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Eva Damita · 06-14-2014, 09:14 AM

My passionate encounters are well known of here, I enjoy the deep french kisses, petting, rubbing, and mutual tasting of eachother. After this intial passion, comes a wave pattern of "fuck me like you hate me" fast hip movement, more friction and intensity,graabbing, sucking. However once again, I've fallen into a darker side...

...one of the biggest relief for me is a nice, firm grip, on my neck. The smell of a man, and his gruff yet refined hands on my flesh, with some pressure makes me go crazy. Nothing super aggressive, even just the placement of his hand does the trick and I look at him over me - we make eye contact as I submit. Does it really get any better ( looking up toys now) ?

Do any of you enjoy this, and would feel comfortable lightly choking , sensually choking a provider? I'm sure I can't be the only one into this (besides the gents I've done this with)

To me, it coming naturally and mutually is foundation for a great hands on experience

carkido45 · 06-14-2014, 10:13 AM

That choking stuff can go horribly wrong ... be careful
http://news.msn.com/crime-justice/wo...ollege-student

aWickedDon · 06-14-2014, 10:29 AM

What does FMLYHM mean? Lol, jk. I don't think it's the darker side of sex, I think it's natural in the heat of the moment for a woman to want to feel like she's submitting to a dominate male. Sex to me while chasing a nut, generally speaking, doesn't have to involve these things...but when I'm REALLY into a chick I'm drawn to this type of play. Its not about dominating while in the moment. It feels more like a you and me are here right now and you have me TURNED THE HELL ON so let me take you by the neck (hand metaphorically speaking) and show you how to get to this awesome feeling.

Interesting, and sexy, thread Eva. I'm looking forward to others thoughts.

Eva Damita · 06-14-2014, 10:29 AM

Many things can go horribly wrong. I do agree it's important to feel comfortable with the person, and there should be a code word. By "sensual" choking, I mean a firm grip on the neck, in a submissive manner and even position...we all remember that link in black in white of the couple going at it hard (now there's the socialsex ad with the caricatures having a threesome).

This would not be in the category of smothering and aggressive submission.Thanks for the link!

aWickedDon · 06-14-2014, 10:50 AM

Some of the BEST sex I've EVER had ended up with the girl on her stomach in the surfboard position and me penetrating her slowly from behind with my hand firmly on her neck whispering dirty talk in her ear...telling her what nasty things I wanted to do to her.

....Damn

Eva Damita · 06-14-2014, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by aWickedDon

Some of the BEST sex I've EVER had ended up with the girl on her stomach in the surfboard position and me penetrating her slowly from behind with my hand firmly on her neck whispering dirty talk in her ear...telling her what nasty things I wanted to do to her.

....Damn

Now that's hot.

MrKlean · 06-14-2014, 12:00 PM

Great thread! Instant Hard-on!

We have to get together again soon ED!

JennsLolli · 06-14-2014, 05:31 PM

Yeah...I dig having hands restraining my head. I'm not into being "choked" or breath play, though. I prefer a firm hand over my mouth since it can be harder than a hand on my neck and I'm not afraid he'll grip too hard as to "choke" me. And the muffling part lets me let loose with the vocals. See also hair pulling. See also firm hand holding my mouth open for spit/cum/dfk. Yum. Sadly...it's almost a turn-off when done halfassedly and scary/not-hot when done too firmly. Same with mismatched dirty talk. This is why the best rough sex involves both communication and chemistry.

savak · 06-14-2014, 10:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Eva Damita

...one of the biggest relief for me is a nice, firm grip, on my neck. The smell of a man, and his gruff yet refined hands on my flesh, with some pressure makes me go crazy. Nothing super aggressive, even just the placement of his hand does the trick and I look at him over me - we make eye contact as I submit. Does it really get any better .....

Do any of you enjoy this, and would feel comfortable lightly choking , sensually choking a provider? I'm sure I can't be the only one into this (besides the gents I've done this with)

OMG....i LOOOVE doing this. I do this all the time during my sessions, either having a provider choke me or me choking her back. I love it because its kind of cements a provider's submissiveness toward me and my position of being in control of my provider.

I do this all the time in reviews and the cool part is that I love how it spices up my sessions and on paper makes my sessions seem a little wilder than what they actually are. It helps add a nice variety to my sex life.

http://eccie.net/showthread.php?t=1015773
http://eccie.net/showthread.php?t=985389
http://eccie.net/showthread.php?t=984494
http://eccie.net/showthread.php?t=953284
http://eccie.net/showthread.php?t=892340
http://eccie.net/showthread.php?t=789324

Unfortunately not everyone's into it. I tried to ask a provider to see me one time, and she was a younger provider (early 20's), and she read my reviews and turned me down thinking that we weren't a good match due to all the stuff I do like choking and other fetishes.

Naughtyandbad · 06-14-2014, 10:35 PM

I am always wanting some sting hands on my throats
So erotic

RideFreeInTexas · 06-14-2014, 11:05 PM

Oh yeah, I've had several providers and SB's ask for choking. It's not something I pursue, but if they're into it I'm happy to accomodate. A safe word and good communication is a must. I watch very closely for signs they're about to go out. I am a gym rat and was shocked at how hard one girl liked to be choked, it was nearly as hard as I could squeeze. We worked up to that over several sessions though.

mrhamm · 06-15-2014, 02:47 AM

I have had a few ladies ask to be choked. I am happy to accommodate, but as it doesn't do anything for me, I don't feel as if I know what I am doing. I certainly don't know where the line is, so my attempts have all been well below the line.

I personally would enjoy a woman to teach me what is enjoyable, but in the heat of passion when they ask for it and can't explain what they want, they have instead either chocked themselves or asked for very forceful greek.

To any provider who is interested in being chocked, say something to the guy up front! When we are joined, I am not thinking of putting my hands around your neck. The first time it was asked of me was very disconcerting.

Guest062124 · 06-15-2014, 08:27 PM

A hand on my throat and one tugging my hair while in surfboard….heaven!

Lena Duvall · 06-15-2014, 10:25 PM

Oh my... reading about everyone's experiences is doing something to me. And definitely has me longing to once again experience a firm confident grasp around my throat from a commanding man. If there's communication, chemistry, and consent, then fuck yeah!

Cpalmson · 06-15-2014, 11:39 PM

I just experienced choking for the first time on my latest encounter. The lady brought up the topic in casual conversation. She told me that she liked to be choked. I told her that I've never been the type of guy to do that to a lady, but I was somewhat turned on by it. When we got to the main event during our date, she was on top riding me CG. I reached up with both hands and started to choke her. As we both got closer to climax, I could feel my hands tightening around her neck. The tighter I got, the more intense she rode me until I popped. Afterwards, she told me that she could tell I was getting into it. She said she liked it and was good for her. Hope to build on this in the future.