do we not deserve respect?

[stacy in kc]

wow, I had an message from an eccie member wanting to see me. His message was straight up vulgar and I was offended. I simply replied to him that I only see respectful gentlemen, which is true. He stated respect has to be earned. then he basically stated that I(as a provider)was not a lady and cannot earn respect and I deserve whatever treatment I get.
Scary, very scary. He also called me names(dumbass and retard).
Has anyone else had this problem, and how did you deal with it?

[Wizard of Ahhhhs]

Wow, sorry to hear that, Stacy. Obviously, he needs to improve his respectability, too! If I were you, I would:

A) Out him in the powder room, letting the other ladies know what this jerk is like;
B) Report him to mods and let them deal with his consequences;
C) Add him quickly to your IGNORE list in your user control panel.

I know many guys in here are direct and to the point, some like this guy appear to cross the line.

[TH64083]

Wow. That kind of thing makes me want to resort to name calling, maybe even using some of the names he used on you. But no, I am too adult for that. I am sorry you had to deal with that. That kind of stuff hurts everyone in the hobby.

[Guest102513-1]

I'm sure you will share his ID with other providers...but OF COURSE that type of
behavior is totally out of line. No middle ground.

Not speaking of ongoing relationships between individual providers and hobbiest, but...

Unfortunately it's that type of attitude/and actions which tend to lead to an enviroment of us(hobbiest) vs you(providers). It's to bad, that a few spoiled apples on both sides make initial meetings to have to be somewhat under a vail of suspision or tension...but sadly it's reality, I guess.

Especially in this town, we as a collective group have a common "adversary"...just take a look at today's alert section.

But unfortunately the type a behavior Stacy had to be exposed to, and the stuff we hobbist encounter, require us to also question our contacts with each other, in addition to being guarded from LE

[noleftturn]

Stacy, there is no reason for anyone to disrespect you. You are a sweetheart and always concerned for me when we saw each other. For someone to act like this in the initial contact makes one wonder what he would be like BCD. Could be scary! Let as many providers know as possible and save someone form getting hurt or worse. nlt

[MsElena]

Those are the kind of guys I like to get into a Domme session and make them my bitch.






Please post his info in the provider's infoshare or PM it to me.

[incognito isis]

Originally Posted by stacy in kc

wow, I had an message from an eccie member wanting to see me. His message was straight up vulgar and I was offended. I simply replied to him that I only see respectful gentlemen, which is true. He stated respect has to be earned. then he basically stated that I(as a provider)was not a lady and cannot earn respect and I deserve whatever treatment I get.
Scary, very scary. He also called me names(dumbass and retard).
Has anyone else had this problem, and how did you deal with it?

I've had an email like that once or twice. Just look at it this way, you saved yourself a big headache because he showed his true colors in an email and not in person. YOU do deserve respect, and anyone who doesn't give you any doesn't deserve to meet with you. You don't want to meet with angry clients like that.

The best thing to do is ignore it. Do not feed this mans fire. Some creeps troll around looking for ANY attention from a woman, even negative. It's a game. Don't fall for it. Ignore, ignore, ignore.

[Wizard of Ahhhhs]

Originally Posted by MsElena

Those are the kind of guys I like to get into a Domme session and make them my bitch.

Ouch, Elena..!!

Why do I get the sense that DeepDarkDesires is now going to falsely admit to the misdeed now just to get the punishment..???

Sorry, DDD... just a lil joke...

[Guest080613]

Originally Posted by stacy in kc

wow, I had an message from an eccie member wanting to see me. His message was straight up vulgar and I was offended. I simply replied to him that I only see respectful gentlemen, which is true. He stated respect has to be earned. then he basically stated that I(as a provider)was not a lady and cannot earn respect and I deserve whatever treatment I get.
Scary, very scary. He also called me names(dumbass and retard).
Has anyone else had this problem, and how did you deal with it?

Look at it this way, Stacy, it didn't take you long to screen him.

Jack

[swarmyone]

Originally Posted by vkmaster

I'm sure you will share his ID with other providers...but OF COURSE that type of
behavior is totally out of line. No middle ground.

Not speaking of ongoing relationships between individual providers and hobbiest, but...

Unfortunately it's that type of attitude/and actions which tend to lead to an enviroment of us(hobbiest) vs you(providers). It's to bad, that a few spoiled apples on both sides make initial meetings to have to be somewhat under a vail of suspision or tension...but sadly it's reality, I guess.

Especially in this town, we as a collective group have a common "adversary"...just take a look at today's alert section.

But unfortunately the type a behavior Stacy had to be exposed to, and the stuff we hobbist encounter, require us to also question our contacts with each other, in addition to being guarded from LE

While I agree with what you've said here, aren't you the guy who called providers "hoes" in another previous thread?

Just sayin...

[Guest090920]

Originally Posted by swarmyone

While I agree with what you've said here, aren't you the guy who called providers "hoes" in another previous thread?

Just sayin...

Unless you can find that post and provide a link to it, I think it is totally inappropriate to label VK that way and you owe him an apology. He has been a good member of this board and not ever acted like a jerk.

[MsElena]

http://www.eccie.net/showpost.php?p=1289445&postcount=6

That would be the thread that Swarmy is talking about. But, in all fairness to VK (whom has always been respectful to me and others) I believe he was pretending or just acting the scenes out loud sort of speak. Not speaking for himself.


A couple of you guys jumped the gun on this one.

[Guest090920]

Thank you for the link. I agree with your assessment of VK's tone in that post.

[Guest102513-1]

THANKS SCORPIO AND MSELENA!!!

In that post I was trying...apparently unsuccessfully to some...to in inject a little humor with possible LE terminology...that's also why I referred day#2 as "john" day.

No disrespect was intended at all.

[Allie_Kat]

Stacy, can you PM me his info also? We all need to network here so we can avoid rude clients. Sorry that happened to you. It's never fun when anyone treats someone like that.