Newbie here. What screening info is OK to give a provider?

[TemptationTammie]

Originally Posted by chelseabean

Ha! Well set up or no, il answer. First, newbie friendly does not mean no screening. It just means they will accept you with infoation other than references. If I were a gentlemen, I would find a provider with a solid reputation, been around a while, no alerts on her, great reviews, someone who has invested time and energy into her reputation. Claire she blows springs to mind. Give her your info. Then, use her as a reference. If it's someone who is well known and well respected, nine times out of ten, this reference will serve you well and suffice for appts with other ladies. You won't have to give your info again. That's what I would do if I were a guy. I totally understand the hesitation of giving out info.

Very true about newbie friendly not meaning no screening. We screen for our own safety. Whether it is with previous & reliable references or by passing alternate screening. Ladies may have different items that we ask for if we are newbie friendly. I believe most of us do request RW names though, some ask for work info, DL, email addresses or many other items.

Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

I am the newbie gatekeeper! Constantly TOFTT, lol.

Personal information is completely safe with me. I've found that if I have some of your RW info, you're ugh more likely to be a gentleman during our time together. And if you're not, well then, the police will know where to start looking.

I've NEVER shared a gentleman's RW info with another provider (or anyone else, for that matter). That shit is sacred and I stake my stellar reputation on it.

I completely agree. I am another that seems to TOFTT quite a bit.
I have never shared RW info with another provider or anyone else, but if something were to happen during a session, the police would know where to start. This info is only asked for regarding our own personal safety.
There are numerous ladies that have stellar and trusted reputations.

[Windinhishair]

Originally Posted by RandB fan

Show her your DL with your thumb over you name and address and dl number.

Right at that point is when her head tilts slightly to one side as she wonders
"Is this one actually for real or just yanking my chain for a laugh?"

She'll hold back a chuckle as she says "Yes that is definitely a photo of the guy standing in front of me now please excuse me while I go across the street to the bookstore to use the ladies room. I'll be right back. No Really!"

[RandB fan]

Originally Posted by Windinhishair

Right at that point is when her head tilts slightly to one side as she wonders
"Is this one actually for real or just yanking my chain for a laugh?"

She'll hold back a chuckle as she says "Yes that is definitely a photo of the guy standing in front of me now please excuse me while I go across the street to the bookstore to use the ladies room. I'll be right back. No Really!"

Then all you are out is a coffee... and your personal info is not on her phone or laptop when she does meet LE. I like the "show me yours and I'll show you mine" but no copying down RL info. if you have to compromise . I prefer a provider who has something on the table that equals what I have on the table or it's just a bad decision away from losing a lot more that a vice arrest. Even a reputable provider who has a house, kids, maybe an unknowing hubby, wouldn't get my real name, home address and place of employment under any circumstances. Period.

I am sorry all I need is for a hoogar to get in trouble with own lifestyle choices or the IRS and decide that my pockets are deep enough to help her out. Shit, I found out that my ex wife went to an attorney when my phone rang 3 times in a week and hung up and I had 2 teenagers in the house. I got tailed 3 times in a month that I know of by a PI. I found out by catching the PI and making him tell the cops why he was following me.Imagine one who sends a picture of your DL, a work name, and phone number to your house with a letter stating" I gave him a chance to make sure this didn't get out", She might add a reference to your handle and a link to you're reviews. Dammed what a divorce atty could do with that info., you might not get supervised visits with your children IJS.

at least you got a good look at what you were jumping through hoops for before you sold your privacy.

[ztonk]

Originally Posted by chelseabean

I don't think it's true that when things have "blown up" was from a reputable provider with all the characteristics I mentioned above it.

Sadly, it has.

Ladies will do some desperate things when they are trying to keep their kids or trying to avoid time out of the public eye for bad lifestyle choices.

ztonk

[RandB fan]

Originally Posted by Windinhishair

Right at that point is when her head tilts slightly to one side as she wonders
"Is this one actually for real or just yanking my chain for a laugh?"

She'll hold back a chuckle as she says "Yes that is definitely a photo of the guy standing in front of me now please excuse me while I go across the street to the bookstore to use the ladies room. I'll be right back. No Really!"

Then all you are out is a coffee... and your personal info is not on her phone or laptop when she does meet LE. I like the "show me yours and I'll show you mine" but no copying down RL info. if you have to compromise . I prefer a provider who has something on the table that equals what I have on the table or it's just a bad decision away from losing a lot more that a vice arrest. Even a reputable provider who has a house, kids, maybe an unknowing hubby, wouldn't get my real name, home address and place of employment under any circumstances. Period.

I am sorry all I need is for a hoogar to get in trouble with own lifestyle choices or the IRS and decide that my pockets are deep enough to help her out. Shit, I found out that my ex wife went to an attorney when my phone rang 3 times in a week and hung up and I had 2 teenagers in the house. I got tailed 3 times in a month that I know of by a PI. I found out by catching the PI and making him tell the cops why he was following me.Imagine one who sends a picture of your DL, a work name, and phone number to your house with a letter stating" I gave him a chance to make sure this didn't get out", She might add a reference to your handle and a link to you're reviews. Dammed what a divorce atty could do with that info., you might not get supervised visits with your children IJS.

at least you got a good look at what you were jumping through hoops for before you sold your privacy.

[RandB fan]

Originally Posted by ztonk

Sadly, it has.

Ladies will do some desperate things when they are trying to keep their kids or trying to avoid time out of the public eye for bad lifestyle choices.

ztonk

+100

[Tatonka]

Originally Posted by Still Looking

Join P411 or find providers that are newbie friendly!

+1

[chelseabean]

Originally Posted by ztonk

Sadly, it has.

Ladies will do some desperate things when they are trying to keep their kids or trying to avoid time out of the public eye for bad lifestyle choices.

ztonk

Like who? In five years being on and off the board and others, I've never only one alert in this regard. And that involved the loaning of money, and bad blond being created, etc. That to me, is a whole different convoluted issue. In that sort of situation the sharing of personal info is likely to occur not because of screening, but through a deeper personal involvement, likewise, it's misuse through hurt feeling of some diet, on both sides of the fence. Never loan money to people you don't know very well, especially if you want back. I have heard many war stories from men I have seen, but never anything that involved these issues. Which specific providers have done this?

[drummit12]

I'm a complete newbie and have only been on here for a month or so. I'm not super active so I don't know what the hell yall are talking about with the "drama" lol...

[Windinhishair]

Originally Posted by drummit12

I'm a complete newbie and have only been on here for a month or so. I'm not super active so I don't know what the hell yall are talking about with the "drama" lol...

Uh huh. Time to toss this one and move on to the next alias in the collection.

[siberia]

The screening purpose has easily
eluded the minds for it's sole
signifigance, SAFETY.
Men that abuse the system isn't
the providers fault. You see very
little comments about the good
clients reminding the abuser to
Stop.
Everyone is involved for
improving the screening
methods. If men have very
little compassion, what woman
wants to see such a man.

Women working from their
homes have the most to
lose. A jerk could rat on her
and cause grief.
All the excuses men use apply to
women as well.

[guest030715-233]

Well said. Desperate people do desperate things. Period. Hobbyist and provider. I think the horse has died and been reincarnated like five times and beat to death some more.

"Less typing more sucking." Eryn

Best quote ever!!!

[Whispers]

Originally Posted by Jane Doe

Well said. Desperate people do desperate things. Period. Hobbyist and provider. I think the horse has died and been reincarnated like five times and beat to death some more.

"Less typing more sucking." Eryn

Best quote ever!!!

Notice the long gaps in between some of my posts..... Lots of Fucking and Sucking in those breaks.... PLUS a movie today and some Road Head!

[rockerrick]

Originally Posted by Windinhishair

Uh huh. Time to toss this one and move on to the next alias in the collection.

A newbie who just happens to be in San Marcos. lol

[drummit12]

Originally Posted by chelseabean

Ha! Well set up or no, il answer. First, newbie friendly does not mean no screening. It just means they will accept you with infoation other than references. If I were a gentlemen, I would find a provider with a solid reputation, been around a while, no alerts on her, great reviews, someone who has invested time and energy into her reputation. Claire she blows springs to mind. Give her your info. Then, use her as a reference. If it's someone who is well known and well respected, nine times out of ten, this reference will serve you well and suffice for appts with other ladies. You won't have to give your info again. That's what I would do if I were a guy. I totally understand the hesitation of giving out info.

Thanks for the reply! Right, the one's I've contacted are newbie friendly, but require some screening. The one in discussion is seems very highly reviewed so looks like I'm gonna pull the trigger. I just wanted to make sure this was somewhat normal for first timers.

Originally Posted by Whispers

Every time we have seen a situation blow up over the years where a provider got reckless with a guy's personal information, the hour before she did so, she was "a provider with a solid reputation, been around a while, no alerts on her, great reviews, someone who has invested time and energy into her reputation. The hour before she did she had "NEVER shared a gentleman's RW info..... and she had previously "staked her stellar reputation on it. "

The one thing I would recommend is to ignore everything a provider has to say on the subject. It is not necessarily wrong, but their interests in screening are to protect themselves.

Invest in BCD and ask your questions in the private mens areas where you will get a few more honest and open answers.

Within a couple of weeks I'll be posting some step by step instructions on how to see ladies without screening as well as how to be references acceptable to most for screening without ever divulging anything of a personal nature.

It is very possible to build an on-line persona with references without ever sharing a thing about yourself.

It is also possible to build those references seeing 18 to 25 year old ladies with hott bodies and not have to compromise with ladies that offer minimal screening or a newbie friendly which also tends to mean older and/or less physically desirable to many.

Yeah, the 40-somethings just aren't gonna happen for me, no offense ladies. I'm in my mid-20s so it just wouldn't feel right for me. What's BCD?

Originally Posted by Windinhishair

Uh huh. Time to toss this one and move on to the next alias in the collection.

Originally Posted by rockerrick

A newbie who just happens to be in San Marcos. lol

Welp...sorry I seem like I'm someone else but I'm not lol. Don't really know what else to say.