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Originally Posted by Chloe
I am happy to see that many are on board to make this place fun and not a bully board. I for one desire to have fun sexual banter and not waste time on calling out B and S. This is not sappy it is real people with a desire for fun times not for trolls to sit around waiting for their next victim. Those guys and gals are probably hurt souls and they take their anger out on here behind fake names. We are not a mental health board here so take it elsewhere! We are all sexual beings here and that is what it is about......adult sexual fun.
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Great going, Ms. Chloe.
You may notice that a couple of curbside bullies are still around, despite their alter egos/alternate handles being banished.
I have no doubt they will be hounded out sooner or later, with their stool pigeons in tow.
I have seen this coming a long time ago and was roundly mocked then in public, by these awe-inspiring intellects.
You have notices the groundswell of opinion against this type of behavior, and many more who do not post do not approve of misanthropy or misogyny, and simple rudeness in public.
Hiding under the fact that providing is a "crime" and casting aspersions on any member's state of mind or moral fitness is an issue that the Moderators need to stamp down upon. I seriously request the moderators to weigh this carefully:
The term moderator means to THINK, to moderate. The meaning is obvious.
Suppose their is a friendly, happy exchange going on among members that is increasing fellowship among ECCIE, contributing to a spirit of camaraderie. Why is it the moderators' business to close down threads, to watch whether something is off or on topic? That is like monitoring content like a schoolmaster, an overzealous master watching over a bunch of infants, an authoritarian excess.
However, there is a time when the content and tone of the content does matter. That is when people begin to throw mud at each other. Say things that are presumed, e.g assumptions about the state of the mind of 5 or 95% of the members. I can equally propose that anyone who claims anything that specific in statistical terms needs to put up, OR shut up for a month. Completely.
Because someone's right to swing his arms stops exactly when it hits my nose. That is a long-standing American principle. When you are including ME or OTHERS in your comments, your freedom to do so MUST become subject to moderation and scrutiny. That is the issue. If you don't like it, go away. Others have been made to go away.
[Another 2 or 10, including axing me will not matter at all, if the ECCIE gains, and more ladies are encouraged to participate as a result.
We need 10X more ladies writing in; otherwise we are becoming too concentrated on just a few posters regularly posting, and few with anything useful to say, especially me. So, axe me first, if that will help ECCIE, and the ladies. I shall be very happy.]
Do not become aggressive and think another cannot respond pithily in the same vein, and that you are the only miraculous clown in the Universe, the sole source of infallible wisdom. You are not, and not admirable at all. Take a blind vote. Clipped wings should have warned you.
That is when moderators MUST moderate, i.e. gently tone down the spirit of the exchanges, turn it away from the negative element. I liked it when DDarkness wrote in a comment, "This discussion is rapidly going south", in the thread about "Arab..". That is to my mind an example of what MODERATION MEANS. Not shutting down a thread in a fit of pique! That is a huge NO! NO! called censorship, and GOVERNING CONTENT without just cause. Sorry to be emphatic.
I am not one of the absolute clowns who make a profession of abusing the moderators as a reflex. That merely speaks of a social instinct, the hoodlums who are hanging on as a group yet within this board.
However, I am politely able to suggest to the moderators that there is need for introspection and continuous modification of their methods. You are NOT censors of content, when members are not being acrimonious but friendly and joyful. You are our peers, not our bosses. Please remember this very important point that is being forgotten lately. We are not scared children to be punished for minor infractions. Not good. It militates against all that is good in this country.
Please allow members to decide if threads are on or off topic. When people are happy on a cold winter day, adults being nice to each other, engaging in banter, why does it matter to anyone what is being said?
Is there a moral contract to a greater power that content will be held against moderators? NO.
So long as sensitive issues are not being thrown around carelessly, people are not being defamed/attacked/mocked, bad language is not being used, let members pipe up and say, stop this nonsense, get back to the OP's topic. Let us self-regulate. MODERATE, NOT GOVERN, is the idea, behind the word "moderator". Thank you all.
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