Confusion

[yitzchak]

I have concluded many details in this story, because I am seeking guidance. If you don’t mind reading this and offering some advice, I will appreciate it. Thank you.



I met this girl who I really liked on a cam site. She asked me for financial help, and I was glad to help her, because she seems like an amazing girl. She is an escort, as well.



I supported her and paid her bills, even for her meals, for about two months. During that time we spoke on Skype and over the phone everyday. We talked about a lot of stuff, but most of the time I just tried to joke around with her as friends. We didn’t do anything sexual during this time, just talked. I only brought up sex a couple of times. She told me that we were friends and she was very thankful for my help. She even said that she loved me a few times, but I did not quite understand why. I think she may have been appreciative. I am confused about why she said that.



I told her about my troubles with women and how lonely I am. I am a 27 year old virgin. I'm not ugly. I'm just really shy, and I have low self esteem. It's very hard for me to attract girls. I've also been manipulated, scammed and lied to by many women while I was pursuing a girlfriend. She told me she would never do anything to hurt me like the other girls did. I thought she was the perfect girl, a Godsend who would cure my disease, to fix my soul and allow me to experience a woman for the first time, but not just any woman, She was the girl of my dreams. She told me that she thought it was hot that I was a virgin. She told me that my dream of being with her and losing my virginity would come true.



When she started her escorting work, I tried to set up an appointment with her. I talked to her on the phone about it, and she seemed okay with it. In retrospect, her voice seemed a little sad, like quiet and monotone. I asked her if she wanted to see me, and she paused for a moment and said if I scheduled with her, she will not deny me. Her response confused me, but I was so close to having the ultimate dream girl that I paid it no attention.



The night before our meeting, I called the agency, because I had not heard from her and they never asked for my phone number or what hotel I was staying at. The lady told me that this girl did not want to see me, and I should see another. I was shocked. I sent her many messages in tears, because I didn’t understand why. She texted me late that night and told me that she was booked for the entire time she was in my area and could not see me.



I believed her, but when I texted her a few days later to see how she was, I received no response. It seemed as though she was ignoring me. I began to panic and cry again. I sent her a lot of texts, a few a day, expressing my confusion, anxiety and sadness. I did not hear a word from her until I asked her whether she had scammed me, and told her that if she had then I would have to report her to the agency, because it wasn’t right.



She told me that it was not a scam and that we are still friends. I said I was sorry. I just didn’t hear from her in so long that I began to think she had disappeared. The last thing she said to me was that the agency didn’t care about me or what I would say. That was the last thing I heard from her, about one week ago.



That being the last thing she said didn’t really calm my nerves. I’ve been extremely stressed over this for about a month. I’ve been crying everyday and trying to contact her, but she no longer responds. I’ve received a lot of mixed messages, and I am terribly confused. I don’t understand what is happening. She made it seem like we had a buddy-buddy kind of relationship, but leaving me to rot in this kind of pain and confusion doesn’t seem friendly to me.



I don't have much money. I am actually very poor. I basically live in poverty. I expressed that to her when we first met. She said I shouldn't worry about it. She would pay me back. I told her she didn't have to pay me back, because, honestly, getting the chance just to sit in the same room with this woman would have been a dream come true for me, and that was worth everything I had in this world. However, she kept saying that she would give back to me for helping her. So, I kind of gave her a little more than I could afford. She seemed like a wonderful person. She was funny, she was cool, beautiful beyond belief and we seemed to get along really well.



Now, she seems to have cut me off. I don't know what to do. Should I believe what she has told me? Should I just leave her alone and believe everything is fine? Am I being a pest to her by texting too much? Maybe I got too emotionally involved, but why would she say that she loved me, that we were good friends and that she would never break my heart? To take a measly five thousand dollars from me, for what seemed like for fun or no reason at all? She makes way more than that in just one week. I'm a poor and lonely guy. Did she use that to take advantage of me? Why would she ruin my life for just 5k? She can make that much in one day. I can’t make sense of it. Do you think she just really did not like me after getting to know me? Did I do something wrong? Did I send too many texts, freak out too much and ruin my chances of ever speaking to her again? Maybe she realized that I’m too much of a loser to talk to her. I can’t tell if I’m being a weirdo by freaking out about this or if she really has used and manipulated me. Both are tearing me apart. I keep beating myself up for freaking out, thinking I have scared her away, and I keep crying, thinking she has scammed me.



I am very sad and confused right now. I need someone a little more experience than I to help me understand what is happening.

Thank you.

[Hawks222]

I'm sorry for your situation. I am a similar person, shy and I clam up when around girls.

I hate to say it but it sounds like a classic case of you getting played. Some providers don't give a hoot about anything but money. There are some that genuinely care about their clients, I truly believe this.

Advice to you. Head up. Find a provider, have a fun night with her and forget about this last girl. Getting your heart broke is the worst feeling in the world I think. I dated a girl for 5 years and bought a ring to propose. We ended up fighting one day about something stupid and it kept going and going for days. Fighted about other things. I begged her i wanted to be done fighting. She didn't. Eventually we broke up. I became depressed and went on a binge eating adventure. Gained 50 lbs. looked back on it and it was best thing ever happened to me. Not the eating but not being with her. She was a big prude. I get laid more now seeing providers. I'm 31 and single. I don't mind if I am the rest of my life. I can get laid whenever I want, buy whatever I want, go wherever I want.

[bilbobaggin]

Best advise is go see a legitimate high class provider, and she can make all this go away.

[yitzchak]

I asked the moderator to delete this because I find it embarrassing

[yitzchak]

She is high class and has good reviews

I feel pretty worthless

It sucks because if I hadn't been nice and I never gave her anything, I could have seen her and become a regular or something. I could have been with her if I had never tried to help ...

[Kendall4U]

A high class lady would not behave in this manner, sorry. You were played and played in a big way. Is she an active provider on Eccie or P411? If so, I'd call her out so another guy might avoid the scammer. This is an info exchange site after all.

[ben dover]

Sounds like an episode of Catfish..

[yitzchak]

I've been thinking of reporting it, but I'm such a sap that I don't want to get her upset or destroy my chances of ever speaking to her again ...

Something just doesn't seem right about this ... I'm not getting the full story. I wish she would tell me what's going on.

If it is a scam, I don't understand why she would do this to me. She told me she makes around 60k a month. So, why destroy my life for such a small amount of money?

Maybe she needed the money to come to USA, but why lie about it? I would have paid for that willingly. Maybe she just really did not like me and we didn't really get along as well as I thought.

It's this confusion and the no response, silence, that is killing me. She seems to have great reviews. It seems unusual for her to do this. Even if she thought I was a nerd, I never intended to do anything but to be nice to her.

I would really like to speak with her about this. It doesn't appear as though she has blocked my phone or skype yet. Although I am experiencing a lot of heart ache and stress over this. I would like to give her some time to herself and I'll try to contact her again. I think on her birthday next month.

[SA Angel]

First off, you were getting played.

Secondly, she broke it off because you are acting like a crazy person and would have been way too much trouble in the long run.

2500 a month for being constantly in contact with you isn't a bad deal honestly. Some sugar daddies pay more. She might have liked just being friends with you and you asking to see her as an escort crossed the line and she worried how obsessive you are.

You didn't help things by texting her over and over after she tried to distance herself from you.

She didn't help things by lying to you and telling you she was in love you.

Move on. If you stick around be prepared for women to refuse to see you based on your posts. It really sounds like you are emotionally unstable and could end up stalking someone. I'm not saying that you would....but it certainly SOUNDS like it could be possibility to the paranoid ladies around here.

[burkalini]

Don't listen to the stalking comment the previous poster said.

Plain and simple this girl used you. She could tell you anything because in her mind she didn't have to see you in person. This includes telling you she loved you. She's a piece SHT. There are ladies in this line that are responsible and do what they say they will. They set boundries up front in that it's a paid connection only. I respect that. When they use your emotion to get a few extra bucks to me they are the scum of the trade. Call her bluff. Tell her agency exactly what happened. If you get her fired I say great she deserved it

[Tiny]

Based on your first post, I'd say save up another $5,000 and go to someplace like the Philippines and bang about 25 professionals. After that start screwing nonpros there. And use condoms. That should straighten your head out.

However, I believe you're playing us. The woman potentially needed $5,000 to come to the USA. But now she's here and making $60,000 a month. Yeah, right.

[yitzchak]

I know I was a bit too emotional and possibly sounded like a crazy person, but I mean well. I never did anything or would do anything to disrespect her. I'm a loveless virgin. She should have told me not to get emotionally invested. I understand where you're coming from and I see many mistakes that I made. I asked her if I could be her boyfriend and I told her I was in love with her. Maybe I crossed the line, but there were no clear cues to tell me that I did ... I wish I could have been more confident. Being ignored caused me to become very insecure and emotional. I wish so much that I could go back and be mr cool and collective, but I can't. I was overly emotional and I texted too much. I can see her reasons for not wanting to see me.

I'm not a crazy person or a stalker. I just became too attached and too emotional. I looked and she has a review on this site. It's a perfectly positive review. So, maybe I did bring this on myself. Maybe it was my fault for being a bad client. I'm beginning to think that might have been the reason.

I was stupid to act that way. She told me a few times that she just wanted to be friends, even though she did say I love you a few times. Maybe we both made some mistakes here.

[Tiny]

Originally Posted by SA Angel

2500 a month for being constantly in contact with you isn't a bad deal honestly. Some sugar daddies pay more.

That's a really bad deal, and 99% of the time something like that happens it's a scam. The other 1%, the guy is an idiot. Would you or any other honest, reputable provider here treat men like that? No way.

[yitzchak]

She said she would be my first girlfriend when we first met ... I didn't believe it lol but it was still confusing to say.

[cherno]

Originally Posted by yitzchak

She said she would be my first girlfriend when we first met ... I didn't believe it lol but it was still confusing to say.

You got played time to write her off and see a seasoned provider to get your mind off things.