Any other "attached" guys finding it harder to hobby these days?

[Mr. E. mann]

I’m an Austin Eccie member that decided to create this phony name for this post.
Please understand that I love Austin providers and I’m loyal to Austin providers
and this is by no means a rant against them. (In fact other Texas cities can keep their “hard bodies”. I love that Austin has more soft, curvy and naturally busty girls.)

I just wanted to hear what other “attached” guys and providers have to say about this.

Is it just me, or is it getting harder and harder for “attached” guys to umm “hobby discreetly by planning.” I’ve been doing this off and on for almost 5 years and recently I’ve experienced a lot of flake outs and just weird hours on behalf of the providers.

I’ll be %100 honest, I’m attached and if I’d like to see a provider with some extra
spending cash, it has to be a METICULOUSLY planned event that’s very carefully timed. Even to the point where I come up with an alibi and pretend to spend the cash days before. Yeah, I’m THAT careful. I’m seriously not on a short leash or anything, I just want it to be completely air tight. Surely I’m not alone in this.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve had three girls and an AGENCY give off the vibe that I was crazy for simply wanting to book a few days in advance. Yeah, this afternoon I was interested in an agency girl for this coming Tuesday afternoon
I called them wanting to pre-book and the guy almost laughed at me. “Call me Tuesday
morning, I’ll know her schedule for the day.” REALLY, DUDE!!? REALLY!?
I’m about to drop three hundred bills on your agency and you can’t even give me
a two day pre-book!? Then the my previous attempt before that I contacted a certain busty provider that “preferred pre-booking”. I contacted her THREE days before
my requested date and she says “text me the night before.” And this was a well reviewed, well respected provider here! Do these people have any idea how hard it is for some of us to take time from our busy lives to do this sort of thing?? You tell me!!

And on top of that, there’s an abundance of curvy cuties on backpage that I KNOW are legit from reviews here, and almost all of them are “no text or email”. REALLY DUDE!?
REALLY!? You mean to tell me that in these modern times when even homeless people have smart phones, you can’t create and email address for those that don’t want your phone number in their cel phone records!? Or those that can’t spend the time to keep calling you all day because you won’t answer. And DEFINITELY for those that cannot leave a voicemail for you to call us back. No email?? How the hell are they even posting daily to begin with?? Surely these girls that are decently reviewed here and raking in two hundred per session aren’t living under the bridge posting at the public library. Or maybe they are? You tell me!

AND ON TOP OF THAT.. a lot of the curvy cuties on BP, CL and here have this crazy
Mon-Fri nothing after 6pm crap. REALLY, DUDE!!? REALLY!!? Oh that’s really convenient for average joes that oh, I don’t know…WORK FOR A f*CKING LIVING!!!! Do these girls turn into pumpkins at sunset or what!!!???? You tell me!
I know providers have lives too, but wouldn’t you assume that about %75 percent of your clientele work during business hours?

All I’m saying is that a lot of us aren’t millionaire playboys with endless time to spare and we’re also not girlfriend-less losers with endless time to spare. We’re just down the middle average joes that do this on the sneak for the sexual thrill of it all.

So please, have somewhat of a semblance of respect for our time and our need for absolute discretion.

Is there anyone out there that feels my pain?

p.s- To be absolutely fair, I know a lot of the providers that take the time to post in the co-ed threads DO provide email and pre-book. But it’s only a handful.

[Utanks]

Hey there. Being 'attached' as well, I can empathize with scheduling constraints regarding my time and ability to go hobbying and wanting to know that the market is flexible to my desires. I haven't ventured very often with Escorts because in my experience a. immediacy usually meant agency routes which are pricier and YMMV, and b. independents historically aren't prompt call backers and/or want references prior to seeing you.

Obviously, the market has flexibility. MP's are going to be the most flexible way to find something in a snap. I also love going to SC's in order to just enjoy a hot sexy gal and know that it will always be available when I have free time to spare.

Since being on this site, though, I've noticed you can find quite a bit of escorts that have very broad hours, newbie friendly, well reviewed with their prompt call backs, and in several ads numerous ways to contact them (email/IM). I hear what you're saying, but at the same time, I think you need to put a restaurant analogy to your situation. If you want something immediate, that doesn't get any faster than fast food/deli (SC or MP), and of course what you receive with that level of service will be pretty much as expected.

If you want to have an Applebee's type experience, where you can call ahead but pretty much you still only deal with that day, well that would be agency convenience.

If you want a 4 or 5 star dining experience, planned in advance, and have the money to indulge yourself, then you need to take the time with a low-volume independent beauty, but know that the scheduling process is going to take an investment of time on your part as well since they are not going to necessarily be available to answer your call/email/inquiry immediately (similarly to how you can't call a 5 star restaurant at 6am to plan a reservation).

[JennsLolli]

Hmm. Well it is obvious that you are frustrated, and that is never good. The world could do without more frustration and stress, that's for sure! I am surprised that you have been pushed off so much, as I always preferred pre-bookings, as it helped me feel less anxious about the week ahead and it helped to coordinate working times when I shared an incall with another, more popular provider.

That being said, there are a handful of women who are most definitely unavailable in certain hours because of their own hectic schedules/lives. Just as you have to juggle around your SO and your job, they have to juggle around their relationships, mothering duties, and other professional obligations. The work ethic of the gals varies dramatically, as some view this as a full time-real deal gig and others view it as a cushy supplemental income. Neither is the correct viewpoint and naturally the market will solve for the parts where it needs to solve.

So, hmmm. I guess it might help to keep looking? If all else fails, you should use your "already spent" money on a fancy-pants massage or a trip to P10 and maybe get a similar experience out of the deal. If you're as aggravated as you appear to be, I would go for the massage -- at least if you find yourself unable to hook-up with one of the curvy adorables.

[Guest120311-2]

Originally Posted by Mr. E. mann

Over the past few weeks, I’ve had three girls and an AGENCY give off the vibe that I was crazy for simply wanting to book a few days in advance.

AND ON TOP OF THAT.. a lot of the curvy cuties on BP, CL and here have this crazy
Mon-Fri nothing after 6pm crap. REALLY, DUDE!!? REALLY!!? Oh that’s really convenient for average joes that oh, I don’t know…WORK FOR A f*CKING LIVING!!!! Do these girls turn into pumpkins at sunset or what!!!

p.s- To be absolutely fair, I know a lot of the providers that take the time to post in the co-ed threads DO provide email and pre-book. But it’s only a handful.

Hi Mr.Mann, Since you asked, I'll put my own 2 cents in. I am in the "handful" of ladies that prebook and email. Some of my gentlemen friends schedule a couple of months out knowing thats their window of opportunity or when they'll be in Austin again. Most friends schedule 3 to 5 days in advance. I also see many same day/last minute guys,(last minute, if I've seen before). Planning ahead works well for me personally. The fellow gets the day and time he wants and I know what my week looks like at a glance. My last minute guys are a welcome surprise but I hate when I have to turn them away when they text or call me because someone else planned ahead. But some don't always have the luxury of knowing when they will get out or just like the spontaneity and I'd rather see them last minute than not at all.

I've never understood the reason why some don't prebook? Perhaps someone will respond to your post will give us some in-site.

AND DUDE, Call me a pumpkin! I'm a M-F 7am to 6pm gal for a few reasons. First, I'm an early bird. My energy level is much higher (read, better for you!) before sunset. Second, most of my gentlemen friends are professional types with somewhat flexible hours during the day. They can easier steal away during the busy work day for a meeting or lunch than they can after 6pm when their S.O. is expecting them at home.There are a few hobbyists that I see earlier than 7am because it fits their schedules better. Thirdly, I'm located downtown where parking isn't a problem during the day but sometimes after 6 is hard. And lastly,those hours work best with my "real life" which we all know is important as well.

I hear your frustration! There are many fine smart ladies here to choose from. You've just contacted the ones that don't quite fit your criteria. Keep trying, I'm sure there's someone out there for ya!
Tess

[Guest090111-4]

I have similar challenges but not from being attached but rather work. My work schedule creates a lot of scheduling difficulties. I work a lot with China/India so my schedule is shifted in the day to a lot of afternoon and evening meetings. Therefore my window to get out and have some fun is limited to late mornings or noon. I typically can't meet after lunch or at night. When I'm finally done with work late at night I'm ready to crash - not hobby. The weekends are also difficult since that is really the only time to get personal stuff done and catch up with friends. Also I need to schedule a bit in advance to make sure my calendar is blocked before some nucklehead schedules me for a morning meeting :-)

I have found several ladies interested in scheduling in advance and interested in morning appointments. It just takes a little more looking. Some ladies appreciate the advanced scheduling since it provides ample time for screening. I have found more professionalism here on ECCIE than on the BP.

[Artie Lange]

your time doesn't mean shit to anyone but you. You would thinck most people would rather book something in advance rather than wait on the phone.

[guest072811]

Thank you Tess, you have class as always.

I also, LOVE pre-booking as it gives me a chance to plan for real life and this life. I think that your issue Mr. E Mann is that you are allowing yourself to become frustrated in the process when what you are looking for can be found. I am curious, when you contacted the providers did you explain your situation? Sometimes an email will go a long way. If a lady knows that you are interested scheduling can sometimes be easier with an little info. I have certain persons that I will make arrangements to see outside of what is considered normal hours if I know why.

As far as my .02 on why you may have struck out so far...there is a high rate of NC/NS among some who make appointments or inquire about appointments and then never come through. Perhaps this was it. Just speculating.

Try again, I think you can make it work as you already have very good planning!

KJ

[tcreative2]

Originally Posted by Mr. E. mann

I’m an Austin Eccie member that decided to create this phony name for this post.

Mr mann;

If you've created a second handle to write this post you've committed a serious violation of the board guidelines. Mulitiple handles are a big no-no for any reason. I'd seriously suggest you contact the mod-staff with an explination and promise to not do this again ...... request that the second handle be disabled. As you're not gaming the board for an agenda and obviously have no ill intent you'll not see any problems.

[lisa.lisa0302]

Are you frustrated or what....goodness......sorry

I do not like to pre-book, i love last minute callers aka im on the way callers, those callers generally make the appt.

In my experience, gentlemen who pre-book, never show up, they are shopping around, and i have no problems with that, but don't pre-book until your mind is made up. Also in my experience guys who pre-book try to get me to talk about sex and what postions are we going to do. Gross.

You mention back Bp, or CL, well i would happily send you my phone where guys text stuff like " i wanna fuk you", or something totally inappropriate. Emails are the same way, its filled with dirty talk. With no mention on booking appts. Delete, delete, delete. Also some gals use hobby pre-paid phones, texts cost. Imagine getting 20 inappropriate texts at 10 cents a text. Most of the times texting never leads to anything anyway.

I can only speak for myself as far as mornings, and i am with Tess here, im an early bird, im wide awake, feeling refreshed, aware. Most of the guys are day people, they see me on the way or right after work. In the evenings i am working on my homework.

Here is a solution to your problem

PM a gal, ask her if she yahoo, aol, whatever, that way the communication is always there. If she feels comfortable enough, you can text or call her.

If you call a girl off bp, or cl, tell her your date of availability, if she agrees kudos, if not its plenty more fish in the sea. Good providers understand the position of a married man and she should accommodate you.

Just my thoughts

Good luck, i hope you find what you are looking for.

[RALPHEY BOY]

looks like just another bs thread to stir the pot...

[gjetson]

Damn DUDE, you need to get laid! Oh wait, that's what you're trying to do.

Take the advice you're seeing here. Eventually you will find one that does respect your time and $$$. They become your ATFs.

[Britttany_love]

I personally do not book in advance either. I have in the past but 90 percent of the time the gent doesn't show because he forgot or cancels at the last minute which puts you out cause there could be others wanting to see you. I to end my days early as i have a full time job and a normal life outside of this all.

[GneissGuy]

Maybe those ladies who don't want to take long term appointments could reserve the guys time slot and tell him that he has to call x hours ahead of time to keep his time slot. Or make a final appointment the day before. Be sure to send him an e-mail or PM clearly saying this.

Of course that has its own set of problems.

Remember though, that a lot of guys don't have the flexibility to hobby anytime they want and have to go to a lot of trouble ahead of time to schedule an appointment. It's really a pain when you have that rare opportunity spoiled because the lady flakes out and doesn't keep an appointment.

Imagine the guy who has one day off work who loses his chance because the lady just decides to go shopping instead.

[Mokoa]

Originally Posted by Mr. E. mann

I’m an Austin Eccie member that decided to create this phony name for this post.
Please understand that I love Austin providers and I’m loyal to Austin providers
and this is by no means a rant against them. (In fact other Texas cities can keep their “hard bodies”. I love that Austin has more soft, curvy and naturally busty girls.)

You state that your post is "by no means a rant against them," but that is exactly what it is. When a post that is obviously a rant starts with a claim that it is not, that gives me...



It also means that what usually follows may need a warning such as...

[Carl]

Originally Posted by Mr. E. mann

I’m an Austin Eccie member that decided to create this phony name for this post.

Royal? Is that you?

BTW, mystery man .... Mr. E. mann ... très mignon.