"Real world" friend/acquaintance in hobbyland?

[hman365]

So the other night I was in the chat room here and a provider started private chat with me. Shortly after that she posted a picture, and I thought I recognized her, and not from here. Turns out I did, she was an acquaintance of mine from a bar we both used to frequent. We both had a little laugh about it, and then she said. "now you have to come see me". I told her that, while I always thought she is hot and would really like to, it would just be a little weird for me.

To me part of the thrill of the hobby is the anonymity. I come have a great time playing in hobbyland, then go back to real life and nobody is the wiser. I mean lets face facts, my name isn't Hman365 and my handle isn't Willbur Sparklebottom (not my real name, did that just for laughs). Just so you all know, I have no issue seeing a provider multiple times, getting to know them a little, and them you. I don't know, to me having a session with someone you know in the real world just seemed like it might be a little awkward.

What does everyone think?? Anyone ever have this experience?

[Loxly]

I have Provider friends back in Ohio that have turned into just that - Friends. We don't have sex but we do party. We've even been in the same hotels and see others in our own rooms...LOL

[NeonFool]

The anticipation of meeting someone new is definately very thrilling. I am friends with 2 providers and the relationship is different. Sometimes 2 libidos heat up and sex happens naturally. I don't see either one by setting an appointment for a specific period of time.

totally of topic, for some reason I am reminded of a situation a provider once told me about. She told me that her brother once unknowingly contacted her for a date. It wasn't real pretty and being a country gentleman I did not ask for any details she did not provide. Funny stuff.

[3daygetaway]

Years ago, on separate occasions, I met two girls I'd gone to high school with in the strip clubs where they were dancers. You know what I did? Got a FREE lap dance from both of them. It was a joyous moment to discover that someone else we knew travelled in our secret circle. Our friendship was strengthened, but IF I would have paid, I think it would have changed the relationship, and perhaps been awkward.

Was she asking you to become a client or just roll in the hay for auld lang syne?

[hman365]

Thanks for the responses so far. Sounds interesting

3day,
This was definitely a client/provider visit.

[3daygetaway]

Originally Posted by hman365

Thanks for the responses so far. Sounds interesting

3day,
This was definitely a client/provider visit.

I'd be wary of it then; It's a precarious situation--not cut and dry.

As you said, anonymity is golden, but you should let her know your reasons and swear to protect her RW identity as well.

Then again, if you find yourself alone on a cold winter's night; there is a better than 50% chance she is too. You are in on each other's secret--if a Platonic relationship is possible (and desirable), you might find that misery loves company and keeps warm when snuggling together.

When in doubt, remember that the un-realized fantasy in your mind is better than the lived experience EVER could be.

[JennsLolli]

This is why I don't work locally. Because of my real world gig, I know dozens upon dozens of 30-60 something successful, married professionals in my metropolitan area. And I've provided long enough to spot potential hobbyists when I see them (potentially any male with disposable income, especially the 30-60 something married ones). I'm a nice girl, but my RW persona isn't overly flirty or sexual and I'd be super embarrassed to have a familiar face knocking on my hotel door. Although I do value my sexual, slutty side, I also respect my day to day good girl and professional side, too. I certainly don't think that I put on a mask when I'm in provider mode, but I certainly dress-up some bits and hide others.

So, if a RW client did show-up as a hobby client, it would be very, very unlikely that I would go through with the session. And it'd take a lot of convincing for me to accept donation if he were one of the few that would make the cut.

[jackdanielscowboy]

I meet and had two sessions with a provider I recognized from RW. I didn't recognoze her until mert her for first meeting. I told her how I recognized. She was embarrased at first and I assured her secret was safe. We ended up having another meeting. Nothing was awkward and we had great time. She has since been not seen on here she must have got a bf in RW. As I know she was seeking a relationship.

[GneissGuy]

It's a bad idea in general. I used to be a mod on another board. It goes bad a lot more often than you think.

It's always a sort of a barrier between you and your friend. Sometimes real world friends become real world enemies. The hobby can be a way to hurt each other. Even the risk of accidental problems becomes worse with real world/hobby world friends.

Sometimes it happens though. It can work out. Just be extra careful.

[Guest101314]

Personally, I like to keep my two worlds separate. I consider a few hobbyists "friends" but I doubt they'd approach me in public. If I showed up at someones house that I do other business with or a friends house, I don't think I could do the session...

[Sternac]

I enjoy reading this discussion, it's interesting to hear how much providers also really prefer to remain unrecognized in the real world and keep those worlds separate. Good info for a newb!

[71Stingray]

I agree with most on this thread. I do keep it separate and would insist on it as well. From a hobbyist point of view. I would never want that awkward moment if you are out on public with your other and see a provider who you occasionally meet for drinks/dinner or what ever and then your two worlds collide. K.I.S.S. Keep it simple stupid. However, I do return to providers and maintain a professional/personal relationship with them per say.