Thoughts on dating co-workers?

[Blue_eyed_shy_guy]

I don't think the reward outweighs the risk.

[RICKDOG8]

I would do it for one simple reason...she asked you out. Anything that happens beyond needs to stay out of the workplace. I agree that it could get a little awkward if something went wrong but you could also date some stalker ass chick out in the RW and have crazy shit happen so there's risk in either scenario. I say do it but take it slooooow and proceed with caution.

[Skip_8]

RandB fan has some great advice!

One question you should ask yourself, "is this job losing over a piece of ass or possible LTR?".

Be aware that there are predatory women that insinuate, come on, and even proposition men to trap them for devious reasons. I know of a few women that would entice men so that they could run to their SO, boss, or friends and make said guy look like a jerk that was trying to assault or hit on them 'unprovoked'. Troublemakers, homewreckers that have a screw loose.

If you can afford a new start at a new company, go for it. Why not, it's only a job. If the pussy seems that good, it will be worth it.

Originally Posted by RICKDOG8

I would do it for one simple reason...she asked you out. Anything that happens beyond needs to stay out of the workplace. I agree that it could get a little awkward if something went wrong but you could also date some stalker ass chick out in the RW and have crazy shit happen so there's risk in either scenario. I say do it but take it slooooow and proceed with caution.

[primechoose3133]

Had several at work flings , While you probably won't have to worry about sexual harassment; the piercing " I should have stabbed you in the head with a butter knife when I had the chance " looks and Jilted angry presence will be inescapable . Dipping your pen in the company ink can also hinder your career, H.R. and management frown upon it due to the drama that it can cause.

[Skip_8]

I had a work fling once. She said, "We should go for drinks."...You know what she meant, "We should fuck". So We went out for drinks then on to her place for some fucking as soon as we were nice and buzzed.

The main reason I did go for it was because I had known this woman for years. We had a mutual respect even though she was a bitch on wheels to a number of people. She had a good work ethic, delivered and if you were a slacker ....well.

Anyways after getting to know here and her BFF at work I felt comfortable enough to know that there were going to be no serious repercussions. She was't going to go to HR, She wasn't trying to play games, She wasn't Evil so to speak.

Had I not known her so well, there is no way in hell that I would have gone for it.

She went on to have some boyfriends and got married. We stayed platonic friends for a while until we drifted our separate ways.

[Lightesttouch]

If this is a true story than you likely knew the answer in your gut before posting the question.

If you think coming home to a bad marriage after a stressful day at work is unbearable then just wait until you have to drive into work with that "knife in the chest" feeling of anxiety.

So what if your boss knows about it. Both of you will still have to deal with the tension and office rumors.

She'll be just as susceptible to your office behavior when she bruises your male ego as you will be to her possible "woman scorned" reaction.

The odds are far higher of a pissed off guy bragging by the water cooler than of a woman publicly disclosing her sexual affairs thus risking her professional reputation.

[Skip_8]

Originally Posted by RandB fan

In the past I have had this happen many times, I was required by policy to inform my superior...It ended when I became her boss and yes it sucked knowing she was fucking the next me who was my employee too.

You'd be wise to clam up and not tell a soul. I did not brag nor hint to anyone about it. She got hers, I got mine, and no one lese needed to know...expect her bbf who was cool.

We all played it cool and that's all she wrote!

[RandB fan]

Originally Posted by RandB fan

In the past I have had this happen many times, I was required by policy to inform my superior about being approached. I later took the same policy and put it to use.

If you start a physical, business, or romantic relationship with a co worker it must be disclosed to your supervisor by the person being approached. No exceptions upon possible disciplinary action including separation.

All supervisors put this info into a data file and shared it, under the radar, if this person has done this before and if there were any concerns. If there were major problems, she would have been dismissed, but sometimes transfered out of state. Later if there is a problem where the company suffers from it the person who approached another employee for sex, relationship, or investment would be the person fired.

I personally have always notified my boss that I was approached or was going to approach another and have always received great information before shooting myself in the foot. Once that she claimed rape against a co worker...

I now don't have the opportunity since I am THE BOSS and the lawyers told me "no fucking way."

There was this redhead, back before getting married, who told me that she just wanted a roll in the rack, nothing more, my boss told me she was worth losing a job over!!! It ended when I became her boss and yes it sucked knowing she was fucking the next me who was my employee too.

I could tell you some of the fun my lawyer told me I could have when someone came to me....

[icuminpeace]

I was always told not to shit where I ate. Terrible idea, and I learned the hard way.

[Skip_8]

Originally Posted by icuminpeace

I was always told not to shit where I ate. Terrible idea, and I learned the hard way.

Can you share with the group?

[LeeBeezy]

Sounds like the bases are covered. The biggest problem would be if they lady could be perceived as a subordinate in any way... ie if you have any leverage to hold over her in terms of her employment. If the shit hit the fan and a lawsuit ever came to be, the lack of leverage or influence has to be clear. They will typically side with the complainant if there is any appearance of leverage.
Ths sound advice is to fish in other ponds... Unfortunately, we are men and the advice from our dicks seems to really make sense sometimes... Especially when they are cute and show interest.
Not saying it can't work... just saying it's potentially a mess if it does not... And those messes can vary in size and degree from embarrassment to unemployment and financial ruin.

[Billogoods]

I think you should tell her, "I am flattered you asked me out and I would love to get to know, really know you. But, I've been strongly advised to refrain from personal relationships with coworkers. I hate this advice because I could spend days licking your entire body, then fuck you till you cry for me to stop. So, I was wondering, do you have a sister? ...preferably younger and hotter?"
I guarantee this will solve your problem.

[icuminpeace]

Originally Posted by Skip_8

Can you share with the group?

Somehow I ended up going out to dinner with a co-worker, that turned to sex, that turned to dating and most of the execs where we worked didn't like her since she always said what she thought, no sugar coating anything. Oddly enough that's what attracted me to her, but my career in that place was stalled because of her. I was always asked when was I going to stop dating her in business meetings, it was horrible. She finally was let go and I was liked at work again. Somehow her rubbing people the wrong way also rubbed on me even though I had nothing to do with her attitude.

Never again, now I just fuck women from church.

[3daygetaway]

I agree that one should never get their pussy and their paycheck in the same place, and I say that having married (and divorced) a co-worker, BUT...wouldn't it make a shitty job better; to pop one's head over the cubicle wall and give a co-worker the raised eyebrow and smile, before slipping into the janitor's closet for a quickie?

I mean, I HATE my job, but there's this one co-worker who could make it FUN!