When is the appropriate time to.....

[Vic Kosslovich]

A question for the ladies....

I visit Dallas a few times a year and like to partake in the hobby when I do. If I'm looking for something a little different than a regular GFE session, but within the confines of the services offered by the provider (via P411 for example), when is the appropriate time to tell the provider? Do you tell them when you walk in the door? After screening? Right up front?

This might apply to services, or dress, or atmosphere, or even attitude. It seems like asking too soon is the quick way to make you nervous. Telling you too late may mean it's literally too late. In the past I included some things in my P411 profile and even asked the provider to make sure she read it, only to find out that she didn't.

Any wise words or advice?

Vic

[phoenixfire_]

Right up front from initial contact babe. it would suck to get too far into the conversation and screening only to find out that the provider does not provide what you desire.

"You want a rare steak? Better tell the cook now "

[oldbutstillgoing]

I too have made special requests from some providers. Because so many say they won't discuss activities, after I am screened, I tell them I have some requests they should know about ahead of time and how should I convey them to them.

Once I am screened I have never had a problem

[Laura Lynn]

I prefer that it be asked, politely and respectfully of course, in the initial message. That way if it's not something I offer, I can let you know and neither of us is disappointed or wasted each other's time.

[Vic Kosslovich]

Thanks for the feedback. So it sounds like my requests (which usually go through P411 since I travel) should be referenced in my appointment request. Usually there is something in their profile or in their posts that indicate that they would be ok with this, so I can simply say, "I understand that you and I share a common interest in XXX." Correct?

I struggle with how to bring it up without raising alarm in the provider that I may be LE.

I'll give this a try on my next visit.

Thanks again for the input....

Vic

[L.A.]

I almost always have a few special things I like and I just make my contact, provide my screening info, and tell her that I have some specific questions about the session once I'm screened. Has always worked well for me.

[DallasRain]

I prefer you read my reviews and then after you have been verified,discuss it with me

[ithyphallicus]

Originally Posted by Vic Kosslovich

Thanks for the feedback. So it sounds like my requests (which usually go through P411 since I travel) should be referenced in my appointment request. Usually there is something in their profile or in their posts that indicate that they would be ok with this, so I can simply say, "I understand that you and I share a common interest in XXX." Correct?

I struggle with how to bring it up without raising alarm in the provider that I may be LE.

I'll give this a try on my next visit.

Thanks again for the input....

Vic

I think that's appropriate. If you follow that protocol and she flinches or freaks you probably wouldn't want to meet her anyway.

[Vic Kosslovich]

Agreed... Generally what I'm looking for is either implied in the P411 or ECCIE comments or has been referenced in a review or ISO. So I'm not going too far out into left field, I'm just conscious of the fact that a few times I seem to have brought it up too soon and i think I scared the young lady.

Vic

[FunInDFW]

OP, I'm into some pretty kinky/freaky shit. I've found it better to just be straight to the point when contacting someone with what you're looking for (if not the first, then the second time contacting them after you've introduced yourself with a few particulars). They've more than likely heard and seen it all. If they react negatively, then they're probably someone you wouldn't have 'clicked' with and actually be able to fully enjoy the session that you wanted. Those that reply positively, will be someone you'll probably see again in the future.

[Chaz76040]

Originally Posted by DallasRain

I prefer you read my reviews and then after you have been verified,discuss it with me

yes, I agree and prefer to discuss on eccie, p411 PMs or in email...not on the phone or text.....or at the time of our session, I think we are all open enough and prefer to know your preferences.....I certainly like to know before you get to the door....

[Elise Jolie]

Originally Posted by phoenixfire_

Right up front from initial contact babe. it would suck to get too far into the conversation and screening only to find out that the provider does not provide what you desire.

"You want a rare steak? Better tell the cook now "

+1

[*Ginger*]

Originally Posted by phoenixfire_

Right up front from initial contact babe. it would suck to get too far into the conversation and screening only to find out that the provider does not provide what you desire.

"You want a rare steak? Better tell the cook now "

+1*PhoenixFire* there's a Alert thread posted by*Natalie9100* in which her experience could have been avoided had she knew or took the time to simply ask questions and or screen.

[anita]

I prefer knowing the specific request after screening. If it is not listed in my activities list, then ask before so neither of us waste time. Although ask with a PM, not by phone.

[Vic Kosslovich]

Originally Posted by FunInDFW

OP, I'm into some pretty kinky/freaky shit. I've found it better to just be straight to the point when contacting someone with what you're looking for (if not the first, then the second time contacting them after you've introduced yourself with a few particulars). They've more than likely heard and seen it all. If they react negatively, then they're probably someone you wouldn't have 'clicked' with and actually be able to fully enjoy the session that you wanted. Those that reply positively, will be someone you'll probably see again in the future.

Good advice..... I doubt my desires are that kinky based on other things that I've read and heard about. Truthfully, I've had this recurring dream for months now. Highly erotic, somewhat kinky, but it certainly wakes me up at night. It occurs a couple of times a month, so I've decided to try and act it out to see if it is as good as it seems, and maybe put an end to the dreams. If not, at least let me find out how it finally ends! (I keep waking up before the final act.....)

Appreciate the feedback from all, especially the ladies....

Vic