Has this ever happened, if so how common

[Nmguy]

Hello all!I'm new to hobby and to site. Recently I had a appointment with a provider,but didn't go as planned. It was my 1st time to actually meet up,and damn the nerves lol! To start when I arrived at the room,bundle of nerves, k locked to have a mans voice answer yes!? Was thinking she has a deep voice,must be something I missed! I MSG my provider back only to find out in wrong building but kinda took me as playing games,which she said so politely. Ok problem figured out,more importantly she was a she😄 arrived a right location and was greeted by a pretty young lady,but by this time I was sweating and a bundle of nerves. We hung out and l just couldn't shake the nerves,even as she attempted to help me relax by talking with me,small talk. We spent time just talking some,then I left. My question is:is this common? Or just me personally? Please sound off and let me know! ! Thanks!

[utrlbk1976]

Everyone is different. The first time there are definitely a lot of nerves. However, that doesn't completely go away. A lot of guys enjoy that feeling and it adds to the experience. If I were you, I would try it again if you are interested. However, I will say that this hobby isn't for everyone. I've had a couple of times, I didn't get cooperation from the little guy for whatever reason. Best of luck.

[haymitch]

I have been there more times than I care to admit. I have PTSD, nothing violent or crazy, just makes me nervous when meeting people in a one-on-one situation, as well all know, nerves can kill performance. I can do massage parlors, the noise helps me relax, but one-on-one with a provider, whether I can perform seems to be a 50/50 chance of hit or miss due to nerves. Every now and then I will find a provider and give it a shot, sometimes everything works out well, more often it just doesn't happen. Even when nothing happens, i view it as a chance to meet a new person, have a decent conversation, and practice calming my nerves for the next time

Finding someone understanding for a regular thing may be a good idea, (I have yet to find someone, but our situations are different) that way you are more relaxed, but understandably, there is always that first meeting. Even a non-performing meeting is a great chance to see a pretty lady, and have a nice conversation. You are new, so you may just need more visits under your belt to get a feel for how things work.

Unfortunately for me, I shy away from meeting ECCIE ladies, because, for one, it's embarrassing (I can't explain my PTSD to everyone, and when I do say I have PTSD, people assume I am a crazy), so I simply shy away from meeting ECCIE ladies, and hit the Massage Parlors for some manual relief instead, not the greatest, I know i am missing out, but the nerves don't act up as bad. Maybe you should try a massage parlor a few times?

All I can say is, I feel your pain, never give up, sooner or later, you will have a good time. I am sure there are understanding ladies out there that will put you at ease.

ok, I said enough.

Keep trying!

[JohnnyYanks]

Some suggestions:

Buy a longer session next time -- allows time for nerves and time for fucking;

Ask for her to undress you and start with a massage;

Choose an experienced lady, not just the hottest one -- she'll have met and dealt with your type before and know what to do;

Reset your expectations to: have a fun time;

Those are a few ideas that come to mind. There's plenty more. Good luck.

[mid123]

Have a couple beers/cocktails before to loosen up a little, but don't overdo it because then you can have performance issues again, damn whiskey dick.

[Zgirl2]

Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

Some suggestions:

Buy a longer session next time -- allows time for nerves and time for fucking;

Ask for her to undress you and start with a massage;

Choose an experienced lady, not just the hottest one -- she'll have met and dealt with your type before and know what to do;

Reset your expectations to: have a fun time;

Those are a few ideas that come to mind. There's plenty more. Good luck.

Great advice!

[westtexasbrowser]

Don't fret it. My first P4P experience was equally awkward. It'll get better. Be patient grasshopper.

[Ms Francisca]

Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

Some suggestions:

Choose an experienced lady, not just the hottest one -- she'll have met and dealt with your type before and know what to do;

Reset your expectations to: have a fun time;

Those are a few ideas that come to mind. There's plenty more. Good luck.

Great Advice!!

This situation happened to me last night. We talked for 2hrs and no BCD. Poor guy was so nervous it took him 1hr to stop stuttering.

I sent him a message this morning and invited him to visit me again tonight.

Tonight....I will have lavender candles, wine, my favorite flamenco music, a little food, I will wear my red sexy dress and seduce him as soon as he walks in my door....

Besos, Francisca

[Nmguy]

Thanks for all the advice and sharing,this helps me to move forward,now that this is somewhat common.bet next time goes better��

[Nmguy]

Originally Posted by Ms Francisca

Great Advice!!

This situation happened to me last night. We talked for 2hrs and no BCD. Poor guy was so nervous it took him 1hr to stop stuttering.

I sent him a message this morning and invited him to visit me again tonight.

Tonight....I will have lavender candles, wine, my favorite flamenco music, a little food, I will wear my red sexy dress and seduce him as soon as he walks in my door....

Besos, Francisca

That's awesome! Sure wish San Antonio was closer