I gotta be in charge

[guest123009]

I think I just had an epiphany. Although I fantasize about my wife doing some of the heavy lifting during lovemaking (no pun intended - well maybe), I think that I don't really enjoy receiving. I have been looking back over all the sessions I have had with different ladies and thinking about the times I did not orgasm. Invariably, it was because SHE was doing all the work and I was just receiving. It was only until I was in the driver's seat that I could get my mind off how stupid I must look to really enjoy myself.

On top of that, I am only physically aroused if I believe she is aroused. This may be from years of conditioning at the FatMan house. My wife gets multiples and I get my one. I admit, I like it that way actually. Pounding for a solid hour is beyond my abilities. So lots of foreplay and kissing. Then just a few minutes of actual intercourse and I will pop.

Is this usual?

[MaxiMilyen]

yes...it's the norm I've found, but there are those who want to dive right in and "get their money's worth" right up until the last minute and will want to "pop" more than once. Either approach is fine, but I personally enjoy the foreplay, intimate touching and kissing before the "final approach". I think most women do, but understand that a lot of fellas have limited play time in this lifestyle and want to take advantage of that.