Tips for new hobbyist?

[GingerKatt]

Above all, be RESPECTFUL! “Stick it in something that isn’t quality”. Ick.
Many excellent, medium priced providers like myself are newbie friendly if you are willing to supply alternative screening. We wouldn’t have good reputations and great reviews on Eccie and P411 if we weren’t discreet.

Look for ladies that aren’t teens, a more mature lady is generally more reliable with more reviews and a good rep on the board. You can post an ISO for newbie friendly ladies, give an age and Provider size range and location.

But above be a gentleman and respectful and save the dirty talk for BCD if the lady likes it. Put that in your ISO too, your likes and dislikes, and max amt you’d like to donate. I see you’re in Dallas too. Good, Dallas has quite a few newbie friendly providers of QUALITY. Like Alaine and myself.

Good luck. Do a lot of research on the one you choose, to see if there’s any negative threads on her.

Also write a couple of reviews after your sessions and make a few posts on your local board. Ladies seem more comfortable if you have reviews and posts. I do see you have two reviews, but on the same lady. So really just one. And only 5 posts.

[Nina the Dicknapper]

See newbie friendly ladies like me and I can be your reference

[JakeofTx]

Originally Posted by Alpine

Danni,
Fist thing is that you need to be polite and civil, insulting the ladies is a VERY good way to not have the opportunity to visit with any of them. Do a little review research in your area. You will find some ladies that will see you with little to no reviews. They most likely will ask for a lot of personnel information.

Good luck, may you find what you are looking for!

Add more information and a little character to your profile information. It shows you are a male in Dallas.

[JONBALLS]

always start off with five or ten cock pics to set the mood

[Fancyinheels]

Great advice in this topic, indeed.

I edit the Houston Newbie-Friendly Provider's List in the Bayou City. I saw a need for info and one static place for a constantly changing collection of carnal companions receptive to entertaining vouchless members just getting going in our wicked wonderland. I also author a Practical Primer for New Hobbyists, helpful tips posted on each page of the same continuing thread. Both are updated frequently as needed, some ladies dropping off the HNFPL for various reasons, others joining the project as eligible. There are strict requirements for provider inclusion to protect the safety of new Hobbyists.

https://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=1366691&page=34

New seekers of pleasure, welcome to ECCIE's promiscuous playground. Irish luck in lust!

[yourdesire]

Originally Posted by plainjoe

Read the Security thread - it has many good ideas.
In addition to the great advise given about P411, couple things to consider. Keep your real life and hobby life separate. In other words, get and use a separate hobby phone, e-mail account, not access hobby related items from work, no real life information to ladies, etc.
Good luck and be safe!

Real life info is needed to verify.That said any of you who are located in Ks or Mo. are welcome to contact me if you're willing to provide a little personal info. for verification. Just as you need to stay safe & clean so do providers & personally I stay discreet as possible.As for email I don't use Yahoo & definitely not Gmail Google likes to connect everything.

[RockThomas]

Originally Posted by yourdesire

Real life info is needed to verify.That said any of you who are located in Ks or Mo. are welcome to contact me if you're willing to provide a little personal info. for verification. Just as you need to stay safe & clean so do providers & personally I stay discreet as possible.As for email I don't use Yahoo & definitely not Gmail Google likes to connect everything.

On the google thing dear, just use a VPN connection to the Internet.
Puts a GREAT monkey wrench in Googles Algorithm!
Plus practice mis-information in the Boolean Search world!
Nothing more fun than to put some programmers panties in a bunch by fucking with his code! Yes I am a little strange! Lol!
P.S. I am still waiting to meet you dear!

[dj8rocks]

https://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=2154803

Our local mod, Biomed pointed out this thread a bit ago. It's got some really good info if someone takes the time to read thru the posts. Have fun and play safe. dj8

[steveo4321]

I posted this same post in a different threat about a newbie being afraid of LE stings but I think it's good advice in general.

Stick to well reviewed providers. I look for providers that have at least 3 or 4 recent reviews (if they are newer to the scene), preferably more. I also will check out some of the people reviewing the provider just to make sure they too have a history.

Stick with sites that have good reputations within the community. These include eccie, TOS, SA (which I admitly don't have a lot of experience with), and a few other sites with big names in the community. Paid membership to some of these sites will provide you all kinds of info.

Read reviews. Duh, this insures that you have a good experience. Also word of advice read the bad reviews. I have found that some providers can have a bunch of 8, 9s, and 10s and then maybe a random 5 or 6 thrown in there. READ those reviews. Sometimes they are BS and sometimes there is some hard truths in there that perhaps others failed or wished not to mention. I have found them valuable. Stay away from sites like back page. Most LE isn't going to focus on clients that are seeking mid to high end escorts. They are going after the low hanging fruit. That keeps them plenty enough busy. They are going after those that hang out in neighborhoods and street corners and lower property values. They are going after pimps. Three letter agencies are going after agencies more than anything imo. They want to combat trafficking and the such. I haven't used agencies in a long time simply because I've never seen one hang around for an exceptional long time and I don't want my name on their hard drives.

Be aware of photoshop/snapfilter pics, these I have found to be misleading. Look for the candids/selfies instead, they are a better representation of what to expect. I know a lot of ladies have professional shoots done the look outstanding. However a good photographer could probably make me look like Brad Pitt with the right lighting, skills, and software. When I first started out I went for the providers that had the perfect pictures that in retrospect were totally photoshopped. I would then be a little bit disappointed when I met them and they were the image of perfection that was presented in the pictures. I prefer the candids/selfies simply because this provides realistic expectations. At the very least if all you can find in the providers galleries are super awesome professional pics then study their reviews to at least she if the provider lives up to them.

I agree with the point of keeping your hobby life and real life separate. I too use different email and phone numbers. I'm also careful with what real world info I provide. If there is TOO much real world info that is needed for screening then sorry but I will just move on. I have found once you have established references, that is best. I also use an app that uses a different phone number than my normal phone number.

If you are doing incall then try and find out the hotel first. Study the hotels website and determine the typical dress code. Dress accordingly to blend in. All else fails, business casual works for most places. Don't ask directions to the room/suite or for the provider by name. The point is to not draw attention to yourself.

Outcall is a safe bet. I've also become more of a fan of outcall lately. LE won't want to waste resources on trying to sting one guy in an environment they can't control. I like it because I control the environment. I have my own particular atmosphere and types of hotels that I enjoy and this option allows me to have that. I can set up my own music, have my own food and drinks ready and more. I prefer suites because it feels more like home to me also. The only thing to remember is to make sure you be a gentleman and ensure the lady visiting you is comfortable. This is riskier for them because they obviously don't know you. So this makes you the host. Have food, drinks, your hygiene, and good conversation ready. These things will make your session oh so much better.

Longer is better. IMO the 1.5-2 hour time is the best. Depending on how much you are willing to spend I would suggest a quality provider for some quality time over an hour appointment (hour can really fly by). Getting to know each other and simply enjoying the company is one of my favorite parts and really makes the session too. I'm not a man of great wealth so I tend to be more cautious with who I spend my time and money on. So I want to make sure it is time and money well spent.

FOCUS ON HER! Ok so I've learn don't make it about you. It's not about the finish line but it's more about the journey. For me it's a real turn on when the lady is actually enjoying herself. So ask what she likes, how she likes it, and some direction. Most providers will be happy to see you care and take an interest in their desires and they will return the favor. For me this is also about always learning and it's fun.

Enjoy yourself and the anticipation. The nervousness you feel is a weird blend of excitement and anticipation. I've actually come to enjoy this part. The moment you knock on the door and you can hear the high heels on the other side walking to the door and it opens to unveil a beautiful woman is just some damn awesome.