Any genuine sadists here?

[Ms. Milani]

Actually that's very incorrect. A REAL Sadist would offer aftercare. I'm a sadist and masochist. In the BDSM scene aftercare if very important. Everyone offers it from rope tops to sadists to dominants. At least they should.

As a sadist, it amuses the hell out of me to physically hurt someone. I was shocking this guy's dick once and I couldn't stop giggling as he was squirming on the floor in pain.

Please do some research into the bdsm scene. There's websites and books so there's plenty of knowledge out there.

A lot of people are making statements that are very untrue. Also you don't need someone to be the "one" you to cause you pain. You can if you're into that. There's many ways to dominate people. Not just one size fits all. For example, I'm a sadist yes but I'm a Mistress. You do what the fuck I say or leave me the fuck alone because you're not worthy. Now if someone wants to dominate me then they will have to physically take me down to assert dominance. I'm also a primal. The bdsm world is so huge and there's no one size fits all.

[Ms. Milani]

I also would like to talk about the point of aftercare. When you do a "Scene" (rope, impact, etc) it causes your endorphin to rush and you get a "high" from it. But whatever goes up.....must come down. The drop can occur within hours or days after playing. It can cause the person to become irritable, extremely depressed, etc. If the drop is severe enough it can push a person into depression. So it's always vital to make sure everyone gets good aftercare. Which is typically cuddles, sex (for some), chocolate, and protein (beef jerky is a fave). This helps smooth the landing for whomever drops. Also checking in on the bottom/sub over the next few days to ensure they are ok.

Tops, dominants, etc can also drop. They get what's called a "top high".

Aftercare is vital. Regardless of title.

[Naughtyandbad]

Those last two replies have me at full attention!!!

[TheOtherMan]

I can't speak for the sadists in the room but I'm pretty much a perfect masochist. A true "pain puppy" as one domina once put it. If you can dish it, I can take it.

[*GoddessDallas*]

Originally Posted by cowboy8055

I would think it takes a truly mean and sadistic personality to do extreme CBT. I'm talking kicking and punching to the point where the guy's sack is purple and the size of a large grapefruit or putting cigarettes out on it. Probably takes a mean sadistic personality to administer that.

NOT AT ALL, Cowboy.
In fact, just the opposite.
I would NEVER put a cigarette out on someone.
I know what I am doing and would never rupture someone.
There is constant communication throughout my CBT sessions.

There may be real sadists out there or people who will harm someone unintentionally.
That is why men go to people who have experience with their jewels.

[*GoddessDallas*]

Originally Posted by TheOtherMan

I can't speak for the sadists in the room but I'm pretty much a perfect masochist. A true "pain puppy" as one domina once put it. If you can dish it, I can take it.

Come to Dallas, sweet baby!♥

[cowboy8055]

Originally Posted by *GoddessDallas*

NOT AT ALL, Cowboy.
In fact, just the opposite.
I would NEVER put a cigarette out on someone.
I know what I am doing and would never rupture someone.
There is constant communication throughout my CBT sessions.

There may be real sadists out there or people who will harm someone unintentionally.
That is why men go to people who have experience with their jewels.

My comment wasn't directed at you. You don't strike me as a cruel person. There are some truly sadistic women out there that are just simply cruel. And probably a bit nuts.

[JadeRose]

Mistress Obscene Francine in Austin... seriously. She delights in humiliation and sadism, and frowns at defiance and appeasement. I highly recommend any true blue masochist to contact her.

[The Infamous One]

"QUOTE=LoveToPlease2016;105825 3193]Ok let me explain something..... We do not get off from your pain, well not completely don't get me wrong I do enjoy it a hell of a lot, but it's also about the pleasure you are receiving through the pain. Now me personally, I will test all of hard limits. Fuck the soft limits you are used to. If you are willing I am so able. I lovea sub who is so eager to please me."

I am not convinced that I am a true sadist, because I am getting off on what I am able to make you feel. Like she said, I enjoy that you enjoy the pain/pleasure.

There was once when I got a little out of control with my slave. We did lots of aftercare and had great communication. I was more disturbed than my slave. It genuinly scared me. After that, I started to re-evaluate my life. I had an errand boy, 2 sissy maids, one dedicated slave, a few pain sluts and a personal chef/sissy maid.

I just stopped all of it. I suppose I was having mixed feelings and thought it was becoming unhealthy for me, personally.

I sure would not mind having a pain slut submissive that loved humiliation. Separately, having a fun sissy maid or slave that enjoyed servitude once a week would be a good balance for me, I think.

If I could do some intense roleplay sessions, sometimes, I'd be a happy camper!!!
Kink massage is also a fun/safe way to introduce BDSM or sensual domination. I really get off on introducing people to the lighter, more sensual side of if.

I miss roleplay the most, but don't see myself becoming a full time Pro Domme again. Like everything else in hobbyland, I only do things when I am in the mood or else burn out will come quickly.

Balance is key.

[Fancylady]

Move on and enjoy life.

[Victoria of Houston]

I agree with what some others have said.

Someone who is a "true" sadist would be someone I would be quite worried to be around, let alone to let touch me. A true sadist takes only pleasure in your pain and has no concern for your pleasure or well being whatsoever.

It sounds to me that you desire to meet a lady who genuinely and naturally loves to dominate men.

Domination starts in the mind. Speaking from a more submissive side, I don't want a man to dominate me who is overtly egotistical or feels the need to exert his dominance at all times. It starts on a mental level for me. Someone who can quietly yet assertively take control of me and exploit me.

I think there are many true dominate ladies out there and sure you should be able to meet her at some point.