Let me see if I can summarize...
Unless you've read that the provider does it... don't assume...
Guys like women who smell good, shave and generally look like the erotic fantasy whose time we are paying for... (I'm MEGA DITTO on shaving your legs, I'm a leg person and... yeah)
Make sure you don't put potentially burning substances near a sensitive pussy
I'll add...
To don't.
Don't not communicate in a polite customer service oriented manner. There are ways to say, "I don't do that sweetie, but I LOVE doing this!" (maybe just like that). Holly is a good example of someone who took a negative and made it a positive - good marketing skills there
Provider attitude and communication can often make up for many many things.