Too paranoid?

[Thatguy328]

My hobbying has come to a serious halt from being too paranoid I think. Everytime I want to go see someone I get this horrible gut feeling that the time I go it will end up being some kind of sting. Even though the girls are reputable and have solid reviews. I don't know if I'm being way too paranoid, but it is ruining my fun. Thoughts or anyone else ever go through this?

[Doodle23]

The level of acceptable risk is different for each person. Some guys never do anything risky and are quite happy with working in their cubicle or their office their whole life and never doing anything that can be deemed risky, and other personality types have much more gamble in them. I think contracting some sort of STD is a more likely scenario, and I don't say this because I think that the chance of contracting something is high, but because I think the odds of getting busted from this site is really low.

I'm a bit of a adrenaline junkie and I welcome that feeling of possibly getting busted. It ads to the adrenaline rush and I gotta be honest, it's a big reason why I hobby . If hobbying were legal I'm not sure I'd even want to do it anymore. Obviously the sexual desire is there, but the feelings of doing something naughty, fucking someone you literally just met, and possibly getting caught all ads to the appeal for me. Taking the risk out would make it much more boring. Just to be clear, I have never personally felt I'd be getting caught by using this site, but the idea that I COULD get caught doesn't scare me, but instead enhances the experience for me.

[joesmo888]

well hobbying is actually legal. exchanging money for sex is not. thats the thing that makes me not worry. just be smart and you won't get caught

[Cpalmson]

Everything in life is a risk-- even sitting in your safe cubicle at work. The key is to balance the risk/reward equation. You do that via research. I, too, get somewhat paranoid about a sting when meeting someone for the first time, but it is relatively low on the paranoid meter. If I'm meeting a girl for the second time, I have no worries. That's when I really have fun and take risks in order to get a rush. If I see a girl more than twice, I will see how far I can push boundaries.

[amytai]

I am always paranoid and it has served me well. Here are some suggestions.

Stay off back page as most john stings originate there now since craigslist stopped accepting escort ads. Only see girls who have several reviews. Only see girls who are willing to post photos of their nude bodies (how many LE officers will be willing to do that for the cause (the internet is forever), the same goes for porn too. Never discuss money or sex during the first date, read the ladies reviews to learn what she is willing to do, to avoid being recorded. Rent a hotel room so you control the meeting location. There are numerous ones that accept cash for payment. If the girl that shows up is not the girl you ordered just don't answer the door.

Google her stage name to learn more about her history, the longer the history the better. Be sure to use parentheses or you will get too many erroneous results. There are three reasons a girl changes their escort stage name.

1. She got arrested sometime in the past and was forced to because she had her case pending. If she had continued working under a known name while pending trial she would have gotten the book thrown at her. In those cases she will also stop showing her face as well as these boards and other advertising places are monitored by vice.

2. She has too many bad reviews under the previous name. That could be because she is the bait and switch type, a thief, unreliable, or just a sorry fuck in general.

3. She was threatened by someone so had to make the name change out of fear.

4. A lot of dancers start out using their dancing stage name and later change their escorting name because strip clubs will not allow them to dance again if it is known that they are escorting because that brings too much trouble to the club from vice.

I myself have used the stage name Ruby Wild and Amy Tai. I was a very well known erotic dancer in the Atlanta area using the stage name Ruby Wild when I began escorting on the side. I soon found out that my escorting was causing me problems at the club I was working at. At about the same time I quit the escorting agency I was working for and began to work independently. I received threats from that agency to expose my real identity so I changed my stage name to Amy Tai and moved to a different part of town.

That all happened back in 2008 and I am no longer concerned about those issues now which is why I have reconnected the two names association because most of the porn movies I have done were using the name Ruby Wild. I prefer to use the name Amy Tai now. If you Google "Amy Tai" porn you will find Ruby Wild the escort / porn star. If you Google "Ruby Wild" escort you will find the reverse.

You will also see that I have numerous reviews extending back to Feb 2008 using the name Amy Tai on TER and on the Bigdoggie.

Another place to look when you Google someone is to select the images tab and if they have been around in this business for very long you will also find their photos near the top of the stack though some of them will not be recent.

Another thing you should consider if you hobby very much is to become a member of Preferred 411 as the ladies who run that site verify the ladies the same way we girls screen you gentlemen. There have been very few problems for anyone, lady or gentlemen, who choose to use that service though you still need to check out reviews to see if the lady in question offers the services you desire. When you become established on P411 you do not have to provide you personal info to every girl you want to date time and time again in most cases.

You gentlemen should keep in mind that most LE activity is directed against us ladies. Occasionally they will set up a John sting using an escort as bait who is cooperating with vice to get a lesser sentence from a previous bust. You can bet that girl is not screening. They also sometimes use a lady cop. Almost all stings originate on Backpage now because John stings are mostly a political exercise and most often occur around election time. If a lady doesn't screen that is a real BIG red flag!

I hope that this information is helpful to you and the rest of the gentlemen who are also concerned.