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Cpalmson · 12-28-2014, 04:42 PM

I have a 19 y.o. UTR girl that I've been with multiple times. Each time has been great but purely GFE in nature. I've tried to get her to tell me what she likes done to her. I guess she is so young that she is experienced in some of the kinkier aspects of sex. She told me that she just likes to please her partner. Well her partner (me) would like to be pleased by expanding her boundaries. Any suggestions on how to either get her to open up or do some of the things I want to try with her? Some ideas of have include: Greek, light bondage (on her), making a video, etc.

gregaustin · 12-28-2014, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Cpalmson

I have a 19 y.o. UTR girl that I've been with multiple times. Each time has been great but purely GFE in nature. I've tried to get her to tell me what she likes done to her. I guess she is so young that she is experienced in some of the kinkier aspects of sex. She told me that she just likes to please her partner. Well her partner (me) would like to be pleased by expanding her boundaries. Any suggestions on how to either get her to open up or do some of the things I want to try with her? Some ideas of have include: Greek, light bondage (on her), making a video, etc.

Maybe send her some links to stuff you're interested in? Also, if she's serious about being successful in the hobby maybe directing her to a provider you know well who can walk her through some of the skills/attributes she might want to start adding to the menu if she wants to keep her dance card full.

When I first started seeing my current ATF 5 years ago she was new and didn't do any kissing or bj , covered or not. OTOH, she was such a doll with a huge heart that I stayed with her. She now has a complete menu (except for greek) and is fantastic. I see her 90+% of the time.

ztonk · 12-28-2014, 07:44 PM

Try telling her erotic stories with your desired storylines while you are giving her a back rub or a body massage.

Find some lady-friendly movies on Netflix / Hulu / Amazon Prime / etc. with the storyline you want her to see. For example, if you wanted to get her to try sex with another girl, try Bound (Jennifer Tilly and Gina Gershon lesbian scenes). Also check out some of the woman-produced porn featuring Greek and light bondage. (Stay away from the mainstream commercial for-guys crap...)

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SA Angel · 12-28-2014, 11:30 PM

19 and UTR? You need to finagle it out of her. In this I'm assuming this UTR chick is a bit naive and is more sugar baby-ish....and that you are skilled with your fingers and tongue.

Light Bondage:

Take her out to dinner and tell her all the nasty things you want to do. How she looks so hot you can wait to take her home and bury your cock deep into her dripping pussy. How you are going to bend her over and rip off those brand new panties you just got her. Etc. etc.

When you get back manhandle her a little....hold her wrists down, push her onto the bed, maybe gather her hair into a ponytail and pull it while going doggy. If she responds well to this then broach light bondage the next time you see her. You already created and reinforced the mental pathways for it by the time you talk about it.

Greek:

DATO while DATY....Make her cum from DATY while fingering her honeyhole. Keep your fingers where they are at and start DATO. Compliment her ass. Tell her how much you love it. Keep DATO up until pushing your tongue in becomes easy. With WELL LUBED fingers start rubbing on her starfish while returning to daty. Right as she's coming slip ONE finger in. Keep it there and keep eating her pussy. Start thrusting that finger...add another.

Next time you see her repeat process except you can take less time with the steps.

Next time after that use a dildo that is smaller than you after the two fingers in starfish step.

Once he has ass play = orgasms in her mind then bring up greek.

(Fun Fact: The above method condensed in a couple hours is how I was introduced to greek the same night I lost all my other cherries...so I know it works and if done correctly she will love it.)

Videos:

Start watching movies with sex scenes together. Progress to female centric porn. Tell her how much you wish you had a video of the two of you. Make it about your ability to use it to remember her when she isn't there. Start with her sending you sexy photos and soon enough you should get videos.

Exhibitionism:

Ask her not to wear panties and a skirt. Go to a restaurant. Have her flash you while sitting a few times. Rub her thighs and travel further north after a bit. Lick you fingers after and be polite and share with her. Drive in your car to another venue while finger fucking her. By the end she should have her legs wide open for anyone to see who comes alongside your car. Once that happens give her a vibe and tell her to use it. Pull her top down and play with her tits. Ask her if it turns her on to be on display like this. the answer will be yes if you did you job earlier correctly. Screw her on your car hood in a deserted public place like a park. To avoid uncomfortable heat from the engine place a blanket down.

Dirty talk:

You just have to learn to dirty talk to her and ask her questions during. Make her repeat your words. After awhile she will stop being embarrassed and start saying the things in her head that she isn't saying now.

......just a few ideas.

Cpalmson · 12-29-2014, 12:20 AM

SA thanks. She is definitely SB material

Zhivago52 · 12-29-2014, 04:01 PM

I have doubts about what has been suggested. Have patience and go slowly... just allow her the time to get into the mindset of obedience and service before you start thinking about various "acts" that may be on a checklist. Again....be patient before you start creating bucket lists.

mm-good · 01-02-2015, 07:47 PM

Above all else take your time!

I agree with what Zhivago52 says about allowing time to get into a mindset of obedience and service.

SAangel27 does give some good suggestions for creating the link between bringing her more intense and multiple orgasms to other activity you want to train/teach.

I've used a combination of what has been suggested and am enjoying the journey!

I must give a +1 about doing all this well before creating any bucket lists.... They are fun to create together though when it is time...pushing each other's boundaries as you go ....