

There’s just something wrong with that statement!

I’ve shelled out some bucks to ladies I’ve never met too and others I have met! Usually needing help after getting into some kind of trouble, legal or personal! And I’m 110% positive I’m not the only one!!! But $2K???

[Zippo65]

Anyone who says they weren't nervous when they started are liars or drunks!

Absolutely!!!

But.......$2K is WAY too much to have lost already.

[kcjbc58]

It is natural to be nervous,but think of it as a statistical improbability for getting busted. Much higher chance of being in a bad car accident or getting mowed over by a tornado. Yet, we all drive and we all live in the Midwest. I think escort activity is a low priority with LE. Sex trafficing is another issue, but not hobbying.

In a very short time, you can get 2, 3, or 4 regulars. Your communication with them is nothing more than a text saying," Can we get together this week? Maybe Thursday at 7?" She will respond "yes" or suggest another time. Nothing more needs to be said or implied. If you are a regular, she knows what you want and for how long. Hard for LE to prosecute that.Busting a few girls and their clients is just a drop in the bucket. Nothing changes. Afterall, there are probably cops who hobby.

[bigkansas1]

Unfortunately, this "hobby" may not be for you. I think for your own sanity and ease of anxiety, you should stop trying to "pay for play" and just get out there in the dating scene. Join a dating app and swipe right to your hearts content! Nothing "illegal" about dating apps, so your anxiety should subside. Plus...you won't drain your life savings in the process! $2k in and you are just starting back at it again....WOW!