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Melissa Madyson · 01-11-2016, 08:01 AM

You asked and the masses replied... I am sorry you feel hurt by the responses and the truth.

Speaking as a plus size woman, I know it hurts sometimes to own it, but the facts still remain I AM the size I am...

My scales don't lie. My mirror is the true copy of myself.

If you feel like you are not a bigger girl, then perhaps you need to take different photos and lock up all the junk in your trunk....

The 1 photo of you in the black and white dress was flattering, but the other ones are not so much.

I am NOT hating on you, just speaking what I see from one plus size provider to another...

When you OWN it, then you can rock it!!

M.M.

Sexikitten · 01-11-2016, 08:38 AM

I don't feel hurt but to lock up my junk? Nooo!!! I worked hard for this trunk. All those miles of walking bc I cannot run will be flaunted. Lol. Seriously, I love my ass but I will reconsider my pics. If only I had time for a professional shoot. I do have a vacation day coming up... I think it's a three day weekend for me. Thanks.

Melissa Madyson · 01-11-2016, 09:54 AM

You don't have to take professional ones, you just have to take some that are flattering that accentuates your curves. No one is bashing you especially not myself, & I wasn't talking about your behind when I said junk in the trunk. I have a big trunk, and trust me my junk is not out there for everyone to see. I only show it in a good light, & I take flattering pictures so as not to make myself unattractive to the gentleman. But I guess I stand a better chance of winning the lottery, then you getting what I'm saying, or what other folks are saying. Everyone is trying to be polite, and the things we tell you should only help you and going forward to make your showcase better you should learn from some of us older people how it's done. I wish you luck!!!
M.M.

DallasRain · 01-11-2016, 11:37 AM

Ditto with MM....there are all body types here and ages here.....it all comes down to personality and persona!

Be the best you can be with what God gave you!! There are guys that will luv ya and guys that will not....so my attitude is "ya like me or you dont...if you do,fuck me...if you dont,fuck you"!! To the ones who do want ya...give em all ya got baby!!!!

Well I can say that "as an old lady hooker" I own mine! I still rock it for 53! I may not be the prettiest and sexiest or have the best hair & teeth...but dammit my ass looks better than gals half my age! LOL!! I just went to KC for a three day tour and kicked total ass and made major bucks!!

So take some flattering pics and put your best persona forward and you will be happy & successful...you are worthy of "hooker success"!!!

SknyDiva · 01-11-2016, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by DallasRain

Ditto with MM....there are all body types here and ages here.....it all comes down to personality and persona!

Be the best you can be with what God gave you!! There are guys that will luv ya and guys that will not....so my attitude is "ya like me or you dont...if you do,fuck me...if you dont,fuck you"!! To the ones who do want ya...give em all ya got baby!!!!

Well I can say that "as an old lady hooker" I own mine! I still rock it for 53! I may not be the prettiest and sexiest or have the best hair & teeth...but dammit my ass looks better than gals half my age! LOL!! I just went to KC for a three day tour and kicked total ass and made major bucks!!

So take some flattering pics and put your best persona forward and you will be happy & successful...you are worthy of "hooker success"!!!

You are a phucking Hellacious Hooka!! Rock On!

pornodave69 · 01-11-2016, 12:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Sexikitten

...I don't follow the bmi index bc it's inaccurate. I've actually had my bmi measures and I have 20% body fat. I work out and I used to be an athlete and than you, Dorothy. It's women like you and men like pornodave who make me curse.

I'm very confident in who I am and my size. I just find it funny and a bit sad.

The BMI is typically only inaccurate when it comes to extremely muscular people because muscle weighs more than fat.

I've been fat and I've been thin. Gained and lost a lot of weight a few times. At the moment my weight is up. But at my leanest, which had me pretty thin and fairly muscular (but not ripped), I was at best around 15-18% body fat. There is NO WAY with your measurements, with 52 inch hips and just looking at your photos that you're at 20% body fat. 30% + easy.

I'm not knocking you, calling you names or being derogatory. I call it like I see it. You asked, I answered truthfully. You are not small. You are not average. You are big. Especially for your height.

Sorry if you're offended, but it is what it is. You can either accept who you are and embrace it, or work to change your weight and shape if you so desire.

KellyRocks · 01-11-2016, 01:26 PM

Its called Reverse Body Dysmorphia Syndrome. You may not see it looking at a mirror image, but a photo shows it clearly to others. In BDS it is when we feel we look fat even if we are a size 2--we see a size 22. In the RBDS, you are a 22 and you think you are a 12. Probably try to fit into and buy size 12's.

Our brain is also conditioned to see a mirror image, and the photos do not register as to what we really look like to others.

This is very common, and can be very devastating to one's self-esteem. Jennifer Lawrence has BDS. She is beautiful, but she does not know it.

Sexy and beautiful can come in any size, it is all about how you present yourself.

Guest021217 · 01-11-2016, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Sexikitten

I contacted him. He didn't state he had a size preference. I've also had guys contact me and when I send them a current pic, I get the I'm not into big girls.

I don't consider myself a big girl. I wear a size 10/12.

I don't follow the bmi index bc it's inaccurate. I've actually had my bmi measures and I have 20% body fat. I work out and I used to be an athlete and than you, Dorothy. It's women like you and men like pornodave who make me curse.

I'm very confident in who I am and my size. I just find it funny and a bit sad.

There is no way you wear a 10/12 ijs I wear size 11 in juniors and im a twig compared to you...

20% body fat thats not right & you can't say you don't follow the bmi index & then believe you have 20% body fat lol you don't have 20% body fat its more than that..

Your pictures scream im a big girl sorry just being honest & your a big girl how can you not consider yourself a big girl I don't understand?

So again what do you consider yourself?

& whats your definition of a big girl ?

Try taking better pictures if you don't consider yourself a big girl your pictures aren't good & the things in your pictures make you seem like your hiding a big gut covering your stomach in your photos & then trying to argue your not big doesn't help your argument...

Your review states this

Small short and stacked BBW with big melons, probably DD+ and a huge ass. Small mommy tummy (although not sure if she has kids)*

You are a big girl I have nothing against big providers but like that one provider said accept it and make it work...

I think you weigh more than what you say like in the 200+ range and you have like 75% body fat & wear a size 16 - 22 pants...

Sexikitten · 01-11-2016, 05:56 PM

I asked. Y'all answered and i thank you. I don't weigh 200+ pounds. I don't wear jeans that are over a size 12. I wear a 10/12P. I couldn't wear anything in the juniors department bc it would be too long and too slim. I don't have a mental disorder that affects how I see myself. I have big breasts bc I've been genetically gifted with them. This is what I have after a breast reduction a decade ago. Like I said, I asked. Y'all answered. Thankfully I don't depend on this or y'all for my body confidence or my bread and butter. I looked through my pics and I'm not hiding my stomach. While it's not my most flattering feature, I don't hide it bc it will be there when we get naked. Please stop saying sorry when you're not. That's disingenuous.

Sexikitten · 01-11-2016, 05:57 PM

I like my shape just fine and so do the hobbyist who come have enjoyed my company.

SknyDiva · 01-11-2016, 06:30 PM

Good for you Hun!

Guest021217 · 01-11-2016, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Sexikitten

I asked. Y'all answered and i thank you. I don't weigh 200+ pounds. I don't wear jeans that are over a size 12. I wear a 10/12P. I couldn't wear anything in the juniors department bc it would be too long and too slim. I don't have a mental disorder that affects how I see myself. I have big breasts bc I've been genetically gifted with them. This is what I have after a breast reduction a decade ago. Like I said, I asked. Y'all answered. Thankfully I don't depend on this or y'all for my body confidence or my bread and butter. I looked through my pics and I'm not hiding my stomach. While it's not my most flattering feature, I don't hide it bc it will be there when we get naked. Please stop saying sorry when you're not. That's disingenuous.

10/12 Petite? Your not petite but um ok I wear size 11 & your saying your smaller than me ?

You have some kind of disorder because you can't come to grips with the truth about how big you really are..

You are hiding your stomach on a few pictures but again you can't admit to things...

I am sorry im sorry that you can't see yourself for what you are and you should just admit to what & who you are and embrace it & work with it.. Your as beautiful as you make yourself... BBWs are beautiful when they admit it and make it work for them.. But until you accept that you aren't petite or curvy you will not be happy...

Good luck

Melissa Madyson · 01-11-2016, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Sexikitten

I like my shape just fine and so do the hobbyist who come have enjoyed my company.

So if that is the case, why did you even start the thread?? Why even ask the million dollar question if you do not like the honest answers you were given??

Yes there are plenty of hobbiest that love me, love my size, but I am sure that there are some who do not... It is just the way life works.

I have struggled all of my adult life with my size.. When I was just barely 18 this was me in the military....

But as time went on and I became older I slacked on controlling my weight. Now at 47 I am a plus size lady...

Just embrace who you are.....don't be defensive. Just accept the you that you are....
M.M.

Guest021217 · 01-11-2016, 07:17 PM

Because she didn't expect us to be so blunt probably but this is eccie not the best for a self esteem post..

Btw MM your beautiful & Im glad you posted on here

Melissa Madyson · 01-11-2016, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Dorthy_Monroe

Because she didn't expect us to be so blunt probably but this is eccie not the best for a self esteem post..

Btw MM your beautiful & Im glad you posted on here

Dorthy... Like I said we all are made different, all shapes and sizes, we just need to accept and embrace it.. I wish I had a physical trainer like I did in basic training in 1987....lol

I had NO chance to gain 1 lb, let alone get to be the plus size woman you see today.

M.M.