Donation Etiquette

[Ipthirteen1701]

Ladies, do you have a preference for how a client presents his donation? Understanding that we are talking about reputable interactions only, no shorting you on money or anything fake like a stack of coupons instead of cash, etc.

I have always preferred to present my donations in $100 bills where applicable, presented in plain money envelopes. Not bank envelopes or letter-sized envelope, either, but 3-1/2 x 6-1/2-inch envelopes. Some ATMs allow you to choose the bill denominations and usually dispense crisp bills. I have always thought that the presentation of the donation should be done in a respectful and civilized manner, just as I present myself at an appointment. It is an extension of my expectation that the lady should also be clean and her venue presentable and ready for entertaining at our appointed time.

Is this important to you, or am I overthinking things? Would you prefer a stack of $20s instead? Do you not like envelopes? Just curious. (And any dudes who want to criticize, I'm not asking your opinion, because I am not going to be paying you a visit and leaving cash any time soon. Or at all.)

[~Ze~]

Skip the envelope and just leave it on a surface she will easily see, THEN excuse yourself to the restroom. I never understand the guy leaving it in the restroom. Now, I need to go in after him and check. Where if you take care of it before you freshen up, I can verify and no time is lost.

I don't figure denomination matters much. (my fetish for $2 bills*giggle*)

For me the easiest are the dresser or my coffee table.

My personal favorites are when tucked into a greeting card or a new book. Especially when something clever is written inside the cover.

[L.A.]

I personally think the donation part is so overthought. Before I get undressed I take out my wallet, get the agreed upon amount (usually in 20s) and say I'm just going to leave this here and make sure she sees me put it down. That's it..no secret envelopes, no bathroom visits, or anything else. I just put it down and don't mention it again.

Edit to add this. I'm 99.9% of the time going to put that donation down before I even take off a shoe. The last thing I want is for her to be worried about something like that.

[SxySpanishMia]

Donation is placed on my counter(few feet from the door) right after we greet.

I don't have a preference in bills, but it's easier/faster to count $100's/$20's while the gentleman is freshing up in the bathroom.

Envelopes are tossed in the trash and not needed.

[dgc92]

Walk in, toss it down on the first flat surface, and nobody says anything about it. It's worked fine 40+ times, so I'll probably keep doing it just like that.

[DocHolyday]

Place it out in the open and near enough you can stop the lady from grabbing it and running out the door or stashing it away. The donation should be left in the open until the appointment is over. If she wants to count it that’s cool but DON’T let her stash it.

[WinterNicole]

I prefer left in open view on the counter or table. No envelopes. I think excusing your self to the bathroom makes it less awkward when I have to count it.

[Cossetan]

(Honored to be under Winter Nicole^^^^^^^.)

I keep a stack of thank-you cards and envelopes in my car. (Real greeting card type...just an extra personal touch.) I always place the bills into a card then into an unsealed envelope. Like some others do, I leave the envelope somewhere out in the open while I pop into the bathroom for a quick shower. Have never had a problem in over 20 years of leaving gifts.

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[DFW_Ladies_Man]

First time visits, it is dropped in plain view after the greeting. Regulars never ask for it.

[KeepFrozen]

I prefer to leave 50's in a nice thank you card.

[CG2014]

Some providers want you to leave it as soon as you walk in in plain sight in cold hard cash with no envelope.

Some want you to put it in an unsealed envelope and leave it in the restroom.

Some want you to put it in an sealed envelope and leave it in the restroom.

Some want you to put it in an unsealed envelope and leave it on a cabinet.

Some want you to put it in an sealed envelope and leave it on the bed.

Some don't care if you wait until the session is over to pay.

I have always paid after.

What if you pay as soon as you walk in and the session turned out to be bad and you don't get part of your $ back?

Like one time I paid a provider for greek, agreed in advance, but she was pulling a scam with all the guys offering greek and asking for the $ as soon as you walk in, and then backed out of doing greek and keeping the $.

If in that case it was paid after, then the hobbyist would not had lost the extra $ paid for greek.

As I've said, I always paid after and I have never shorted a provider after the session is over or ever said that the session was bad so I will pay less than agreed in advance.

Also I only had one provider ask me to pay as soon as I walked in.

Not one has complained about me paying after even if it's the very first time we ever met.

I have paid in $20s, in $100s, in mix of $20s and $50s and $100s, in brand new $1 bills in bundles of $100 each, even in nothing but $5 bills totaling $250.

There is no universal rule and standard.

[Ravasher]

I spread the cash out on the counter so it can easily and discreetly counted

[dallasfan]

I get hundreds of $1 bills and make it rain around the room.

Don’t overthink things. Just take it out of the wallet after the session and drop it on the table where she can see it.

Now some of these creeps have made girls suspicious of some of the guys and complicates things. So now there are some goofy request like leaving in bathroom or in envelops with $20 bill with random serial numbers. I’ve only been asked for money up front a few times and they were never good sesssions. I usually get a bad feeling when I get that request.

[Ipthirteen1701]

Originally Posted by ~Ze~

Skip the envelope and just leave it on a surface she will easily see, THEN excuse yourself to the restroom. I never understand the guy leaving it in the restroom. Now, I need to go in after him and check. Where if you take care of it before you freshen up, I can verify and no time is lost.

I don't figure denomination matters much. (my fetish for $2 bills*giggle*)

For me the easiest are the dresser or my coffee table.

My personal favorites are when tucked into a greeting card or a new book. Especially when something clever is written inside the cover.

Thank you for the input. I always leave it in plain view before I excuse myself to the bathroom. And on occasion with a regular, I will bring a little gift, placing the donation in a nice greeting card to go with it.

Originally Posted by SxySpanishMia

Donation is placed on my counter(few feet from the door) right after we greet.

I don't have a preference in bills, but it's easier/faster to count $100's/$20's while the gentleman is freshing up in the bathroom.

Envelopes are tossed in the trash and not needed.

Thank you. I consider ease of counting, which is why I get $100s. A couple of ladies I see regularly specifically ask for no envelopes, so they don't get them. I don't expect that a lady would keep the envelope as a cherished memento, either, but like putting the cover on the man or cleaning him up after fun, I consider it a gesture of mutual courtesy.


And, guys, I only see established, well-reviewed providers I find though P411, so I have never had an instance of bait & switch or underhanded tactics to make off with my money.

[johnclark]

Originally Posted by dgc92

Walk in, toss it down on the first flat surface, and nobody says anything about it. It's worked fine 40+ times, so I'll probably keep doing it just like that.

Yep. Worked for me hundreds of times. And always first thing while they're still observing me closely.