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Nebraska69now · 11-13-2016, 08:10 PM

OK, so a friend works with someone who is partially paralyzed in a chair etc.
Found out he is a virgin (over 40).
Thinking of hiring someone for him.
Not sure if some would be willing to or not.

Thoughts, advice?

farmstud60 · 11-14-2016, 05:56 AM

If you are a member of P411 you can see if some are disability friendly. There is such a wide range of issues here that it is tough to give good information. But I would check on P411, and maybe a few providers will reach out to you and see if they could help you out.

Unique_Carpenter · 11-15-2016, 12:37 PM

Yes you'll be able to find a gal.
May take a bit of looking.

But,talk to the guy first.
Indirectly, as in: Has he dated?
If convo goes in the right direction...
You simply don't want to put him in a position of getting upset.
I have an extended family member in a chair due to an accident. He dates.
He used to have a chip on his shoulder about being in a chair and that took him a few years to get over before he started dating.

Nebraska69now · 11-16-2016, 02:38 AM

No he doesn't date. I don't want to be too detailed about him as it might identify him. But he is functional and wants it very very badly.

I just want to find someone that would be willing to be kind to him and not make him feel weird about it even though it would be his first.

shayla84 · 11-17-2016, 11:23 AM

I see people with disabilities. I don't know why anyone wouldn't there still people

MOCHAakaMOCHA · 11-17-2016, 09:33 PM

I'm very disability/disabled friendly. I don't plan on being back in the Nebraska area until early Spring though

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I definitely you hope can find someone else equally compassionate, caring and patient to show him a good time much sooner than I can return though.
farmstud60 is right though if you're a P411 member you'll find many ladies who list themselves as disability friendly (again i'm one of them).