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Hot to Trot Daphne · 12-07-2010, 12:02 AM

When you know that a provider also provides domme/fetish services? I resemble that description and sometimes have guys either tell me that they are intimidated by this or ask half jokingly after they make an appointment "you're not going to try to stick anything in my ass are you?". The answer to that is of course not, unless that's what floats your boat. If a gentleman contacts me for a session and does not indicate that a BDSM session is what he's coming for I won't introduce any aspect of it unless he asks.

FTR, strap on play is only one of the many aspects of BDSM, but that is for another thread. For all intent and purposes for this this thread, here is a rough description of terms for those that may not be familiar. Links: What is BDSM? What are fetishes?

Some providers, as most people are in general, are multifaceted. I have the sweet, soft, and romantic side to me, and then there is my extra kinky twin. At times, I can be both. Catering to all sides of our sexuality is what I enjoy most about this hobby of ours.

So back to my original question: Does knowing a provider's other sexual interests that may be considered outside of the realm of vanilla have a bearing on how you perceive they will be BCD?

Trey · 12-07-2010, 01:02 AM

Sometimes girls can't switch very well had great looking girl once like that. She was on my mind for a long time (aspd days) finally saw her she next to kicked my ass had no idea she was a mistress type girl. Now if I was ready for it I might of been into it but most of the time I like to have control. She was hot though we did our best but not a great time for anyone. So did not go well I was still kinda new to the hobby then, now I would have researched her more. Also today I would like to try the mistress thing but I still want to get laid. For me I never know how to tell if the girl is just looking to whip some ass and not give up the ass. I'm down to try almost anything but I gotta be getting me some at the end. Kinda why I hate AMP's go through all that bull and girl says no or next time.

At this time I'm not worried when I see mistress in the ad if I see normal reviews. Some dudes may be put off by it and think girl will be "manly" as she puts off strong image. Most guys like a girly girl image all the way less they may feel a bit intimidated.

PhantomofTheOpera · 12-07-2010, 01:13 AM

You can spank my ass but you aren't kicking my ass.

GymRat · 12-07-2010, 01:15 AM

Houston used to have a provider many years ago named Mistress Abby St. Claire. When she first arrived, she was strictly Pro Domme, although her sessions as a Pro Domme often included many extras as well as full service. At the very least, she wouldn't waste her time having you lick her boots. She could find better places to put your tongue to good use.
Before she moved back to Great Britain, she advertised as both a Domme and "conventional" escort. Trust me, she had no problems booking appointments. And she wasn't stunningly attractive. She was fairly attractive, and easily in her late 30's, possibly early forties.
To answer your question, I don't think offering BDSM activities should have an effect on your business, assuming you review well in traditional activities as well.

oldsalt · 12-07-2010, 06:35 AM

Let's just say I wouldn't turn my back on you. :-).
Now would I get down and worship, oh yes.

Brooke Wilde · 12-07-2010, 06:40 AM

Anyone who decides not to see you because you also offer BDSM ... well it's their loss.

boardman · 12-07-2010, 07:17 AM

Yes, no, maybe.

Timk48 · 12-07-2010, 08:34 AM

I would see a provider in a different light. More talented. And I don't like being dominated.

oilfieldscum · 12-07-2010, 09:22 AM

Does a hobbyist ever know the "true side of a provider"? After all it is a perfomance isn't it. The fact that a provider does BDSM is just another character from her repertoire.

Don T. Lukbak · 12-07-2010, 10:30 AM

Naw, I wouldn't give a shit...IF she follows my orders. Otherwise I'm outta there.

It's the Fag Hags and the ones who keep trannies in their closets I don't want any truck with. Don't get me started on gang bangs...homosexual activity in disguise...just a circle jerk with an alibi.

blowpop · 12-07-2010, 10:55 AM

The short answer: It depends.

The longer answer: I love confident women, but dominant women aren't my thing. While I've known a handful of dommes who had no problem letting out their more feminine sides (and Abby certainly falls into that category) I've found that this is often not the case. So for me, the fact that a provider also does domme sessions is not a plus. It may not be a dealkiller, though.

LexusLover · 12-07-2010, 11:00 AM

There is a distinction between a female who engages in the activities because the man enjoys it, and the female who engages in the activities because she enjoys watching men be miserable.

Having written that, personally I prefer the philosophy a very smart guy shared with me once ...

Seek pleasure, avoid pain.

tbone2u · 12-07-2010, 12:00 PM

It would make a difference to me

GymRat · 12-07-2010, 12:25 PM

Ahhh...it just occurred to me, Red Robin offered both vanilla and BDSM play, she was very popular here.

guest063011 · 12-07-2010, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Timk48

I would see a provider in a different light. More talented. And I don't like being dominated.

Or you could see her as one heck of a business woman.

Quote:

Originally Posted by oilfieldscum

Does a hobbyist ever know the "true side of a provider"? After all it is a perfomance isn't it. The fact that a provider does BDSM is just another character from her repertoire.

So in your opinion you think it is okay for a provider to have multiple personalities??? With the exception of Raven, Alex, and M***y that is...