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Originally Posted by HoneyRose
Damn!
I'm trying to imagine the mother's thinking. It's so far removed from what I would do, I can't wrap my head around it!!
He killed and injured people and needs to feel remorse. He should have their pictures, maybe not on the refrigerator, but at least in a book he looks at before bed when he prays.
(He should pray for their departed souls and their families. Maybe pick a different specific family each night. He should pray for forgiveness and also express his gratitude for his life and freedom).
I would emphasize to him how LUCKY he is to not be in jail! and that he should do anything and everything to stay out.
first~~Of course stop drinking!!! besides the fact that he's still underage to drink, drinking is what killed and injured those folks.
second~~Be proactive in checking in with the Parole Officer. It you're supposed to call at 9:00 and get his voice mail, follow up with an email stating "I called at 9:00 but got your voice mail. Just checking in." and document every phone call and email in a notebook.
How about some community service?? something to counteract the affluenza.
How about Alcoholics Anonymous or counseling?
Church, a job or school, some type of physical activities~~ running, biking, kick boxing. He looks like he needs a fitness program and probably a diet reinvention, but a physical activity will de-stress him and use some of his extra time productively. It will help clear his mind. His head is in a fog.
Even after all of this, if I had a son who decided to drink, and was afraid the video would cause his probation to be revoked, then I would let him suffer the consequences. (finally). Tough love.
I would not get MYSELF involved in this illegal fleeing mess!!
She's old enough to know they can't become different people for the rest of their lives without even fake I.D!
(and what the hell, maintain their same cell phone contracts??? Hell, even we in the hobby world know about burner phones. Have they never watched an episode of "Breaking Bad"?)
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I very much agree with the spirit of this post. I'm agnostic, so I don't care about prayer, but agree completely with treatment for addiction (there are better programs than AA, but it is fine), community service, and a job. Then, even if he fucked up, people would be much more willing to cut him more slack.