Why some married men cheat?

[Wakeup]

Originally Posted by MaxiMilyen

You didn't answer his question, you just judged everyone. Why do You have a problem with it and what makes you think your reasoning is the right one? Why should it affect you at all?

How did I not answer his question? Did you ignore my comment above about the reasons I think men cheat on their wives?

Why do you have a problem with men beating women? Why does anyone have a problem with anything? We all have opinions on everything, right? Because it's my opinion, it's always right. There is no such thing as a wrong opinion.

I don't understand your question, why should what affect me?

[bizzly1001]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

How did I not answer his question? Did you ignore my comment above about the reasons I think men cheat on their wives?

Why do you have a problem with men beating women? Why does anyone have a problem with anything? We all have opinions on everything, right? Because it's my opinion, it's always right. There is no such thing as a wrong opinion.

I don't understand your question, why should what affect me?

C'mon Man! You made your point ad nauseam. I happen to agree with it. Weakness definitely plays a part in the justification. I am weak. So what? Does the fabric of time and space stop or something catastrophic in this world collapses? No. Therefore, I give zero fucks about some moral crusade your on to stop married men from cheating. I was never asking for someone to prove that it was the "right" thing to do. I just wanted to find out how my own rationale fit in with the wider spectrum of rationale.

[Wakeup]

Is that supposed to make me stop posting or something? She asked a question, just like you did. I answered it, just as I did you.

[albundy]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

All of these comments are on track, except probably the comments saying I'm a woman....

Yes, you quite obviously are a woman. It's not that you judge guys who feel the need to buy a hooker. It's the WAY you say it. When you go back and look at all of your various posts on different threads it becomes very clear that you are, indeed, a woman.

Let go of your hang ups and get a good f-cking. It'll clear your head, honey.

[eskimobrother]

Originally Posted by Come_and_gone

I've been married a little over a year. I love my wife, and the sex is pretty damn good... When I get it. I moved to another country two weeks after we got married (we knew this was going to happen). We've spent maybe 3 of the past 15 months in the same city. She just moved for work too, but not to where I am, so it's not like I'm the bad guy for abandoning her, we are both just passionate about the work we do.

Obviously I have needs. Fortunately, she understands. Even before we got married, she said
"You're going to be far away and you'll get lonely. Don't cheat. But if you do,
1. Don't get a disease
2. Don't get emotionally attached
3. Don't ever let anyone who knows us find out
4. Don't let me find out. Ever. Even on our death-bed."

My wife is nothing if not pragmatic, one of the reasons I fell in love with her. I haven't taken the opportunity yet, but I'm looking. I think a provider is the best choice. Fewer complications, reduced chance of it percolating back through social connections, reduced chance of emotional entanglement. I've been on Eccie for about six months, but I'm not desperate, so I'm taking the time to be selective.

@Come_and_gone: Your marriage is so new and you have a lot of opportunity with your wife to make up for lost time when you do meet. My situation is different. My wife and I have never been able to connect physically because of lack of physical attraction to her due to obesity and a host of other issues that have manifested over time [married 15yrs - 2 kids]. You are simply horny and jacking off should sustain you until you can get with your wife. You sound like you have the kind of wife that would be into virtual sex over skype, facetime, etc. The only thing in your way is tangible and that is physical distance. Once that is eliminated, you be able to make love or fuck the shit out of your wife with a clear conscience. For most of us, there are less tangible things that impede our ability to have sex with our SO's, that are more deeply rooted and has killed the desire. It's sad, but for me, I preferred my hand for soooo many years because it was wrapped in guilt or disappointment. Then I discovered providers and rediscovered the human connection that I had underestimated. It has been a distraction from the built up hatred towards my wife and myself for not desiring a fat lazy woman and tapped out of the capacity to provide any sustained help.

For most of us other horndogs, we are either sex addicts, emotionally deprived, unappreciated, in a sexless marriage and haven't found any other alternative to satisfy the beast. If I could channel my affliction to something productive and constructive, I would be a rich and successful real estate developer.

So my advice to you my future_just_not_now_hobbyist because new pu$$y ain't going nowhere anytime soon. Save your $$ you would spend on a provider and use it to book airfare to see your wife. Sounds like she is worth the wait.

[am-a-pleaser]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

How did I not answer his question? Did you ignore my comment above about the reasons I think men cheat on their wives?

Why do you have a problem with men beating women? Why does anyone have a problem with anything? We all have opinions on everything, right? Because it's my opinion, it's always right. There is no such thing as a wrong opinion.

I don't understand your question, why should what affect me?

Originally Posted by Wakeup

...... Do you see any irony in posting on a hooker board and despising beating women?

Everyone has things they believe in...I believe in keeping my word...no matter the other things I believe in...

Wakeup, you may have unintentionally revealed something about yourself. I must have missed "beating women" until you first mentioned it is Post #48 then again in #76.

I disagree with your opinion being right. You are certainly entitled to your opinion, but your opinion isn't necessarily right. While it may be right for you, it may not be right for anyone else. And it may not be a truth or fact.

I happen to disagree with Wakeup on many issues and opinions. The OP tried to better define his topic in Post#45.

Some men are weak, scared, ashamed, selfish scared little boys. Sometimes people like that tend to overcompensate for what they perceive as their own flaws. And they, themselves decide they are Judge. They then communicate in a way as to not show how weak they are. It seems as though some believe wholeheartedly in the sanctity of marriage. Not everyone has the same beliefs. For those who believe in the sanctity of marriage, then they must also believe it lasts until death. And death is the only way a marriage ends. Divorce doesn’t do it.

And since Wakeup "believes in his word"

I must conclude he is a widower, or --- if he was ever married, the vows he took are different than the traditional American vows, or --- has never been married. If never married, then his opinion is of little value in this topic.

It’s my opinion that some men cheat because they do honor the desires of their wives. Some men are strong enough to look outside of marriage to find a way to give themselves and the wife (or husband I suppose) each what they want. They are brave enough to go against traditional thought and norms. They are proud to have solved an issue. One person's circumstances and solutions may not be the next person's. They have enormous capacity of acceptance and act more responsibly than a single man who considers his own selfish needs and who doesn’t have to balance the needs and desires of others.

I noticed many giving reason for cheating. Not sure they all said the reason was justification for cheating.

[Solitaire]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

We all have opinions on everything, right? Because it's my opinion, it's always right. There is no such thing as a wrong opinion.

Actually, if the "opinion" is based on misinformation, skewed truths, or a denial of reality, then it is not only not a "right" opinion, but it impossible for it to have any merit whatsoever.

[Solitaire]

Originally Posted by am-a-pleaser

It’s my opinion that some men cheat because they do honor the desires of their wives. Some men are strong enough to look outside of marriage to find a way to give themselves and the wife (or husband I suppose) each what they want. They are brave enough to go against traditional thought and norms. They are proud to have solved an issue.

I whole-heartedly agree! There is no strength or moral high ground in being a sheeple.

[pyramider]

I thanck the baby tebow for all these cheaters. I treat a lot of wives the way they like it. I get off, they leave me with a glow. They buy me gifts... correction, the cheaters buy me gifts.

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

How did I not answer his question? Did you ignore my comment above about the reasons I think men cheat on their wives?

Why do you have a problem with men beating women? Why does anyone have a problem with anything? We all have opinions on everything, right? Because it's my opinion, it's always right. There is no such thing as a wrong opinion.

I don't understand your question, why should what affect me?

Admittedly, your judging everyone kinda overrode everything else I saw. I apologize if it was confusing for you.

You might, or you might not consider...

Everyone's situation is different, you couldn't know them all, and everything is not black and white. I'm curious why you have such a closed mind. I'm curious why you are so self righteous about it all, I guess.

Have you been cheated on, or betrayed by a woman/man, or maybe you just have a tendency to be possessive and/or jealous in relationships? I dunno, it just feels like you have more than average self righteous indignation and I wonder what's up with that?

However, I could be wrong, so could it be that you have never lied to another, for any justifiable reason, you have never betrayed another, either knowingly or not, and you do all the right things in relationships as do those you choose to have relationships with?

If the latter is the case. It couldn't possibly suck to be you, because you are so much more superior moral than anyone I have ever met in my life time... It very well could be that you simply want everyone to know the good news and you are sharing the correct ways to live and relate to each other, so we all will finally know how to achieve a happier and more fulfilled sex life?

To the OP, from an escort who has heard it all. People cheat, or seek others, because they feel unappreciated, because they have been cast aside for various reasons, because a spouse has become ill and can no longer provide the comfort we all need. Some cheat because they can, because they want something they don't have to share with the wife, because they have changed, the relationship dynamic has changed, or they simply find it too much work to maintain what they have in a relationship (both wives and husbands).

The number one reason, in my opinion, is the lack of gratitude or appreciation for each other. We forget and we take each other for granted. Pride and wounds keep us from wanting to pursue what we once had with our loved one, so we move on, in whatever manner we can and need to, and in order to have that connection, if even or only for a moment in time.

So, ya see there's a great need for this business and trust when I say I am grateful to the gents I see. The gents paying their fee is a gratuity and the ladies gratefully give of themselves in order to receive. Something to be said for showing gratitude, folks. It's a two way street, no doubt.

[Solitaire]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

Your "truth" is nothing of the sort. There is no "truth" in anything you've said. There is only what you believe. The truth here that can be backed up by facts and proven, is that these guys entered into a contract with their wife where the agreement was they wouldn't cheat on their wives. They're violating that contract. End of line.

Well, its such common knowledge, how would you not know this?

The breakthroughs began with the Kinsey studies, then continued with Masters and Johnson, and a myriad of others. I'd cites sources, but you're so "unweak" that I consider you fully capable of doing your own homework - I've already done my own.

A weaker man would just take the easy route and judge others who live differently, biology and science be damned.

[Monica13]

Sex is a natural basic intinct. If you with hold it from someone they are gonna go elsewhere. That's just how it is.

[Old-T]

Originally Posted by RandB fan

Old-T

If ever I have made such a blatant typo it was here and so I must apologize.This was to have said Doesn't not does and I hope that I have not changed the way others look at Old-T or altered your reputation on this board.
You have always told it as it is and I respect you for that. (As much as one can on a hooker board LOL) Once again I am so sorry for disrespecting you and I can only hope that posting this humble apology here and in the personals columns of the top 25 major newspapers in the US will allow this minor oversight to be forgiven and forgotten without the need to take it any further.

P.S. I feel there may be some validity in the Wake up argument. I just received this picture of Wake Up from Valerie; You make your own decision.

Explanation and apology humbly and completely accepted. I retract my comment, which was probably an overreaction on my part--WU does have that effect on me. Anyway, I cannot hold typos against anyone, not after as many as I have in my past.

As to the photo--if it came from Valerie it must be accurate. Who knows WU better than her/his alter-ego?

[bizzly1001]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

Is that supposed to make me stop posting or something? She asked a question, just like you did. I answered it, just as I did you.

Well that was the hope but it looks like you ruffled too many feathers for it to die down. Good job on being the loud-mouthed stink hole that everybody wants kicked out of the party. Your troll points are going through the roof.

[Wakeup]

You're welcome.