Seeking arrangement

[bostway]

What has been y’all’s experience with seeking arrangement? Both guys and girls. I have been dabbling in the hobby for a few years now and have a few regular friends I see in Houston. I also have gotten down how to contact providers and make them comfortable in meeting me. I recently signed up for SA and have not had any success. I either get no response or a few texts in, I get ghosted. Obviously I am way more discreet and vague when it comes to what I’m looking for....

Any suggestions from the guys who have successfully found an SB on there? What’s been different abt your strategy.

As an aside, I have seen a couple ladies on there I recognize from this dating pool. Good on ya, way to hustle!

[essence]

There are some seperate threads on Eccie about SB's. In short, a SB is completely different to an escort. They shouldn;t be mixed up. I have had maybe 10 friends in UK I met through SA, and one girl I still talk to in Houston from SA.

Being polite and recognising they are young and nervous helps.

Don't offer any money until you meet, although sometimes a few dollars can help break the ice.

SA girls come in all shapes and sizes, from some who only want a platonic relationship, to those who are escorts. Find out fast which they are, and what you want, without being too direct.

[611wicomico]

There is a forum on Reddit called Sugarlifesyleforum that discusses being a sugar baby or sugar daddy. That can help you a lot.

SA has gone downhill badly in the last two or three years. I used to be able to meet a couple women a week who were interested in a sugar relationship. Now all I get are scammers and those who want to do things online.

[Fizley]

I have tried SA three times. The first time it worked very well and I was able to have three ongoing SB relationships on a Pay Per Visit basis.

2Nd time, it was ok. I was able to connect with one person and make an agreement. During the 2nd time I saw many times the GPS starting to occur. Some SB asking for alliances of $5K a moth with shopping allowances.

Third time I tried all I found were escorts moonlighting as SB. All of them wanted $10K a month. I tried to reach out to a couple of the SB to meet and talk with them and they were unwilling, or agreed to meet but then no showed.

This was all Precovid, so maybe things have changed a bit with zoom options. Currently not willing to try.

[ICU 812]

I would think that the last 12+ months of economic dislocation would have pumped the supply side or the Sugar-Daddy/Sugar-baby scene.

[pxmcc]

fuck sd/sb shit. dudes get hosed. you can get the same thing with a couple hot utrs at a fraction of the sd rate.

sugar daddies pay bills and sometimes get pussy. hobbyists with utrs get plenty of pussy, usually comped, and rarely have to play bills..

[DEAR_JOHN]

Originally Posted by pxmcc

fuck sd/sb shit. dudes get hosed. you can get the same thing with a couple hot utrs at a fraction of the sd rate.

sugar daddies pay bills and sometimes get pussy. hobbyists with utrs get plenty of pussy, usually comped, and rarely have to play bills..

The hobby is supposed to be real simple.............some of you guys are setting yourselves up to fail.

[Jezebel_Kaitlyn]

Originally Posted by Fizley

I have tried SA three times. The first time it worked very well and I was able to have three ongoing SB relationships on a Pay Per Visit basis.

2Nd time, it was ok. I was able to connect with one person and make an agreement. During the 2nd time I saw many times the GPS starting to occur. Some SB asking for alliances of $5K a moth with shopping allowances.

Third time I tried all I found were escorts moonlighting as SB. All of them wanted $10K a month. I tried to reach out to a couple of the SB to meet and talk with them and they were unwilling, or agreed to meet but then no showed.

This was all Precovid, so maybe things have changed a bit with zoom options. Currently not willing to try.

hey what about me mister. lol Im having issues posting my pics

[Jezebel_Kaitlyn]

Originally Posted by essence

There are some seperate threads on Eccie about SB's. In short, a SB is completely different to an escort. They shouldn;t be mixed up. I have had maybe 10 friends in UK I met through SA, and one girl I still talk to in Houston from SA.

Being polite and recognising they are young and nervous helps.

Don't offer any money until you meet, although sometimes a few dollars can help break the ice.

SA girls come in all shapes and sizes, from some who only want a platonic relationship, to those who are escorts. Find out fast which they are, and what you want, without being too direct.

hey, excuse me Essence. Im having issues even posting my pics in my gallery

[Jezebel_Kaitlyn]

Originally Posted by ICU 812

I would think that the last 12+ months of economic dislocation would have pumped the supply side or the Sugar-Daddy/Sugar-baby scene.

Im here.

[ms1454]

I have had the same experience as far as being ghosted after some texting. I thought it would be easy but girls there are just as difficult as anywhere. Seems they like any other site get a ton of guys hitting in them and they can't keep up. Most aren't serious and it's hard to weed through the fakes. Seems to go both ways on the girls side as well.

[michaelrayab]

First, some are overwhelmed at the attention( requests) they get and retreat.
2ndly, some like the attention they get and play it to the hilt with no intention
of going beyond just the corresponding. Both scenarios waste your time and
represent about 70%.
With the remaining 30%, half entered with being scammers to start with. So
now you are down to 15%, do you enjoy the chase enough to find that Diamond
in the rough ? I found these %’s are mirrored in other search vehicles as well such as “ skip the games”.

[DxDuece]

Secret Beneifits is my bread and butter. I've had many encounters on there (20+). I don't message any of them first I wait for them to message me. For one I don't like getting ghosted from my first message cause the site can get pretty pricey if you don't know how to work it right. You have to weed out which messages to respond to and which ones you don't. If you respond to every single message your going to be spending a lot of money just on the site itself. I've never had to pay an allowance, just pay per visit and some there was no money exchange at all (they just wanted to be with an older man). I found it best to be upfront but suttle about it when telling them what you want like saying your looking for something intimate and not saying "I'm looking to fuck". Just don't be creepy weird about it. I've had a lot of chick's tell me there's a lot of creeps and weirdos on there so just be normal when conversating and keep your fetishes to yourself the first few messages until they get more comfortable with you. These girls are young and some have never done anything like this before so they need to feel that they can trust you. It may take a meet up with no expectations at first just so they can get comfortable with you. Another thing is you have to be somewhat quick when setting something up like a meet up or date. I say 50% of them will be done with the site within a week. Another 30% within the month and the remainder 20% will come and go and eventually fade out as time goes by. Hope this info can be helpful. Good luck.

[michaelrayab]

Great advice, especially on the timing !