Why some married men cheat?

[Bobave]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

This is going FAR better than I could have ever hoped...thank you Solitaire...thank you VERY much.

P.S.-Remember Solitaire...the fact that you can't fathom my usage of the word marraige as it applies to my relationship with my lovely wife just shows that you are just as caught up in societal norms as all of these guys who cheat. No matter your protestations to the contrary.

Typical Wakeup dissembling. Like Charlie Sheen, simply declare that you are "winning" when things are slipping out of control, then tell people they are just too stupid to understand your munificent enlightenment.

[Wakeup]

Originally Posted by MaxiMilyen

WTF...You are married to a lady in the biz? Yet, you judge those who put money in your wife's pockets, therefore your own pockets in a manner, even as they put strange married d*ck in her body. You have an open agreement so her participating in such an immoral act makes you both culpable and facilitators of such? Contradicktory, don't ya think? In the eyes of most, I imagine that kinda places you much in the same category as "pimp", whether you have anything to do with her business dealings or not.

Just another case of the Pot calling the kettle Black. sigh

Of course I judge some of them...the ones who are cheating on their wives with my wife. I don't judge her, she's conducting her business, but them, yeah, they're douchebags. Her "participating" in the act isn't an issue, it's just fucking for her. For him, it's betraying his wife's trust. My wife isn't betraying mine, because I encourage her to conduct her business, in whatever way she chooses to. It's not contradictory in the slightest.

P.S.-I like the "pimp" part! Next time you talk to her, tell that bitch to give me my cut!

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

Of course I judge some of them...the ones who are cheating on their wives with my wife. I don't judge her, she's conducting her business, but them, yeah, they're douchebags. Her "participating" in the act isn't an issue, it's just fucking for her. For him, it's betraying his wife's trust. My wife isn't betraying mine, because I encourage her to conduct her business, in whatever way she chooses to. It's not contradictory in the slightest.

You can say you have no part in facilitating it through the mere notion of accepting what your beloved does, however, just as I said, it's not all black and white, because it's the way you choose to view it. You facilitate through acceptance that which you have disdain for. It's ok on her part, only because that specific piece is acceptable to you and the only way you could co exist. Wake up, hon. You're reality is a bit skewered and it's just, I dunno, kinda strange that you don't see the whole picture, especially since you are such a vocal member of the community and your beloved is an escort. smh Even as they, your wife and anyone else but you, "just have sex", the most intimate act two can share I might add, her part is OK and everyone else's is not? I don't know....it just doesn't fit or seem like such sound or reasonable judgement. However, I understand we all have coping mechanisms we utilize, whether they make sense to anyone else in the world or not.

Did you know that people lie to themselves, more than they do anyone else. It might be time to ask yourself if that's the case, or maybe you should refrain from calling the rest of the world liars and cheats, when apparently, you might have that little bug embedded within as well. I could be wrong, but I doubt that I am. Either way, it might be worth a think.

best of luck

[Wakeup]

Originally Posted by MaxiMilyen

You facilitate through acceptance that which you have disdain for.

So...the fact that I don't care that someone else allows married men to fuck them...is me facilitating married men cheating on their wives?

Whorelogic(tm)...

[Wakeup]

Originally Posted by Solitaire

Actually, if the "opinion" is based on misinformation, skewed truths, or a denial of reality, then it is not only not a "right" opinion, but it impossible for it to have any merit whatsoever.

You're an atheist then, huh?

For everyone who believes in a God, they believe their opinion is right...for people who believe in a different God, or no God, their believe their opinion is wrong. Opinions can never be wrong to the person who holds that opinion...only other people can assign the "wrong" tag to it, but why should they care about what some else thinks?

Opinions are always right...and always hold the most merit...for the person who holds them...

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

So...the fact that I don't care that someone else allows married men to fuck them...is me facilitating married men cheating on their wives?

Whorelogic(tm)...

Ummm....she's your wife? Life partner? Or is it some kind of citizenship arrangement or something? LOL Absolutely you facilitate it, if your relationship is legit. Otherwise, you wouldn't like your wife very much, or do you just overlook the fact that she does what she does? It's one thing to swing and share, it's another thing to be an escort with your partner's blessing.

A hooker hubby logic...smh

[Wakeup]

Oh...so you're saying that I should tell my wife NOT to fuck married men because I don't like married men cheating on their wives. Correct?

So that's how men should treat their wives? Tell them not to do things they don't like? How did that work in your marraige? Oh wait...we know how that worked out...

You don't tell the ones you love what to do and what not to do...there is no facilitating if anything...my love for my wife allows her free will...the same free will these weak men exercise to come and pay ludicrously exorbitant fees to fuck her, of their own volition, with no facilitation from me...

P.S.-You're not very good at this...might be best for you stop.

[Bobave]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

P.S.-You're not very good at this...might be best for you stop.

Damn, your freaking comments are all over the landscape. No logical structure at all.

Oh, and there you went with the ad hominem attacks again. Clear sign that you feel you're on shaky ground.

[VegasJen]

Once upon a time there was a thread about why married men cheat... I believe it was intended to be an open venue to share various reasonings FOR the act... Not to attack the morals of those who chose to reply.
Anyway, I'm kinda surprised no one has mentioned addiction yet. Not so much sex addiction (which is a questionable 'diagnosis' to begin with) but the core of most addiction which is adrenaline... Anything that provides an adrenaline rush could technically be a vice for such an addiction... Such as the rush that is felt when you get away with something... Like cheating... Just my two cents...

[Come_and_gone]

Originally Posted by JackMonger

@Come_and_gone: Your marriage is so new and you have a lot of opportunity with your wife to make up for lost time when you do meet. My situation is different. My wife and I have never been able to connect physically because of lack of physical attraction to her due to obesity and a host of other issues that have manifested over time [married 15yrs - 2 kids]. You are simply horny and jacking off should sustain you until you can get with your wife. You sound like you have the kind of wife that would be into virtual sex over skype, facetime, etc. The only thing in your way is tangible and that is physical distance. Once that is eliminated, you be able to make love or fuck the shit out of your wife with a clear conscience. For most of us, there are less tangible things that impede our ability to have sex with our SO's, that are more deeply rooted and has killed the desire. It's sad, but for me, I preferred my hand for soooo many years because it was wrapped in guilt or disappointment. Then I discovered providers and rediscovered the human connection that I had underestimated. It has been a distraction from the built up hatred towards my wife and myself for not desiring a fat lazy woman and tapped out of the capacity to provide any sustained help.

For most of us other horndogs, we are either sex addicts, emotionally deprived, unappreciated, in a sexless marriage and haven't found any other alternative to satisfy the beast. If I could channel my affliction to something productive and constructive, I would be a rich and successful real estate developer.

So my advice to you my future_just_not_now_hobbyist because new pu$$y ain't going nowhere anytime soon. Save your $$ you would spend on a provider and use it to book airfare to see your wife. Sounds like she is worth the wait.

Hey Jack, you're not wrong. Honestly, I never really considered grabbing a flight just to get laid, but considering the hourly rates for time with a provider, it might actually be more cost effective. It's still hard though, we have pretty crazy schedules, and syncing them up, even for a couple days, would be pretty difficult.

Also, to throw my vote in with some other people here, a little variety wouldn't hurt. I lived with my wife for five years before we got married and dated for a year before that. Seven years with one person is a pretty long time. Still, thank you for the perspective. I'm still in no rush, and this is a fun place to hang out, even if I never pull the trigger.

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

Oh...so you're saying that I should tell my wife NOT to fuck married men because I don't like married men cheating on their wives. Correct?

So that's how men should treat their wives? Tell them not to do things they don't like? How did that work in your marraige? Oh wait...we know how that worked out...

You don't tell the ones you love what to do and what not to do...there is no facilitating if anything...my love for my wife allows her free will...the same free will these weak men exercise to come and pay ludicrously exorbitant fees to fuck her, of their own volition, with no facilitation from me...

P.S.-You're not very good at this...might be best for you stop.

It is not my place to tell anyone how they should treat their wives and for all you know most here treat their wives the exact way their wives find satisfactory and prefer. However, you don't mind telling them how to treat their wives. For all you know, their wives would rather be ignorant about certain situations than outright know of them.

Free will? Yet you would take theirs from them and call them weak should they not adhere to what you will everyone should do as per your perceptions and beliefs? Is that hypocritical of you, or do you have an out clause for this as well? They do not have the situation you have, therefore their considerations are different than yours.

One is only weak should one submit their will to be intimate, because the partner no longer desires or refuses to be so and could care less, but has no need or desire to know a truth otherwise. People lie to themselves more than they do anyone else and prefer not to discover otherwise.

I'm happy to explain why my marriage actually ended and which had nothing to do with sex or trying to bend anyone's will. Shoot me a PM or start a thread on the subject and I'll spill every detail, so you don't have to wonder or incorrectly surmise. It was a painful experience, but I am happy to share if you are going to incorrectly indicate whatever you have concluded out of the few details you do have. LOL

Honestly, debating or discussing with you is a draining experience at times, but I wouldn't say I'm bad at it because we do not have the same mind set. Just know that I am trying to learn when I ask questions or make challenging statements. I'm just used to a more engaging and friendly exchange of the information I seek and exchange with others. I'd apologize if I seem snarky when I simply disagree or reign a little feisty back atcha, but I feel it would be a waste due to the nature of your board persona. You might admit, without being wrong I might add, that you make it rather easy for others to throw in a little sarcasm and disdain now and again, since you throw both around as if they were flower petals in a wedding parade. LOL

[Wakeup]

You're welcome.

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

You're welcome.

I didn't learn, but I did laugh.
So, thank you.

Saw this out and about on interweb, and it kinda reminded me of you...

Happy All Hallows Eve to all, stay safe, and have fun!



Your Welcome
smh

[JONBALLS]

[albundy]

Originally Posted by Bobave

Typical Wakeup dissembling. Like Charlie Sheen, simply declare that you are "winning" when things are slipping out of control, then tell people they are just too stupid to understand your munificent enlightenment.

Couldn't agree more. If Wakeup IS a guy, he has to warp reality a bit to accept the fact that his "wife" is taking stranger's cocks in her mouth regularly, and according to Wakeup, it's what she wants to do. He twists things around to almost make the situation seem noble, rather than the cuck situation it actually is.