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Nikki Tylor · 01-27-2022, 09:51 AM

Curious if and how that works for providers and guys . I know a few ladies who are married and have boyfriends actually more common then not especially these days to where when I first started the hobby it was a big NO NO for the ladies . Does that turn you on to know your with someone’s lady and potentially seeing them knowing that they are having unprotected sex with their partner then your next ? Curious how you all think about that topic .

Lady’s how are you able to separate yourself to see other men when your in a relationship without feeling guilty or feeling pimped out by your guy?

We are all wired differently I can only speak for myself I can not for I am more of a emotionally attached lady and would find this extremely difficult.

Hope to get some honest and good feedback - always been curious .

redfish15 · 01-27-2022, 10:22 AM

It’s never been a big deal to me if she has a guy/boyfriend/husband etc. (or girlfriend &#128521

only bothers me if she talks about him a lot. You can mention it but don’t start a bitch session about what he does that pisses you off or that he doesn’t treat you good. Im not a counselor—I’m just there for a passionate fling with a sexy woman. The really great ladies, of which I count you as one of, make the guy feel like a king for the time they are together. Who they go home to afterwards is none of my business. Good topic👍

DallasRain · 01-27-2022, 02:00 PM

as most people know here..i am married..it will be 40yrs in february!
he is my partner in everything...especially playtime!
we have an honest open relationship.
we have gals we play with on the sude together and i have even hired providers for his pleasure!
we also do mfm playtimes in the hobby realm..have several reviews on here..did a couple gangbangs w hobbyists on here when we lived in Nola..still have hobbysist we play with...
AND outside the hobby! i luv being his hotwife and he luvs sharing me!!

to ne theres no jealousy,no competition...no drama...just honest ooen minded fun!!!!!!

Cherokeechief · 01-27-2022, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by DallasRain

as most people know here..i am married..it will be 40yrs in february!
he is my partner in everything...especially playtime!
we have an honest open relationship.
we have gals we play with on the sude together and i have even hired providers for his pleasure!
we also do mfm playtimes in the hobby realm..have several reviews on here..did a couple gangbangs w hobbyists on here when we lived in Nola..still have hobbysist we play with...
AND outside the hobby! i luv being his hotwife and he luvs sharing me!!

to ne theres no jealousy,no competition...no drama...just honest ooen minded fun!!!!!!

Dallas, you and your husband are unique in that respect. My hat is off to you. I have to mostly agree with Nikki as far as I'm concerned.

I believe you are the only married Provider I've been with.

I had a great time too.

I guess as she said I'm just not wired to do that with a married Provider all the time.

Guess that's the old fashioned coming out in this old guy.

albundy · 01-27-2022, 09:55 PM

Don’t know, don’t care. That’s her issue to deal with. If she wants to cuckold her man, that’s on her.

danno123 · 01-27-2022, 09:56 PM

For me it’s a therapy session, just me and the lady. I just want that kind of fun, no outside drama wanted.

gimme_that · 01-29-2022, 04:34 AM

I’m sure theres more than a few reason ladies arent as easily availiable the weekend coming up before valentines. Sheed I’ve tried to book that whole weekend in advance but I know by the time valentines day Monday comes around she won’t have any energy left for her bae come Valentine’s Day Monday. He will have to settle for head since she saw me and broke too much bread. Lol.

I’d be more open to seeing a lady who was married. Versus a lady that dates and is booed up. Hubby probably has an arrangement with other ladies and don’t really want it as much anymore. They are more stable with their choices and I’m sure more controlled.

Sometimes ladys dating choices aren’t the best who do this at the same time. But if a lady is dating a dude I don’t want to play second fiddle activity wise to a guy she dates and technically fucks for free while I pay. A married provider is far different because I feel as though he has paid his dues.

But yeah if I’m knowingly paying to see a lady that has a relationship of any type part of the strong appeal I’d do either the same or more of what they already do. Guys might not admit that most times but I’m being honest.

If the boyfriend is in jail I consider that fair game. I’ve gladly had silent sex and slid it in while a lady was on a prison call with her bae telling him “she loves him and misses him.” Knowing I’m facilitating putting something on his books for the small price of glazing his honeybuns makes it worth it. Dude needs snacks. Better me than their opps.

I only hobby myself when I am single. I couldn’t imagine hobbying while being in a relationship. That could make pair bonding a bit of a challenge based on all the talents ladys have here.

The stuff I expect and like done from providers is in stark contrast to activities I might expect in a relationship. So there’s that……

DATYMAN · 01-29-2022, 12:48 PM

If the guy,(your BF) doesn't mind it most likely gets him off in some kind of way. It goes on all the time, more so as we get older. I was recently seeing a lady who had a BF in the area who had a local biz, guy was nothing to look at all. She was and is using him for his money and stuff and me for well? You know what.

Viking2020 · 01-29-2022, 05:41 PM

I know I am different than most and I am not making judgements on any one else, but I don’t like seeing ladies who have a boyfriend or husband. I realize some do but I don’t like it for me personally. It completely destroys the visit for me.

myren1900 · 01-29-2022, 07:23 PM

Well, we already know that our “time-share girl friends” have a dozen or more regular clients, so having one that pays them in other ways than an hourly rate doesn’t make a lot of difference, as long as it’s not a pimp who takes advantage of them.

Nikki Tylor · 01-31-2022, 07:42 AM

Thank you to all for corresponding with open and honest answers through the perception of your point of views . I love hearing and learning how certain things might work for others that has always peaked my interest.

Audreyg · 02-05-2022, 09:54 PM

I have been working as Audrey for seven years, and I’ve always dated in some capacity in my personal life, sometimes it was more casual and other times I’ve had long term relationships. I have always been upfront about my business with people I’m seeing, and I don’t feel guilty about who I am. A lot of people can’t handle that or it’s just not for them, and that’s ok too.

Having a dating life outside of work feels healthy for me. I like having that intimacy & those needs met outside of work. It helps me keep clearer boundaries with my clients and focus on meeting their needs, because I am coming to it already emotionally fulfilled from my personal life. I know for some guys knowing I have a partner can ruin their fantasy, but I find that a little ironic as none of them would enjoy being treated like they are my boyfriend, which includes a lot of unsexy expectations & commitments…all the things I’ve always assumed clients are paying to not have to deal with.

holmes50 · 02-06-2022, 06:30 AM

As a rule I don’t hobby when in a relationship, otherwise I could care less if she has a real life partner.

Pooyie! · 02-06-2022, 01:09 PM

... that I'd have seeing a Provider who is known to be married or to date outside of her work would be that during our date I might encounter that husband or boyfriend who might not know that she is a Provider.

I guess that is just another reason to give more more weight, when researching Providers, to ladies like Nikki and Audrey who have been doing this for some years, and have demonstrated in various ways their maturity, intelligence, and good sense. Providing requires all those things, and Providers have various opportunities to convey those qualities to potential clients, which will hopefully improve the quality of clients attracted to her.

Pooyie! · 02-06-2022, 04:57 PM

... I feel a little stupid reading my last post. It occurred to me that I probably should be more concerned about encountering a jealous client during a date than a jealous husband or boyfriend. But perhaps it still makes my point that mature, intelligent, thoughtful Providers take care in attracting, selecting, and communicating with both friends and clients. I'm very interested in hearing ideas from both clients and Providers to avoid such situations.