Providers Seeing Mutliple Hobbyists on Same Day

[Squarenot]

The gentleman was off-base and delusional in his request.

[Mr Peabody]

This client says that he is invoking "~The Golden Rule" in insisting on a non-compete rider to the contract. I am probably F'n naive, but I immediately see a more innocent reason. A provider may have very few reviews, so a potential client may not know if there will be a good match. By asking for no other clients on that day, if everything goes well during the session, he has the opportunity to extend the session (for additional pay), or even take the lady out to dinner afterwards.

Rather than wonder and come to a wrong conclusion, asking "Why?" or even "Can you tell me more about this request?" goes a long way to eliminating miss-understandings. In fact, rather than relying on texting and emails, why not arrange a time for a TELEPHONE CALL! While most people are nervous speaking on the phone to strangers, you can still get a lot more info during a phone call then most of the other screening methods.
As mentioned, the non-compete clause in non-enforceable, so signing up for one is no skin off your nose.

[austinwebdev2010]

I've made a similar request in the past. I don't think there is anything wrong with it, nor do I think I'm entitled to anything. It's just a matter of preference.

So if a lady I'm *really really* into sees several guys in a day, and I know her incall has no shower, and I know she may have a tendency to overbook at times because she is popular, I ask for an exclusivity offer. If one is not available, no big deal. I can check another time to see her or I request her to text me if she plans to work but anticipates a slow day. If she does offer exclusivity for a day, I ask for a price to buy her whole day or shift so both sides get what they want. I don't think there's anything wrong with that approach imho.

[Prince Akeem Of Zamunda]

^ How is it a similar request if you're offering to buy her whole day??

[Annika]

I never see more than 1 client a day!!!

So yes if I see a client he is THE ONLY ONE I will see that day!

[harkontume]

this is funny!!!

in this hobby it is OK to ask the following:
1. can I stick this in your ass?
2. can I slap this against your face and tits then you suck on it?

It is NOT OK to ask.
1. Can you at least tell me I am the Only One today?
2. Can you clean up enough so I am not laying in another guys sperm pool?


point is it should be OK to ask such a thing.
you do not have to comply, but why should the question "bother you"?

[Bob McV]

Originally Posted by harkontume

this is funny!!!

in this hobby it is OK to ask the following:
1. can I stick this in your ass?
2. can I slap this against your face and tits then you suck on it?

It is NOT OK to ask.
1. Can you at least tell me I am the Only One today?
2. Can you clean up enough so I am not laying in another guys sperm pool?


point is it should be OK to ask such a thing.
you do not have to comply, but why should the question "bother you"?

if I were a provider any of those questions worded that way would bother if not outright offend me.

As a client; I assume much like my hairstylist or nail tech that 2/1 would be No, and if I even have to ask 2/2 I would just leave and never speak about it or to her again. If she can't be bothered to maintain that level of professionalism (and hygiene) I can't be bothered to say anything.


That said, if 2/1 was worded in some type of role play situation, then sure by all means, be her first of the day, week, life whatever, but if you assume you paying her for an hour (or 6) allows you to dictate what she can do with the rest of her day; that's just silly to me.

[austinwebdev2010]

Originally Posted by Bob McV

...but if you assume you paying her for an hour (or 6) allows you to dictate what she can do with the rest of her day; that's just silly to me.

I guess that's the crux of differences here.

When a person says "I need to be the only person you see all day"--that is dictating. I agree, no one should be able to do that to a provider. What she does with the rest of her day is none of my business. If she wants to see multiple guys on the day she sees me, no big deal. It sounds like the client in the OP was really just trying to cock block other guys. The reason it's insulting in my opinion is because he wants exclusivity *without* compensating for a whole day.


When a person says "Do you offer an all-day deal?" or "Do you allow a guy to buy out your shift so he's the only guy you see?"--that's requesting something, not dictating. Those questions are meant to see if a guy's needs match up with a lady's menu, which in no way makes her do something she doesn't want to do. It does not force her to change her SOP. Either she can accommodate these requests or not. If she can, then I may buy and have more fun! If not, no big deal---moving on.

[Miss Valentina]

Exactly AustinWeb

The chap in question made the request, I asked him why, and he just said he wanted to be the only one I saw that day. As I mentioned in my OP, I assured him that wasn't an issue with me, but I did ask him why he asked and all he said was he wanted to be my only the entire day. No mention of hygiene, no mention if a hope for a certain level of freshness or energy, and certainly no mention of a hope for potential additional hours if a connection was established, no mention of booking me for several hours. It became quite clear he wished to book me for an only for an hour, but requesting my chastity for the entire day. I'm certain that didn't apply to anyone after him, or at least I'm assuming. Perhaps it did. Perhaps he wished to envision me laying on the bed, legs, splayed, hair disheveled, drinking a glass of champagne and whispering his name, and lightly touching myself as I take all day to recover from his robust savaging. Whoa, I digress...lost in the moment...

When I explained, and very kindly and gently I might add, that it was a request that other providers may take exception to, and lined out the reasons, it became very apparent that he didn't get it. At all. He continued to insist that he was paying money and as such he had a right.

While I offered that he in fact quite simply could make the request, and I had no objection to his request in itself, I suggested that other providers may find this rather offensive. And that in fact, he really didn't have any "rights" whatsoever. Again, he didn't seem to be able to digest why.

I'm certain some providers here would have his head on a platter if it were mentioned to them. Well I suppose he may just have to go through that , I can say I've done my best.

I'm curious what gentleman think their "rights" are in an encounter with a provider???

[Toyz]

* I have the right to not be sloshing around in the backwash from a previous encounter...
*I have the right to NOT be forced to listen to a cell phone buzz constantly and to have her NEVER stop action to check it
*I have the right to have her smelling fresh and clean as if I AM the only visit of the day (which i have no delusions that I am)
*I have the right to expect her whole menu to be available should I choose to run through the entire acronym library
*I have a right to expect that they will treat me like a king for that short period of time that u am paying a prodigious hourly rate for
*That I will be thanked as I leave foe choosing her and not one of the 600 other possibilities available

That's about it!

[Bob McV]

Originally Posted by Miss Valentina

Exactly AustinWeb
Perhaps he wished to envision me laying on the bed, legs, splayed, hair disheveled, drinking a glass of champagne and whispering his name, and lightly touching myself as I take all day to recover from his robust savaging. Whoa, I digress...lost in the moment...

And now that is how I picture you starting every day... and we haven't even met.

Originally Posted by Miss Valentina

I'm curious what gentleman think their "rights" are in an encounter with a provider???

rights? none, nothing is enforceable.
expectations?
1.) For the time agreed upon we are focused on each other, don't answer your phone, and I won't answer mine. Engage with me as much as possible pleasure for me is generated more from the activity between my ears than between my thighs.

2.) any prearranged agreements are honored. Be it something as simple as an outfit or as complex as a whole fantasy.

3.) No evidence of previous clients. I know i'm not your first, or only for the day, week, or month. but let us pretend I'm special for a few hours.

4.) be honest with me, and I'll do the same. If I want you to lie (or roleplay ) it'll be clearly stated.

5.) Lastly, and most importantly; have fun! I know it is my money and your time, but if you aren't honestly having a good time, neither am I. (see point 4) I would rather have things end early and leave on good terms with a person knowing not every encounter will be a winner and some people just don't click, than have either of us "just push through because well it's paid for"

EDIT to add:

Yeah, pretty much what Toyz said, but a bit more elegantly

[FS_ITC]

Originally Posted by Miss Valentina

...chastity for the entire day.[highlights are mine]

I don't know why, but I found this quote to be hilarious! I wish I had problems with chastity for AN ENTIRE DAY!

For me it is weeks, or a month!

I am in the wrong line of work! Hehe!

[Bob McV]

Originally Posted by Toyz

*That I will be thanked as I leave foe choosing her and not one of the 600 other possibilities available

That's about it!

All I hear is the AA video:
“We know you have a choice when flying, thank you for flying American,”

[FS_ITC]

Originally Posted by Bob McV

3.) ... but let us pretend I'm special for a few hours.

4.) be honest with me, and I'll do the same.

And I just had to laugh at this, too! Aren't 3 & 4 mutually exclusive?

[Bob McV]

Originally Posted by FS_ITC

And I just had to laugh at this, too! Aren't 3 & 4 mutually exclusive?

yes, if you selectively read.

no, if you read to the end of the line.

4.) be honest with me, and I'll do the same. If I want you to lie (or roleplay ) it'll be clearly stated.

Obviously me being special is roleplay, if I were actually special she would be paying me!