Public Humiliation/play, what sort of options are available?

[GymRat]

Over the years, I have noticed a handful of providers offer public humiliation? Just curious, what sort of options are available? I used to see a civilian Mistress. On one occasion, she spanked me in front of her sister. To be honest, and being a huge fan of humiliation, that was my hottest encounter ever. On another occasion, she spanked me in front of another couple that she met in a BDSM group with a FLR. Have to admit, that was pretty hot too. I would like to think I have a pretty good imagination. But, that being said, I don't want to offend little old ladies or minors. Am I not thinking outside of the box? What sort of options are out there? BTW, if you have a creative idea, and in the Houston/Southeast Tx. area, I'm game!!!

[actionjackson647]

Originally Posted by GymRat

Over the years, I have noticed a handful of providers offer public humiliation? Just curious, what sort of options are available? I used to see a civilian Mistress. On one occasion, she spanked me in front of her sister. To be honest, and being a huge fan of humiliation, that was my hottest encounter ever. On another occasion, she spanked me in front of another couple that she met in a BDSM group with a FLR. Have to admit, that was pretty hot too. I would like to think I have a pretty good imagination. But, that being said, I don't want to offend little old ladies or minors. Am I not thinking outside of the box? What sort of options are out there? BTW, if you have a creative idea, and in the Houston/Southeast Tx. area, I'm game!!!

public flogging in a bondage club/at a bondage night at a club

[Lion26]

Limit your activities to the kink clubs. If you play in public places in front of the vanillas then you are involving them in your scene without their consent.

I'm kinky and I do kinky things, but I sure as hell don't want to see others engaged in that while I am out at HEB shopping for groceries.

[Jagermonster]

Some guys like to have a woman tell strangers or whoever(like a waitress or a counterlady) that the guy has a small penis. Thats a bit much even for me.

[Lena Duvall]

If you're concerned about the consent of the folks who would be your audience, it would probably be best to stick to adult only venues, or specifically kink clubs as Lion26 mentioned. Also, many swingers clubs have voyeur rooms as well.

I have a fantasy of engaging in an intricately orchestrated group role play scene in the voyeur room of one of the kink/swingers clubs here in New Orleans. If you think of something fun and creative, please share if you're inclined.

[RoxyG]

Only public play I can think of that should not be offensive to the elderly and youngsters is eye contact restriction. Thats a safe one. One place thats great for playing is in an adult store. Eros, Bizarre Times, Katz, Adam and Eve.


These are my favorites for public play
Slave auction
Made to wear collar and leash in public
Handcuffed to shopping cart while shopping
Verbal abuse in public
Kneeling at my feet as I eat in a restaurant
Human furniture so I can sit when my feet start to hurt while out shopping

There are so many different possibilities with this type of play



Hmmmm..... now Im thinking of putting together a slave auction.

[RoxyG]

Also, Club Numbers is great place to play.

[ElisabethWhispers]

Originally Posted by Lion26

Limit your activities to the kink clubs. If you play in public places in front of the vanillas then you are involving them in your scene without their consent.

I'm kinky and I do kinky things, but I sure as hell don't want to see others engaged in that while I am out at HEB shopping for groceries.

I REALLY like what you wrote, Lion26.

I'm a huge fan of Dan Savage's column, Savage Love. And he's written something very similar.

If you're involved in alternative activities, keep them private and don't expose others to your activities, unless they're involved already and game.

I think that you could probably figure out a way to have that "open" feel, and being out in public, without actually being out in public and all that entails.

Maybe if you considered going to a place like a dirty book store or in Dallas, there is the New Fine Arts, which frankly ... I've been there a few times with clients and I haven't seen kink there.

Just selling kink type of stuff. But that "might" be a place where you could show off your slave skills or just being there, in character, with the people looking at you might provide what you're looking for.

Or LeatherMasters in downtown Dallas, or I think that there is a new one in Austin! Some place along those lines.

[Ms. Athena]

Many FemDom clubs host these types of gatherings as well as private parties where several subs shall serve all those attending. Certain ABSs have theme nights and this type of play is cool. Wish Houston had some of the great ABSs Dallas host..........We have also hosted BDSM nights at a swingers club, no holds barred......Houston host many local "groups" that all have gatherings and pretty much anything goes there........

[Halfbad]

Originally Posted by Ms. Athena

Many FemDom clubs host these types of gatherings as well as private parties where several subs shall serve all those attending. Certain ABSs have theme nights and this type of play is cool. Wish Houston had some of the great ABSs Dallas host..........We have also hosted BDSM nights at a swingers club, no holds barred......Houston host many local "groups" that all have gatherings and pretty much anything goes there........

Ms. Athena (or anyone else for that matter) is something like "sensual domination" at any of the femdom clubs in Dallas? Actually, ARE there femdom clubs in Dallas? Looking for something along the lines of a couple being sensually dominated which then eventually winds up being a "no holes barred" free for all amongst the couple and the femdom? Or is going for an individual provider who also dabbles in the "realm" a better choice. We hope to pull the trigger on something like this "one of these days"

[Ms. Athena]

Originally Posted by Halfbad

Ms. Athena (or anyone else for that matter) is something like "sensual domination" at any of the femdom clubs in Dallas? Actually, ARE there femdom clubs in Dallas? Looking for something along the lines of a couple being sensually dominated which then eventually winds up being a "no holes barred" free for all amongst the couple and the femdom? Or is going for an individual provider who also dabbles in the "realm" a better choice. We hope to pull the trigger on something like this "one of these days"

I would suggest since its all new to ya'll to try it out in private and more closed setting prior to taking it to a public venue. That why if one or both of you call RED on limits there is no face loss for either party.......Yes, you want to push limits but you never want one to feel unsafe or they will not choose to return for more playtime.......

[Halfbad]

Thanks for the thoughtful reply!!! Makes a lot of sense. We've don a bit of "public" sex, public as in a "adult" club" but you are probably right about anything sensual submission till we know who we are dealing with.

We are going to hook up with a provider who is REALLY couple friendly and see what happens

[johnthejohn]

Are YOU a participant at any of these femdom clubs, Ms. Athena?

Originally Posted by Ms. Athena

Many FemDom clubs host these types of gatherings as well as private parties where several subs shall serve all those attending. Certain ABSs have theme nights and this type of play is cool. Wish Houston had some of the great ABSs Dallas host..........We have also hosted BDSM nights at a swingers club, no holds barred......Houston host many local "groups" that all have gatherings and pretty much anything goes there........

[cason25]

i love public humiliation also, my gf and i offer different types of things like this, from butt plugs and whips to golden showers and anal douching. Public humiliation depends on what you are looking for, clearly there are places for extreme and not extreme. I love doing play dates at a swingers club and different types of humiliation are welcome there. A collar and a leash, making you only speak with permission, whipping you there, depends what all you are in to. Public humiliation for me is to increase your appetite for sex, not degrade you and the limits for that is different for everyone. It is always good to know your fetish friendly provider well and have a very open and talked about relationship

[Naughtyandbad]

I've gone on outings with my Domina where we shopped for bras and panties that would fit me, all while wearing a chastity device and a but plug then got to a bar for beers, when she finished hers she took the glass to the bathroom and refilled it and brought it back to the table where I willingly consumed it. Public is fun as long as no unwilling parties are forced to participate.