A Mans Perspective/Advice

[chellachella]

This has nothing to do with the hobby, but you know, most of my topics dont. There are only so many P4P topics you can talk about. So here is the crazy bitch asking again an off hobby question.

Guys, tell me, and I am sure other women who date in their personal life would like to know....

Should we give it up on the first date? Or make you wait? Ive always thought if you put out too soon then the thrill of the chase is over.

Do you lose or have you in the past lost interest in the woman that gave it to you the first night? Im not talking hobby dates, but the real thing.

I have a friend hooking me up in a few weeks and he is pretty cool, good looking. Im just wondering, should I hit it and quit it? LMAO

[Sizematters75]

Heres my view which prob isn't correct but what the hell...

Woman who give it up on the first date are not dating material.
A mans mind goes with the thrill of chase so to say and if he gets to the goal to early his mind will move to someone else to chase prior to any attachment can be made.

Usually when I meet a woman I can pull off vibe if they are a hit and quit it type and usually wont give them the satisfaction of getting theres.

As I said that's my view and more then likely isn't correct.

[chellachella]

Ive heard that, then I have had a few guys tell me they had sex the first night they met their wife. I really do not want a hit it and quit it, I can do that anytime, or hell, get paid for it.

[Guest051920]

I do not hold against a woman that has sex on the first date.There is no time frame on when it is best to have sex.Having sex on the first date or 6 months later does not determine a person's personality.If we have sex on the first date I see more dates in the future rather we have sex or not.

[heidilynnla]

You should become a VP and get paid for it. Sounds like your hormones are in Over Drive.

[gimme_that]

Originally Posted by browntiger

I do not hold against a woman that has sex on the first date.There is no time frame on when it is best to have sex.Having sex on the first date or 6 months later does not determine a person's personality.If we have sex on the first date I see more dates in the future rather we have sex or not.

Same here.

I think Andre 3000 said it best on a skit on the Album the love below.....

"I don't care if a woman gives it up at the end of the night,

that just shows me she's knows what she wants out of life."

If anything its a plus because it shows confidence and a form of initial trust. Even if I get to know a woman and her personality is great........at the end of the days weeks, months, a year if the sex turns out bad.......the relationship is doomed anyway. So I see no point besides just initial insecurities and safety risks to wait.

And in this economy......most guys....not all guys have a certain dating and cushion window before we invest multiple seafood dinners on chickens we think are a weiner. Time is of the essence but not really.

And if all else fails and she won't give it up......see a provider until she finally breaks bread and gives it up lol. No pressure.

[muzikman]

I like to think that I am old fashion. So, if she sleeps with me on the first date, we most likely will not get married.

[skeeter]

Personally..... if it's on the first or 50th ...
Do it when it feels right to do it .... Don't plan it , let it happen....

[DallasRain]

Originally Posted by skeeter

Personally..... if it's on the first or 50th ...
Do it when it feels right to do it .... Don't plan it , let it happen....

[dezperado]

fucking double standard if you ask me...guys, would you 'give it up' on the first date? hell fucking yeah you would...so if a woman DECIDES ON HER OWN that she wants to give you a great time, first date, whenever....you're going to fuck her and then decide she's not worth it for the long term?!!? how stupid is that?

[dezperado]

i should have said 'you're gonna fuck her, and then think less of her for fucking you?...that's just asinine, stupid bullshit

[Guest043022]

Well my wife and I had sex on the first date and have been married 22 years.Just because you hook up on the first date does not mean she is not worth dating IMO.

[chellachella]

Ive done it before and things just didnt last, either I had no interest after--sex sucked, or he had no interest in me once he got it. Both of my relationships that ended up in marriage I waited about a month both times, and the marriages didnt last.

I jokingly told this guy I would hit it and quit it, he said that would not be cool. So I dunno, men are so complicated LMAO

@Heidi, yes the hormones are nuts, its been since October, Im just not gfe material.

[bamacoach]

Never on a first date................and there was an ole movie called "Never on Sunday"!

[chellachella]

OK so not on the first date, how about the next day?