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Gentleman203 · 02-28-2018, 04:26 PM

I'm still relatively new to the hobby, so I have two questions for providers since I have a very unusual problem.

I'm a younger guy (28)than most on here, but typically I don't end up popping when I'm with a provider (I only have once). This is due to antidepressants im on and a lifetime of death grip (just lost my virginity less than 3 months ago). I don't mind - I LOVE the sessions anyway, and I still end up feeling really fullfilled and satisfied for about a week after a session even if I dont finish.

I'm wondering if this makes any of you ladies feel uncomfortable, or somehow inadequate. I've had multiple providers comment on how unusual it was, and a few seem to get somewhat frustrated despite my prewarnings. Junior is still learning how to react to your beautiful bodies is all! Second, how unusual is it to fully participate for a full hour long session (as in some combo of kissing, bj, daty or cfs)? Some providers seem to give up, and im not sure if its due to frustration with me or that they are tired!

Basically, I just want to make sure im never doing anything to make a provider uncomfortable

IMAPACKIN · 02-28-2018, 05:01 PM

No, but Ryan got a little miffed when I popped early; I guess she didn't get hers.

Brandofan · 02-28-2018, 06:37 PM

Relax and enjoy yourself. The Benjamins will dry their tears over your lack of orgasm.

SxySpanishMia · 02-28-2018, 06:49 PM

I'll speak for myself and not other providers, but a popular thought is that we want our guest to POP!!!!! I prefer they do so as if it were an Atomic bomb. Lol

With you warning ahead of time that you may not finish, but you are okay with that outcome, I wouldn't feel so bad about it. Especially since you mention you still feel fulfilled.

I'd definitely try my best to help, but if you aren't popping, you can't be forced.

You'll be fine.
Have fun and play safely.

Laura Lynn · 02-28-2018, 07:19 PM

Exactly what Brando and Mia said. Relax and enjoy the ride.

If I'm not told that it doesn't always happen, it can cause a little self doubt that you didn't enjoy our rime together and it could cause me to kill myself trying to get you there. Communication with the lady is really important though, so both parties can have an enjoyable time.

I will still get a little disappointed if you don't finish, even if I know ahead of time that it doesn't always happen. I just want to provide an amazingly good time, which can still happen with lots of kissing, mutual caressing and so on.

To address the other question, "how unusual is it to fully participate for a full hour long session (as in some combo of kissing, bj, daty or cfs)?" I can't answer for others, but if we planned an hour long escapade, you get that. I don't see how you not popping shortens a date. Maybe do a lot of research on the ladies of interest so you can make sure you're getting what you want out of your time together.

XO~
LL

L.A. · 02-28-2018, 07:41 PM

I tried anti-depressants for a little bit. Celexa I could get and keep a boner all day but would never ejaculate. I heard porn stars use it to last long. Prozac just made me tired and I didn't even want to have sex. Both of those made me more depressed so I stopped taking them (a few years ago).

Enough of my life story. I'd suggest being upfront about it when you schedule. If for some reason the provider has a problem with that possibility, then she can let you know then and there won't be any disappointment on either side.

Guest020720 · 02-28-2018, 08:09 PM

Laura said it just right as did the other ladies.

Communication is really helpful and knowing that you are there to enjoy the ride and learn more about yourself is good.

If you’re booking longer sessions, be sure to take water breaks.

Usually there is a pop, cool down some convo and caressing before another round.
If you’re booking a long session and the lady is working to get you to be satisfied the entire time she might need some Gatorade at some point!

Since you are still learning, be sure to learn what the ladies like too! There’s those of us that will teach. Don’t be afraid to speak up that you want to learn more.
Get the most from your sexual experiences as you can since you just lost your virginity! Congratulations!

Butch Cassidy · 02-28-2018, 08:10 PM

I felt like I had to prove myself when I started doing this....Like fuck like a stallion.
Many times didnt cum and would hold back when feeling the tingle.
Kid they dont care if you nut fast just let it go...One great thing about the thai girls I used to see is theyd massage you after the nut

pistol shot · 02-28-2018, 08:24 PM

I know from experience Laura is speaking the truth!

203, don’t sweat it. For another reason but I have the same issue. If it bothers a provider, forget her and move on. There are lots of providers that have no problem with it and will still make you feel wonderful.

Laura is one of them. I recommend her highly, she’s a sweetheart.

Also, give Wellbutrin a try instead of what you’re on. It’s the one anti-depressant that has shown not to cause that problem with many folks. Be careful if you stop cymbalta to make the change. Coming off of it is a little spooky.

Good luck to you.

LustyBustyGina38FF · 02-28-2018, 08:59 PM

Just be upfront about it and just come to enjoy the time and have fun .. when your put to much on yourself about the issuer
it will just make it harder to relax and have good time,,

Just think it may just happen when you least think it will
just let your body go with the enjoyment you get out of and go with the flow see what happens and learn from it

Learn You Body Is The Best Thing You Can Do , teach yourself what you like as to what will makes you get to the edge !
No I Don't Get Offended...

TexTushHog · 02-28-2018, 10:02 PM

Living without coming is a hell of a lot better than living with depression. That being said, and depending on how much trouble you had getting your anti-depressant mix just right, talk to your phychiatrist. Some SSRI’s and SSNRI’s are worse than others in this department. And sometimes the nerve routes regrow. That happened for me. I went from premature ejaculation before SSRI’s to better than average stamina. (And much improved mood!). I was I. hog heaven (pardon the pun).. But the nerve pathways regrew and I went back to being quick on the draw. Then switching to SSNRI’s (when my SSRI’s stopped working) really made me revert to pre SSRI form.

The point is, however, that adjustments to your meds may be able to help, and may be in the cards in any event. The good news is sex, orgasmic or otherwise, produces dopamine and other neurotransmitters which is good for your depression. Keep on fucking. It could save your life.

Laura Lynn · 03-01-2018, 06:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TexTushHog

Keep on fucking. It could save your life.

That needs to be on a billboard!

And thank you pistol, you're too kind 😙

darkwader · 03-01-2018, 07:56 AM

you need to pay double

papoo1986 · 03-01-2018, 10:59 AM

Even If u walk in the door drop donation and walk back out the door theyll actually be happier

Sir Axl · 03-02-2018, 09:14 AM

I’m in my early 30s and it happened once about a year ago. She was the youngest provider I ever saw and one the hottest i had seen. The provider got very bitchy and took it as an insult, saying all these belittling comments to me. I really didn’t know what the hell was going on since it had never happened to me before. and we almost got into a heated arguement. She was a highly reviewed provider and I was baffled by her reactions to this.

In my case, it turns out I was coming down with something. Later that day, I felt awful like I was getting the flu(it wasn’t the flu, but it still wiped me out for a few days). It was my least favorite session.