I've done both. Both in the real world and in the play for pay arena. In the real world, whether I am Dom or sub is very dependent on the relationship with the other person. I'm also vanilla. But I really prefer alternative sex to vanilla. So if the relationship is good and honest, it is quite possible to experience both. Although I have to say I have tried both with the same person and it just didn't work. I might be saying this clumsily. I have not been both Dom and sub to the same person. I was Dom to one; sub to another.(Not currently I might add.) In both cases, it just happened. Signals were sent, and luckily, I caught them. We had a lot of fun.
But being curious about it is the first step. Read a bunch of stuff about it; listen to what guys on here say they like (girls, too, if you want to play with girls also).
Just be cautious. The word Dom or submissive doesn't mean the same thing to every partner. To some it will mean bondage, spanking, PAIN. To others it could be simple use of words to put someone into the space they want.
Bottom line? I say investigate your desires with an open heart and mind.
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